Life

[uncreativename]

I've been meaning to post this for a while. im 16 and i feel rlly rlly depressed. i procrastinate all the time with my work, my mum screams at me the whole time as i'm "lazy" and can't do anything right. i put pressure on myself to be the best at some of my subjects at school and get angry at myself if i fail to do something as well as i want to. i feel like i'm drowning in a sea of essays and exams and i feel like i have no me time anymore. i compensate by getting distracted on the net and going on messenger and my emails or forums. this forum is probably the only beneficial one to me actually! i go to bed every night at about 12:30 at night and get up at about 6:30 ish every day. this happens even at the weekends and im not always working til then. i cant seem to get into bed on time. it's a vicious cycle i can't escape.
then there's my bf..sometimes he gets me depressed when he is and ocassionally he rlly pees me off. normally we have a gr8 relationship, but he's a bit of a distraction and fones me evry night for an hr long chat!! my parents get so annoyed.
finally, im just completely depressed about life. sometimes i cry for no reason...perhaps if im tired, hungry and annoyed about my day at school.

i really need some advice. i can't stand this feeling inside. it's ruining me. i want to be the happy girl i used to be, but i can't seem to be in control.

please help! thank you in advance!
uncreativename

[oberon]

Hi Uncreativename,

I'm not trying to minimize what you are feeling but it sounds to me like what you are suffering from is being a teenager. *You are stuck in that period between having to follow someone's rules for your life and making your own (and getting to deal with the consequences). *

I'm a little curious... you say you are going to bed after midnight, and getting up "6:30-ish"... I'm going to hope that's a.m.? *Well, that's one of the consequences of being an adult. *If you don't go to bed on time, then you get to be tired the next day... and STILL have to do whatever it is you're suppose to do. *If, however, you're sleeping til 6:30 pm everyday, then I'd suggest a trip to the doctor. *

As for your boyfriend... this may sound a little harsh, but at 16, if he's making you miserable and distracting you from doing the things that will make your life better in the future, then dump him. *You WILL have time for love and romance, but if you mess up getting your life off to a good start, then it's twice (or more) as hard as you get older. *Now is definitely the time to be concentrating on getting YOU ready for life.

Take care.

[Brandye]

As usual, I agree with oberon. Only you can estimate how seriously and deeply depressed you really are. I do recommend that you talk with someone who can be objective and perhaps give you some feedback. All teens go through some periods as you describe. Too many relationships take an hour (or lots more) each night for essentially meaningless phone calls. All of us have some tendency to procrastinate.

Depression in teens is much more widespread than our happy face societies care to admit. It is further linked to eating disorders, careless sex, minor criminal behavior and suicide. If you feel you are in a downward spiral, see a counselor.

[ShadowLynnParker]

oh dear, your mum is being a parent. What you have to do is be a kid for a while longer. Don't be the average kid, use your brain. Remember and most kids do not. Do the right thing. School is important and you can become something great. Success is the best revenge. Be lazy but be it at the library or at a show. Do something productive. Don't waist away in bed. When you close your eyes you may just find as most likly your mum did that you are fifty and have nothing. Keep your eyes and your mind wide open and live, live, live...

[girlysexnerd]

Well, I can't answer from a Dr.'s standpoint or that of a true adult---however what I can offer is advice from someone who has been there.

I hated being a teenager, Life sucked. I was convinced that it would never get better, sitting up at night crying about how bad it sucked and replaying in my mind all the sucky events of each day.---IT DOES GET BETTER! When you are feeling at your lowest low, and all you want to do is die, think about the very last time you felt that way. Seriously. Then think about the time that elapsed between those two times, when you and your mum made up after a fight, when you and your b/f just layed together talking, when you finally got your essay done or went on spring break. You will see that though you might feel like you are stuck in a hole, you will see the light at the end of the tunnel and be able to know that everything will work itself out- just as it always has and always will.

I hope this helped.