I can assure you that there are other gay men in your school. Figure out waht extra-curricular activities appeal to you and may appeal to your equally frustrated potential friends.

Go ahead, and use stereotypes to identify what other activities you can get into. For godsake, do not start trolling on the internet. You will be the victim.

You can anticipate that anal sex will hurt until you get accustomed to it. Remember, always, always, always a condom and be with someone you have gotten to know first.

Keep in mind that in Canada, you can't consent to have anal sex until you're 18. Although it's very unlikely either one of you would be prosecuted, just keep that in mind. If you ask me, that particular section of the law is just waiting for an appeal (the exact wording says only two consenting adults in the privacy of their own homes can engage in anal sex).

That said, thewordpasser... you're only 15. Hanging out around Sherbourne and Wellesley is definitely out of the question. I'm sure there would have to be some livejournal communities tailoring to the Toronto gay community (but, like Brandye said, don't make an effort to try and find someone for sex... you're asking for trouble that way). On the other hand, if you're trying to remain in the closet around the school, you're left with very few options.

Brandye - while there definitely are gay men in the school, odds are that most of them attempt to remain in the closet because of prevailing backwards attitudes towards gays in high schools, even in a city as socially liberal as Toronto (the school I currently go to is a real anomaly in that sense... if a guy is gay, it's not unusual for him to be out, and nobody bats an eye at it. Oddly enough, you'd be hard-pressed to find a single lesbian). The fact he's in a Catholic board doesn't make much of a difference, as they are more concerned with making students opposed to birth control, abortion and premarital sex than gay marriage over at the good ol' TCDSB. But, as in the public board, you'll still find supposedly straight guys who aren't secure enough in their sexuality to let people mind their own business. In short, while other gays exist, they probably aren't very easily accessible.

Actually, my experience with this is probably highly skewed. Like I said before, my current high school is weird compared to almost every other high school in North America, and I love it for that. I went to a "ghetto" school for two years and found the social atmosphere extremely fragmented, to the degree that you didn't know the names of people who you didn't hang out with/have classes with. But I've spent the last two years in an institution where you've had classes with almost everyone in your grade, and everyone is, for the most part, extremely friendly and accepting of a lot of things. It sounds like our poor fellow here has some sort of a desire (understandably so) to keep his homosexuality hidden from the general population of the school.

Ultimately, what you do will have to come down to the dynamics at your school. If you are that afraid of being outed and having everyone find out, then obviously you'll have to find a more anonymous route than through extra-curricular activities... but short-term embarassment is probably better than finding yourself meeting up with someone from the internet who isn't quite who they said they were.

Only problem my school has is that youngmen (15or 17) tend to end up pairing up with older men (30-40) and trying to start a relationship together(illegal for several reasons, depending on age). Most students who are gay or bi are out, but the overall population is low, so the "pickings" aren't so hot. Don't just look for someone to sleep with and ditch, I think that's stupid wether you're old, young, gay or straight...find someone you can relate to.
Good luck!

One recommendation is to contact your local college or university and inquire about whether they have a Gay/Lesbian support group either on or off campus. Another possibility is to contact nearby hospitals and ask the same question.

Gay/straight alliance maybe? My school has one.

Does your school have a theatre club? I hate to be a generalist but those type of places are usually swarming with homosexual men.

i object!

lol, you dont see gay guys performing here...

specially with the parts they hand out...

[QUOTE=thewordpasser]Just so everyone knows, I go to an ALL BOYS, Catholic, PRIVATE school....[/QUOTE]
My bad. The law of averages was against me that time.

Anyways, the all-boys school thing definitely makes it worse for you, considering all of the stuff I've heard about how testosterone charged all-boys schools can get. I really wouldn't know what to suggest, other than through the internet or maybe some support groups outside of your school catering to gay teens.

[QUOTE=thewordpasser]Just so everyone knows, I go to an ALL BOYS, Catholic, PRIVATE school....[/QUOTE]

I'm willing to bet you are not the only gay in that all boys catholic school. The challange is finding them.
I was sentanced to an all boys catholic school all the way through until I was booted for destruction of property... I flushed an M-80 down the toilet but it ended up blowing the toilet off the wall instead of the pipes over the music area. Was 15 when I did that. Now prior to this I met my first boyfriend at age 13 at the all boys catholic school and well, we had our anatomy lessions that summer and now 23 years later we are still together. I knew several gay kids and during the 1980s its was even harder to come out than it is today but they are around, you just have to keep looking. For all you know the boy you find as "hot" might be playing the straight role only because thats expected of a good catholic. In his own world he might cross dress for all we know. I cant tell you what to look for so you have to use your own judgements.

Seek and you shall find.

JR

There may be other gay students in your school, who knows?

I think contacting a local gay/lesbian group would be a good place to start. As for contacting people over the internet, well I wouldn't advise that, yet. What's the gay age of consent in Canada (or the province you live in)? People you contact might not be comfortable having sex with someone under the age of consent. Also, meeting people of the internet can be risky sometimes. If you decide to meet someone, then make sure someone you trust knows about it and knows where you are.

In regards to gay sex, well I think it's best to play with yourself before you actually start receiving a dick or penetrating someone else. By using a dildo (it doesn't even have to be a dildo, any smooth safe object can be used for anal play) you'll learn about the sensations of taking it in the butt, what turns you on , etc.

Once you've explored yourself, then you'll be in better stead when you finally have proper gay sex. Does anal sex hurt? Well it doesn't have to, if done properly.

[QUOTE=lapafrax]play with yourself before you actually start receiving a dick or penetrating someone else. By using a dildo (it doesn't even have to be a dildo, any smooth safe object can be used for anal play) you'll learn about the sensations of taking it in the butt, what turns you on , etc.[/QUOTE]

Your hand + latex glove + lube = whee!

Prostate stimulation is the best thing since sliced bread.