Hmmmm....well....I am Gay. I am also the father of a 14 year old son from when i was married. So, i have had sex with both men, and women.

For me, like many others, sex is an "act" ..a decision. However, i found out after being married and having a child that while i was easily able to get hard and have sex with my wife, that deep down inside, i wasn't being true to myself.

I have been in love with and living with the same man for going on 8 years now. I know in my heart of hearts that I love him - truely for better or for worse...i coudn't have said that of my xwife.

Sure, i loved her in a very special way, but I could never fully love her in the way she deserved.

So, I separate sex from love - as it applies to this post.

When i was young, i didn't know much of anything - excpet that society told me that men were supposed to have sex with women, and that one day i'd find a gal, fall in love and we'd live happily ever after - but we all know that is a fairy tale for millions of people on this earth.

I guarantee that if u blind folded a gay man and a woman started giving him oral sex (no perfume or other touching allowed) that the vast majority of gay men would get hard....and that if you did the same to str8 men and had gay men perform oral on them blindfolded ..that they too would get hard and enjoy it. Why? Because when they don't have the visual to tell them HOW they are supposed to feel, they just go with what is happening and the body takes care of the rest.

Now, all that reinforces is the fact that sex is an ACT. It's the body and mind reacting to stimui and doing what it's programmed to do wihout the intercession of the MIND! BUt, this has NOTHING to do with the heart and love.

So, as i rant and ramble on here, i guess i just wanted to put into perspective that it's not really good to characterize yourself as "considered str8 or bi, or gay" but to KNOW what you are in your heart!

It's not simple when the heart is involved...so lets not reduce it down to just the act of sex.

[QUOTE=Quote (Greendale @ Nov. 08 2004,14:24)]Of course, everyone knows that you can't lose a virginity to a man, it's always with a woman.[/QUOTE]
Excuse me? Everyone knows this??

In my opinion, you couldn't be MORE wrong. Particularly, in the case of gay men. If anything most of us are much LESS virginal than straight guys... I'm sure if you think about that, you'll get what I mean.

Um, so by your logic, all gay men are virgins.

Excuse me while I laugh.

I'm a straight guy who's little bi-curious. I love women dearly. I've never had sex with either genders since I'm a virgin still. Of course, everyone knows that you can't lose a virginity to a man, it's always with a woman.

Yes, I have an attraction to men very much, never had sex with a man before, but I've been thinking about trying it for a long time.

I'm just like monie, since monie she's a litlte bi-curious as well and prefers men mostly women, I'm the other way around.

I just fantasize about men a lot. I think about men, I enjoy looking at nude photos of them and enjoy looking at gay porn.

But I preffer women mostly. I don't see people as a gender though, I see them as people if that makes sense.

I'm straight....been looking at the gurlz since I was a little pup.
Something about the women that attracts me and drives my desire for intimacy with them. I just wanna luv em all. "Somebody help me".

eDJ

I'm gay. *pauses for shocked gasps*

I think women are great! I think they are beautiful. I've had very close emotional relationship with many. But what gets my pulse thumping and make me hot and flushed will always be male.

I am straight with Bi-tendencies. What I mean by that is that I like women and having sex with them once in awhile is great fun and adds lots of spice and exploration. But I will always prefer men first.

I'm straight.
People in general though, tend to think I'm gay or atleast bi...and no idea why either, but I'm straight.
No doubt in my mind that men are my thing.

i'm straight. and not really curious either.