i suck my husband's dick several times a week (and swallow every time) and love trying to deepthroat him. i have a really sensitive gag reflex but i don't let that stop me from trying. i don't have as much trouble when we do it with my head off the end of the bed.
when i do gag, i worry that he'll feel bad and not let me continue or that maybe it's a turn off. my question is: how do other men feel about their partner gagging on their cock?
I know that my partner likes it occasionally, but it worries him sometimes as he feels like he might be hurting me. I don't gag often, though.
One alternative to deep throat approach is to raise your tongue just before he ejaculates and let the semen squirt against the bottom of your tongue. You can then swallow if you want and then accept all of him if you want to.
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I can't enjoy sex if I feel the girl I'm with doesn't, but I know some won't have that problem.
Maybe you should ask your husband about his preference.
Doc is quite right about blocking the first, strong pulse from your gag reflex at the back of your throat. The fact remains that we sometimes do gag. The taste and consistency are not exactly pleasant. Even those of us accomplished at blowjobs have the problem sometimes. That does not mean that we are not enjoying ourselves or willing to be doing what we are doing.
I sometimes make myself gag when I get a little too enthusiastic.
the gagging doesn't happen when he's cumming. it's just when i try to get him down my throat. i don't mind drinking his cum at all. i actually enjoy it.
I don't mind the girl gagging, It turns me on. As long as she is willing to let me keep fucking her throat then she can gag all she wants.
Judging from porn movies men are supposed to like gagging their partners, but I being a real life man find nothing amusing or arousing about it. I know some women believe that it is a turn on for us to hear them gagging. I find it distracting at best. I prefer someone who can take the entire thing into her throat without gagging, jerking away or elsewise breaking my mood. If she has a powerful gag reflex then she shouldn't push it; stick to licking or find an alternative non-vaginal way to please me.
If you tell your husband that you still enjoy the overall experience and don't want to stop, then he will probably be fine.
Also I think it's sick that some guys enjoy making girls gag. It's undeniably misogynistic and mildly sadistic. Sorry, but that's just shameful.
Most of boys, I think, love to be deepthroated. It satisfies their mind more than their cock. They love to see eye to eye when their girl is gone down on them.
Gagging is actually an error in deep throating. Men should help their girl to come out of it rather. Men love to see their girl make effort to come out of it.
But there are some who enjoy tears from their partner rather than they themselves enjoying the act. As wisely said by Ravishing, "Sadist". This saddist think our mouth as a hole and nothing more. Thats their problem. Once you think that that hole also belongs to a person, things change. But this happens.
If you like what you are doin and aren't concerned about gagging, and don't feel uncomfortable, then keep going.
If you say something like, "Sorry I keep gagging honey, just try to ignore it.. Does it feel good?" then maybe he can relax, and not have to worry too much about you.
I gag occasionally and the response I get is concern, but I just smile at him and laugh at the gagging, and let him see that it doesn't bother me. And even though I tell him "Don't worry.", I can tell he gets a bit worried if I'm OK. But I'm not complaining about that!!
When it's you gagging yourself, that's generally not anything to worry about. If the position (for example head hanging off the end of the bed) means he is gagging you, then you just need to be sure of each others signals and that he knows when is too much, and when you want more...
As always, communication brings about the best love making
Almost all girls gag. its natural phenomenon. Slowly they get used to it and the frequency reduces. And the postion of lying flat on back and head hanging is best as face and throat comes in line. So cock can slide deeper with less gag sensation.
my gf have a great communication when it comes to well about every thing she dont mind gaging and no its not sadistic she try's hard to take it all down. even when the tears are rolling down sometimes she'll say thats enough but more so she'll tell me to keep going specially when were in a 69 and she's on top. she has long hair and ill grab a hand full on both sides of her head to hold her in place while i eat her that she loves
[QUOTE=rob50152;257553]my gf have a great communication when it comes to well about every thing she dont mind gaging and no its not sadistic she try's hard to take it all down. even when the tears are rolling down sometimes she'll say thats enough but more so she'll tell me to keep going specially when were in a 69 and she's on top. she has long hair and ill grab a hand full on both sides of her head to hold her in place while i eat her that she loves[/QUOTE]
1. What communication your gf does?
2. Do you want to say she is comfortable in 69 ( she on top ) ?
3. If so why do you pull her hair to hold her head in place ?
isn't it confusing ? or mixed responses.
I think you want to say that she can control gag when she is on top and you try to control her head pulling out by holding her hairs?
1. we talk about what is going on at the time (likes dislikes)
2. yes she likes being on top and i like her on top in a 69
3. yes she likes it when i hold her head its a control thing i don't do it all the time is why she likes it.
hopefully you can sleep tonight now.lol
[QUOTE=rob50152;257553]my gf have a great communication when it comes to well about every thing she dont mind gaging and no its not sadistic she try's hard to take it all down. even when the tears are rolling down sometimes she'll say thats enough but more so she'll tell me to keep going specially when were in a 69 and she's on top. she has long hair and ill grab a hand full on both sides of her head to hold her in place while i eat her that she loves[/QUOTE]
I'm sorry, but WHAT? Your girlfriend has cried and you believe her when she says she enjoys it? It's obvious that she's just trying to please you, you even admitted it partially. From what you're saying, she even voiced her discomfort but said she'd do it anyway. You're not a sadist if you don't enjoy her tears, but you are in denial or just a good old fashioned asshole to not doubt yourself or feel an ounce of guilt about it. I'm betting on denial since you seem to be going to great lengths to try and justify it.
lets get something straight right now if she didn't like it or want it she would tell me and it would stop
thank god i have a life and i don't have time to judge other people and tell them if there happy or not
Alright, this upsets me. Men are expecting it because it is seen in porn a lot (along with anal sex). They see it as totally normal and girls should do it or they are a prude or something. Women, do not feel pressured. Gagging is degrading this is why men are turned on by it. If you are a submissive then it is about being degraded. I am talking to women that are not sub.
How I have handled this issue is by nipping it in the bud. If you do it once they will want it again. So, don't even start. Trust me.
This one guy i blew, i puked on three times. all he said was "are you ok?" im like "no" with his dick still in my mouth then he just told me to keep going
My husband gets turned on when I gag, but he NEVER intentionally tries to make me. The people who are saying he's a Sadist because of that need to chill. Also, I tear up sometimes when I'm giving him head, but it's not because I'm crying. My eyes just get watery. Not sure why that is, but I enjoy every minute of blowing him and I'm definitely not crying because of it. Although I imagine it looks like I am occasionally.
[QUOTE=OpalineTowers;259502]My husband gets turned on when I gag, but he NEVER intentionally tries to make me. The people who are saying he's a Sadist because of that need to chill. Also, I tear up sometimes when I'm giving him head, but it's not because I'm crying. My eyes just get watery. Not sure why that is, but I enjoy every minute of blowing him and I'm definitely not crying because of it. Although I imagine it looks like I am occasionally.[/QUOTE]
It doesn't matter that he doesn't make you. Not forcing you to gag just means he's not a rapist. He still gets turned on by it though, which makes him a sadist. Sadism - sexual gratification gained through causing pain, discomfort, or degradation to others. Dictionary..
yes i agree with you Ravisihing.I can't deepthroat because i gag too much and thankfully when this happens and i freak out guys have not forced me to continue.As for puking and him not caring sorry card 69 but he definitely is a sadist
A woman has the upper hand the second he puts his equipment in her mouth. One wrong move and it's: "snap!" So guys, I wouldn't risk doing anything the lady won't appreciate... I'd say gagging is malpractice of a bj or deep throat. And therefor shouldn't happen. Personally, I have a rather weak gagreflex (throwing up too much as a child, I guess?); there needs to happen a hell lot before I do. If it does, fun would be over for me... and him ;)
But: whenever a person such as OpalineTowers states that she "enjoys every minute of blowing him and I'm definitely not crying because of it" than I'd say you can't call him a sadist. Cause in this specific case, this is sexual gratification gained through causing pleasure... People all have there own strange ways of getting themselves pleased and some have higher pain levels then others. There's a thin line between pain and pleasure.
That just leaves us the people who simply enjoy (a certain amount of) pain; masochists. The people causing this pain are generally called sadists. But there's a big difference if you're talking about liking to cause pleasure through pain or simply liking to cause pain. The latter are sadist in the bad meaning of the word :( You should consider them dangerous!
The eyes watering is a natural bodily response to the gag. It does not in any way, shape or form mean the person is crying. Every time I gag or puke, or for that matter laugh hysterically or yawn, my eyes tear. So when whoever it was's gf had "tears running down her face", based on how he described it, I find it incredibly safe to assume it was because of the gag reflex itself, not because she was upset.
To each their own. If you find deep throating degrading or in any other way displeasing, don't do it. It's that simple. I don't deep throat, I don't swallow, hell most of the time I don't even take the shot. I slip off just as it reaches my mouth and duck out of the way so I don't get hit in the face. And he loves and appreciates the BJ every time. He has told me from the very beginning that the BJ in and of itself is so pleasurable, he could give a damn whether I take the shot or not, and whether I spit or swallow if I do take it.
However, I also don't judge anyone who does it differently than I do.
I do not enjoy gagging and if he persists in wanting me to gag then he's not the man for me and I move on.
Incompatible does also include sex.