seil there are many very good posts already on the forum which address your question. Here's one: http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing-her/19807-what-we-know-g-spot-e...
and another: http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing-her/11335-g-spot-101-a.html
also several posts on female orgasm. I'll allow you to do the rest of the work as that should make it more fulfilling for you.
I will say this. If you are stimulating the G Spot properly it should NOT not take her 30-45 minutes to climax. However she might be able to ride her orgasm like a wave for that long. The experienced women that I have been with begin G Spot orgasm within 3 minutes. Results may vary ;)

> I have studied alot about the g spot technique to make my girl orgasm but I am still having trouble with it.

Have you read this article listed in the Index?
Chapter Two:
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of G-spot massage
(Scroll down to this chapter.)

> Me and my girl have established where the g spot is in her and how to stimulate it properly when i'm fingering her (firm strokes) but I am still having trouble. I know I need to keep doing this for about half an hour or 40 minutes or so for her to climax but when I do I just can't seem to tell what I need to do other than the firm strokes to 'push her over the edge' and she never cums.

So long? This seems like a very very long time. Women often report back that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes they become SORE, bored, and tired. It it is taking this long then I'd say the two of you are not doing things right.

> I was wondering if anyone could tell me if I just need to keep at it at a steady rythm longer, if there is a time when to start going faster or a time to chage my technique in someway to help bring her to orgasm (for example I noticed the other day when we were doing for quite a long time her vagina started to feel rougher all around.

What We Know: G-Spot and Ejaculation

Communication is the correct solution. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, it is what we do with and for each other in partnership.

> If someone could maybe help I would really appreciate this. Thanks

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Like too many young men you are expecting a recipe or a formula. Those do not exist with sexual response. It may vary from woman to woman and in the same woman over time. You and your willing partner must work on it to find what works for you. All the stuff you read may be good background but much of it may be irrelevant to the situation at hand.

Remember that relatively few women have ever had their G- Spot successfully stimulated and there is no certainty in the medical community that it even exists.

Basically it means find it and be purposeful about working it, instead of hoping you get lucky and hit it while you're thrusting.

Palm upwards, using two fingers, curl the fingrtips upward and gently caress with those fingertips in a come hithe motion on her G-Spot (feels rather like a washboard) while moving your entire hand in and out - the speed depending upon her degree of arousal.

You will know when you have it right by her reaction.

Medical community or not - it is there and that is how you stimulate it.

Do not ask me to do your thinking for you.

For as long as she wants you there.
Don't be in a rush.

Maybe this can help...suggest she trying doing this herself first, either with you or without. Sometimes when women are pleasuring alone they are able to find easier to achieve this. Just my opinion! hope it helps

Reread Brandye's post about expecting a formula. You have to experiment. See what works and what doesn't. You'll know what works and what doesn't by paying attention to her reactions and feedback.

Don't miss the forest because of the trees. Don't be so focused on 'doing it right' that you lose sight of how she likes it.

Dear Red,

It is very difficult to get a penis to caress your G-Spot without having the man attached to that penis. And no, a dildo is NOT the same thing.

Hit her spot really hard nd fast.. That got me squirtin in about at least 3-4 mins :D try 3 fingers or mab just shove ur fist in

What works for you may not work for another. I do not make women ejaculate, or anything else, but I know "practitioners" - highly skilled men with very willing and open attitudes, who tell me these things, explain their methods, and who teach other men, usually in person with the couple, how to induce ejaculation in women.

I gave you advice from the "practitioners".
and
Yes, it works.

[QUOTE=seil;241799]how long do I need to stimulate it like that for EvilEvilKitten?[/QUOTE]

More to the point is when to simulate it like that.

The answer is after you two have devoted half an hour or more to fooling around and making out and getting her aroused and excited and near the peak of her arousal curve just before she reaches the trigger point of her climax.

If you are not spending the time preparing her with all your kisses and caresses beforehand then you are rushing. All too often guys believe that girls can be ready for an orgasm by whatever means as easily and as soon as they are. WRONG. Two other misguided misconceptions that some have is that a woman can be brought to the brink of an orgasm from lots and Lots of clitoral stimulation; and, that the way to reach the peak of arousal themselves is from lots and Lots of stroking. Both WRONG.

Females of the species typically require a lot of time and effort on the basics in order to raise their passion, excitement, and, anticipation to the brink. This is done through lots of making out--Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, all before reaching the Foreplay stage. It is rarely accomplished from spending 20 minutes stroking away during intercourse OR fingering her clitoris, G-spot, or one of her other hotspots for prolonged periods of time.

There is some conjecture as to whether or not the G-spot even exists. I belong to the school of thought that says it does. The tissue involved has the same origin as our prostate gland. That said, stimulating the -spot should yield the same results, that being to help jumpstart her orgasm by augmenting the feelings she receives from other forms of stimulating caresses.

Work together, explore, and give each other feedback on how both of you are responding to each others caresses and for what you need now/next. None of us are mind readers. As for women, their responses to being stimulated are in a constant state of flux and may very well be different today than last time. The same can be said for how each of her orgasms manifest themselves. Unlike ours that are nearly always predicably the same, a woman's can be mild, strong, earth shattering, trembling--or not. We take them as they come and spend lots of time cultivating them. So, do not rush to the finish line. Do not rub, lick, or massage "forever" hoping she will get to the brink of her orgasm before becoming SORE, bored, or exhausted.

Guys who rush toward the finish line, miss out on the journey and in smelling the roses along the way. Enjoy the journey as well as the destination.

> Fake or not? It doesn't look fake to me.

Many adult videos are acted well.

> Does he know something I don't?

How to make a great video.

Is it real? Only the girl in question can say. This is another reason why I suggest couples explore and learn together.

Are you a virgin?

As a general rule - all pornography is fake until proven otherwise.

Yes, zero to 60 is reserved for us more experienced women. But that is rather the point: you still need at least 20 minutes of foreplay for the average woman to rev up her engines even for G-Spot caressing.

Or what did you think The Program was for??

Yeah but as a woman, I can tell you that you don't just go from zero to mind-blowing as quickly as she does there because of two fingers.

With smoke there is usually either fire, or mirrors. Methinks this one has the latter.

[QUOTE=seil;242124]I read two of the g spot stickies. Are there any particular passages you think are good?[/QUOTE]

ALL OF THEM. Why? Because the most important skill is being able to read her body. To do that you need to know what to look for, what to do while looking, and where to go from there. The more you know, the better you'll be at that, and the more fun you'll have in general. All you should need for a full day of wild and crazy sex is a bed, bathroom, condoms(poly), and lube. Explore each other bodies and there isn't a need for "exotic" locations and positions.

Just watched - it's the same video someone posted with a similar question over a year ago.

There was probably a very large buildup prior to this because her whole body is covered in massage oil. The guy is awfully patronizing - I don't think I've been with a woman who'd take me repeatedly saying 'good girl' very well. Things that are harder to fake are vaginal and anal contractions as well as nipple erections and the body becoming flushed - and if you know enough about your body to know how to fake that, then you shouldn't need to.

I don't think the TS has read the stickies or has much experience based on the questions. You'd be in a much better position if you'd go through all of them. The most important thing that you're missing isn't stimulation technique but knowing how to read her body and reactions.

If you pay strict attention to the little things happening to her body like erect nipples, goosebumps, the body becoming flushed, her noises, and small muscle twitches or movements then you'll be much, much more likely to not even need to ask technique questions because you'll find them on your own.

If you *really* are dead set on making her squirt yourself- then here is the simplest, step by step way I can think of that reduces chances of error.

Make sure she's recently urinated so she's not worried about that.

1) Follow EEK's "The Program" through giving her clitoral orgasms. I'm assuming that you aren't skilled at stimulating her G-spot and fornices with your penis since you can't do it with your hands. There is no point doing those before the next step since it might just result in her losing the internal arousal and swelling after the clitoral orgasm.

2) Position her on her back, legs apart with her knees up, feet on the bed. You sit next to her side sitting up leaning forward over her groin area. Think 69 with you on top but instead your knees are both on 1 side of her. This is the simplest position for you to reach the correct angle inside of her, her clitoris, and avoid uncomfortably hitting your unused fingers knuckles around her opening.

3) Refer back to what I said about paying VERY close attention to what her body is doing. You should be able to feel small twitches inside of her vagina with your fingers based on where you're manipulating them.

4) Take your middle finger(appropriately lubed and well-manicured) and work it around inside slowly with your palm facing towards her. (For reference - it's a similar position to where that guy is on the massage table). With the finger fully inside, slowly curl it towards you, keeping your palm mostly upright. (angling your palm more parallel to her body causes your knuckles on each side to press into her labia, which can cause problems now and later on) Pay strict attention to what her body is doing in response to what you are doing.

5) Curl your finger towards your palm softly while moving your hand down(so you finger almost slides out). We're starting with one so it's more comfortable for her as well as the stimulation covering a smaller area, allowing you to zero in on her most sensitive parts inside. Try that motion up and down a few times then move slightly to the right or left(think quarter inch sideways intervals). Take note of what her body is doing. After a couple or more minutes of this feeling out process, you should have a good general idea the depth and location of her most sensitive area inside. If you're having trouble reading her body, she should provide feedback. Also, when you see a reaction, try the same motion again, and then the same motion to the left and right of it to zero in on the exact spot and check for the same or increased reaction.

6) Make sure she's staying relaxed and breathing. Her lower stomach shouldn't be overly tense, which is also why her feet should be on the bed but with her knees bent and spread open similar to the Missionary position.

7) Do the same motions as before, but now with your middle and ring finger and focus on the spots inside that you found earlier. You can also circle them around, do the 'come hither' motion, or move them individually as playing the piano. Make sure you're massaging her, not moving roughly or quickly yet. Again - keep track of her body's response.

8) Use your other hand to massage her clitoris however she likes it, and, again, make sure it's lubed. Combine this with #7 until you feel her swelling inside and she's getting the feeling that she has to urinate.

9) Making sure that your palm is at an angle where you're almost cupping her vulva, with your fingers curled up around the most sensitive area you've found that's been swelling, quickly move your hand up and down while curling your fingers towards towards your palm so that they're pressing firmly against her anterior wall. It shouldn't take more than a minute to squirt from this if the previous steps have been followed well. Depending upon the other persons comfort, arousal, and your skill level, it can happen within a few seconds, but don't expect it to and certainly don't keep it up going quickly for a long time. If it doesn't happen within a minute, then you missed a step, moved through one too quickly, or she's just not letting herself(check for lots of tension) and you should move back a few steps. Granted some people might have had success continuing past that point trying to force it, but it's highly likely to leave her sore and uninterested for a second try.

There are plenty of other ways, and I really hope that you will thoroughly read the Stickies first.

[QUOTE=seil;242124]I read two of the g spot stickies. Are there any particular passages you think are good?

You vote massaging her clit and g-spot.

The guy in the video jiggered her up and down to orgasm. Which is better?

Can somebody please post a link to this 'The program' people keep talking about[/QUOTE]

That video gives you a quick demonstration with someone who apparently does it all the time with that other person and starts out at the end. The steps I gave you are what I recommend for beginners from start to finish - taking into account that the two of you are clueless.

"The Program" is a sticky in Married and Long-Term Relationships. To view that forum, the post, and thereafter help her squirt, you must propose to her and send a picture, signed by your parents, of the two of you with engagement rings to the forum moderators.

Also, did you read the last step? What part did you not understand that leads to that response?

Nice one, Fun!!!

The article is listed in the Index.

The Index is mentioned every day, often more than once.

It is prominently located at the top of the main screen.

[QUOTE=lnt1103;242135]Nice one, Fun!!![/QUOTE]

Thank you.

Everyone urinates after sex. DON'T CALL IT PEE. Ejaculate isn't urine. You're shooting yourself in the foot by saying it like that. Call it squirt if you must but don't call it pee. Try saying "Let it come, honey."

Yes, she's withholding - for whatever reason. Just as with orgasms, if she doesn't want to, she won't no matter what you do.

So relax and stop 'pushing' her to do this. IF she does, she does, And that will be its own reward.

The boy forgot to mention that the girl has never had an orgasm before.

That = READ ALL OF THE STICKIES ALREADY, SHOW THEM TO HER AS WELL, AND STOP EXPECTING SOMETHING WITHOUT PUTTING EFFORT INTO IT.

No wonder it wasn"t working for her!

Jeez!

The answer you seek and more is available on aisle 1: row STICKY.

And there are plenty of situations where people urinate in decidedly not relaxing situations.

OMG STOP.

'Aisle 1 row sticky' is a sarcasm-laced comment that advises you to READ THE STICKY ARTICLES YOURSELF before asking all these questions. Every major topic has a list of 'sticky' articles at the top. They've been made 'sticky' because they've been deemed either very informative or FAQs. Put some mental effort into this instead of expecting us to write you a step-by-step recipe that you can apply to your penis.

Because if you had read some articles before asking questions, you'd already know that women, unlike men, have to LEARN how to orgasm. Your effortless pushing and prodding and guessing will not help her do that.

[QUOTE=lnt1103;242565]OMG STOP.

'Aisle 1 row sticky' is a sarcasm-laced comment that advises you to READ THE STICKY ARTICLES YOURSELF before asking all these questions. Every major topic has a list of 'sticky' articles at the top. They've been made 'sticky' because they've been deemed either very informative or FAQs. Put some mental effort into this instead of expecting us to write you a step-by-step recipe that you can apply to your penis.

Because if you had read some articles before asking questions, you'd already know that women, unlike men, have to LEARN how to orgasm. Your effortless pushing and prodding and guessing will not help her do that.[/QUOTE]

Apparently that wasn't clear enough. You've been pointed to the solution multiple times in this thread. Multiple times you have ignored the solution and continued to ask questions that have already been answered very thoroughly many times over in the STICKY's. Because you keep putting off reading all of them, your current efforts are wasted energy due to you skipping extremely important steps to both her and your sexual developments with ignorance.

While you're awareness to seek help is to be commended, you are repeatedly asking others to be at your beck and call which is quite rude. This is especially true when you have done nothing for those people. It is very frustrating to spend time assisting others only to find out that they did not invest their own time in finding the solution that was right in front of them and even put their in response to their question. As long as you continue to chain more and more questions together whose answer you should already know from the previous help given - I doubt others will continue to help you.

P.S. -- You might get away with this at home and at high school, but in college Professors and peers with stop babying you and actions such as these close many doors.

seil, yes there is - tell her to GET A NEW BOYFRIEND

I really want to learn to withhold my orgasm's. I just dont go long enough to get my girlfriend off... I want to know what are some techniques for doing this... i would really appreciate it.

[QUOTE=punkguitarist18;243943]I really want to learn to withhold my orgasm's. I just dont go long enough to get my girlfriend off... I want to know what are some techniques for doing this... i would really appreciate it.[/QUOTE]

Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controlling Premature Ejaculation

Once again the answer to this and other concerns can be found in the Index at the top of the main screen.

Whether not being able to last "long enough" is the result of Premature Ejaculation or simply climaxing before desiring to, the fixes are the same.

In addition, to the above is the fact that you also need to learn a better methodology for making love. Etiquette suggests helping our partner to achieve her climax first and to enjoy the last one if it is her desire. In between the two of you can have them in whatever order and time frame tht suits you. It is important to know that women require much more time building their level of arousal than do we. So, spend no less than half an hour to making out before ever getting to the foreplay stage. Also, if you are having intercourse understand that few sexual positions place her pieces-parts in close constant contact with her partner's pubic mound to generate the required friction. This being the case, what a knowledgeable skilled caring lover will do is to reach around and finger her while stroking away. Make this the priority, not the stroking.

[QUOTE=captaincrunch;244247]fiddle with her first, then you get fiddled[/QUOTE]

Fiddle??? [url=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fiddle]Fiddle - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

:p;):D

fiddle with her first, then you get fiddled

[QUOTE=seil;242018]just wondering, what do you people think of this video of a woman being fingered to orgasm?

[url=http://www.redtube.com/15878]How to give women squirting orgasms | Redtube Free Squirting Porn Videos, Movies & Clips

Fake or not? It doesn't look fake to me.

Does he know something I don't?[/QUOTE]

If this thread wasn't linked to in a recent post, I wouldn't have noticed it. Fun to have read it and viewed this vid. I'm surprised though the amount of preparation has been part of the discussion. The guy in the vid even says so that this is more like the final stage of a very long way. That it's the entire process and massaging prior, not simply this movement of his fingers. I can understand why viewers would be hypnotized by her movements and have missed his words, though ;)

Whether very well acted or not, it's almost creepy how this video depicts her responses. I don't know about other women, but it's exactly how I respond to full body squirting orgasms. I mean I've never taped myself, but I know I do this. Involuntary movement, red blushing, very happy face, giggling, screaming with pleasure and the slightest touch or kiss will trigger a new row of orgasms. To me; those triggers have even become "stand-alone", as I can reach these types of orgasms without any genital stimulation nowadays :)

But just a few tips from my experience that I think haven't been given so far:

First of all; after lots of cuddling, caressing and finally going to her pussy, it can work perfectly with just one finger for starters, preferably middle finger. Until after the first few orgasms (yep; I'm spoiled! :o), then go for two fingers. Btw; there's absolutely no shame in using lubes. But personally: I don't need any lube at the point we start this, nor do I like it. When I'm not wet enough, it's a simple sign we've not done enough warming up yet. It's either back to caressing or we could start with a clitoral orgasm.

The main difference with how my lover and I used to do this type of vaginal fingering, is the position. Have him lie on his back or side towards her with one arm stretched out. The woman on all fours with her face above his. She lowers her body towards his hand. The advantage is the intimacy; you two can still kiss during, he can suckle her breasts, caress her with his other hand, fumble with her ears or apply pressure on her lower back. To me; the latter especially becomes useful when I'm close to orgasm, as it provides major extra stimulation (nowadays; it's all I need). Or when I'm spasming in between, he can simply hold me in place like that. To him; this was a very relaxed position to stimulate me like this and he could keep up longer. Off course; the woman can stimulate him as well. Though I must confess I'm usually too much taken by waves of pleasure and too little in control of my movements.

Another thing to consider; does the lady like for him to pull his fingers -or penis for that matter- out or not? Perhaps some do. But I do not like it. I don't see the fun of pulling out, except for the visual effect. Unless I'm pushing him out -which has happened at times- I like for him to stay in and bring me to another orgasm, and another and another, etc. So far; we've not been able to find my limit of orgasms :rolleyes:

[QUOTE=seil;242532]

I think I did read somewhere there was a study with brain scans thats showed if a woman wasn't relaxed enough she couldn't orgasm. So how do you get her relxed enough to orgasm. backrubs?

[/QUOTE]

A back rub or full body massage are good; however, more to the point and one many boys and men do not understand is that women require much more time in order to become aroused and ready than they do. If you are rushing to have an orgasm with little or no time devoted to fooling around and making out, then you are placing the cart before the horse!

If you are rushing to an orgasm because you are ready and figure "by this time so should she" then you need to do a check just to make sure. Figure on a nice long make out session of no less than half an hour devoted to her preparation (mental and physical) or longer within reason if convenient.

Intercourse should not begin until she invites you in. The invitation can be extended verbally or non-verbally {body English). Do not assume. For whatever reason nowadays, guys are operating under the misguided misconception that the best and fasted way to an orgasm is from lots and Lots and LOTS of stroking and thrusting. WRONG. Intercourse should begin when both you and your partner are at or very near the peak of your arousal yet not so close that you cannot maintain control in order to move around and get into position, for example. Do not cut short what can be a great make out session. She needs it, you can benefit from it; therefore, please read up on the how-to's of Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, and, Foreplay, first and foremost.

I recommend that you familiarize yourself with the Index found at the top of the main screen. It contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. There is an entire section devoted to making out and making love. I urge you to click on each and every link and read each and every article. Knowledge is empowering, especially if you wish to become a world class lover!

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

-doc