So here it is...my wife and I have decided to take a trip to the toy store this weekend since we recently determined that experimentation and new experiences are something that we both really enjoy. So neither of us has ever owned a toy of any kind (other than this crappy blue vibrating dolphin cock-ring thing...it was a disaster) and I have some great fantasies about what I'd like to purchase and try. However, I actually am finding myself feeling stumped by what the full potential of toys really can be. Wife has very little imagination when it comes to this so she is no help at this point.
I just really need input on what can be done because I DO NOT want to waste this opportunity. We're talking about a shopping spree here with some brunch afterward and a clear schedule for the day. It'd be a real shame to not do some research first, because I would like to throw additional ideas her way to see what turns her on and what doesn't.
Proposed:
- Dildo (or dong type thing) for her
- Rabbit-style vibe for her
- Dildo (or something) for her to use on me
- *maybe* a strap-on for her to use on me (we'll see how the above goes first in my opinion)
Not looking for:
BDSM materials - even the tame (including: blindfolds, handcuffs, etc.)
Double penetration dildos - no anal play for her at this point
Cock rings - they scare me (I don't see they pay off with the downside being an ER visit)
Ideas:
- going down on her while using her dildo on her
- watching her use the dildo or rabbit
- she mentioned me watch her stand against the wall and pleasure herself
- vibe on clit during sex
- her using dildo on me during head or masturbation
- use of dildos together, either on each other or on ourselves
So what am I missing ???? I know this isn't the be all end all list...help me be prepared and offer any thoughts or tried and true fun.
Why Buy a Sex Toy
Here are some ideas for your collective consideration as just another point of view and nothing else.
I am a champion of taking things slow and working up in increasing levels. With this in mind I ask that the two of you read the following Sticky post:
"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
The purpose is to give the two of you a beginning that is simple and relatively easy on each other's sensibilities. From here you have the comfort level and skills to up the ante'.
The Rabbit vibrator is a good next step; however, instead of making this your first vibrator purchase, let me recommend a larger more general purpose model. The Hitachi "Magic Wand" and similar AC powered large devices make it possible to massage the entire body as well as the erogenous zones, specifically. These vibrators provide options and flexability. By cupping the wand's ball with your hand and extending one or two fingers, you can focus the vibrations for spot treatment.
Another excellent model is the Wahl 'Coil" with accessory heads. In addition to versatility, the other reason I like these devices is because AC powered vibrators are more powerful.
You may fnd that using your fingers first and foremost to stimulate the vulva, vagina, penis, and anus--outside and inside to be of sufficient interest for the time being.
Here is an excellent upscale adult shop in San Francisco that I have visited and can recommend.
If you do want to try dildos, then the Rabbit is a good extension as well as anal beeds, G- and P-spot toys, and inserts of various styles. I am not in favor of penis strap-ons. I agree with Brandye on this one; a penis real or fake in the ass is a turn-off and not somewhere many people choose to go with their fun and games. There is a difference in philosophy and approach between a strap-on and a tubular glass or silicone toy insert.
I would also add the following to your list of possibles:
* fur mitten
* soft feather
* rose petals
Choosing a Sex Toy
Whatever you choose--ENJOY
My wife and I love our sex toys.our toys. The ones we use during intercourse are: Trojan Vibrating Ring, Penthouse Golden Egg and Pocket Rocket. The Trojan Vibrating Ring fits on the penis and vibrates the clitoris during intercourse. My DW says there is nothing like a real dick that vibrates. The Penthouse Egg can be used on the clitoris or inside the vagina during intercourse. My wife loves to insert it in her vagina and then I insert my dick and we have intercourse with it vibrating inside. Really wild orgasms. The Pocket Rocket is great for stimulating the clitoris or the penis during intercourse. We have a rabbit type vibrator(Purple Titan) that my DW uses when we masturbate together. I love to watch her cum while using this. We have 3 vibrating dildos(2 jelly and 1 black rubber) that she also uses during mutual masturbation. I love to watch these go in and out of her vagina. We fantasize that we are having a threesome. We have some anal toys(Spectragels Anal Tool, Anal T, Anal E-Z Bend and Anal Beads)that DW uses to massage my prostate while she gives me a blowjob. Our favotite lubricant is Wet Original and for anal we use Wet Platinum. Toys are hot!!! We also like to watch group sex DVD'S.
Thanks for the info guys. I have heard of the fur mitten before but forgot about that...does it tickle at all? My wife is SUPER sensitive to tickling, but in the "involuntarily kick you in the nuts" way and not the "wow that turns me on" sort.
Old Kinky - if your name is truly literal, I hope to have as great a sex life as you often describe when I'm getting up there in years. Thanks for the suggestions and if you have any DVD recommendations also I would love to hear them. I know I have seen them from you before in the forum.
As for the whole prostate massage thing...eh...I'm aware of it and have done the finger thing (hers w/condom covering them) before, but its not truly about that to me. The two reasons that this interests me in order of importance are:
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1. Role Reversal - It allows me to become submissive and "at her mercy" to a degree. I'm a young guy (late 20's), but I have the stress and responsibilities of people much further along in their careers than I am. I run a major US city office for a medium sized company. I'm the boss...I'd like to not be the boss for even just that moment.
2. There is obviously pleasure associated with anal stimulation for men. But to me, even the pleasure is primarily derived mental aspect desribed above.[/INDENT]
So...anyone else have fun toy stories to share - this happens tomorrow and I would like to go in armed with all of the knowledge (and nasty thoughts :D ) that I can.
CHINO:
Here are some porn titles we both enjoy and they really turn us on. We particulaly like to fantasize while watching group se DVD'S. We either have intercourse in the spoon or doggy position while watching or we masturbate together especially with toys. My wife likes to watch men masturbate. We almost never watch alone.
One of our favorite from Adam and Eve is Forbidden Lust. It is about 2 couples who go to a sex retreat to improve their sex lives. Alexandra Silk is the instructor and she joins in. It includes touching, intercourse, oral, toys, role reversal using a strapon, threesomes, foursomes and DP. It is well done and the people are good looking and enjoy their sex. Others from Adam and Eve are: Red Hot Sex Sampler, Group Sex Series, Sex Across America Series, Swinging in the USA, Double Dippin', Secret Suburban Sex Parties and Nina Hartley's Guide to Alternative Sex. From Vivid Everybody's Doin' It, When Vivid Girls Do Orgies, Vivid Girls.
From Wicked: Cum Guns, Private Love Story, Double Penetrations, Orgies and Cumshot Deluxe. From Wicked: Wicked Sex Party Series, Cluster**** and Jenna in the Middle. From Wildlife:Screw My Wife Series. All are hot and great for fantasizing.
I've heard there is such a thing as an 'ejaculating vibrator'. Has anyone ever used one? How did you like it and WHERE can one find one in North America?
Hey Chino, just for the record they do make none-metal cock rings. Quick release and what not incase things got to tight. I've used them and they pop off really fast, not that i've ever needed to get it off in a hurry you understand.