Please help... I've been together with my girlfriend for almost 9 months now and have been sexually active with her for the last 4 (We're each other's first and we're both 18). We have had sex many times over the past 4 months but every single time it's the same... She gets no physical pleasure out of the experience. It's frustrating for me since she can't seem to enjoy it. In addition, i've tried getting her to orgasim using fingering but have never been sucessfull in that regard either. She tells me she gets close but no matter how long/ what i do i can't seem to make her orgasim. I've tried just about everything. she enjoys clitroal stimulation but it doesn't make her orgasim. Recently i suggested that she try masturbating and exploring herself to see what works for her and she says she's been able to orgasim herself a few times but i can't seem to mimic what she does. She tells me that it'll get better and that sex'll start feeling good eventually but it's been 4 months and nothing's changed... What can i do? will it ever get better?
please help me cause it has been driving me nuts
Read around here. A quarter of all women never experience orgasm but that should not scare her off. There is some indication that younger women are doing better than their mothers did.
The best training for orgasm is herself. Have her try clitical.com, read around this whole site and the book Our Bodies Ouselves are all great helps.
Fairly new to this site, been browsing for a while. Liked how concerned u were about pleasing your girl and thought it was sweet. Some women have to get really turned on to orgasm. Try staying away from down there until she is really really hot. **** with her neck, her breasts, her thighs, her lips. And I'm not talking about five minuets either. Take her to a movie and **** with her all the way through. Tell her she is sexy and beautiful and rub your erection against her hips. undress her slowly and take your time, **** with her belly button and her hips. And then bite the bullet and perform oral sex. This site has all kinds of good tips on how thats done and some women just can't cum without it.
Thank you a lot for the help. I'll deffinatly try that stuff and tell her about the website.
one other thing that perhaps you can assist me with... In the times that i have fingered my gf and she's masturbated herself she says that in and out of the vagina does absolutely nothing for her and she gets no pleasure out of it. I realize that most nerve endings are on the outside of the vagina but i'm starting to believe that she doesn't have a gspot (Is that possible?). Shouldn't there be some sort of pleasure or is that sort of thing usual?
[quote=INT508;177755]Thank you a lot for the help. I'll deffinatly try that stuff and tell her about the website.
one other thing that perhaps you can assist me with... In the times that i have fingered my gf and she's masturbated herself she says that in and out of the vagina does absolutely nothing for her and she gets no pleasure out of it. I realize that most nerve endings are on the outside of the vagina but i'm starting to believe that she doesn't have a gspot (Is that possible?). Shouldn't there be some sort of pleasure or is that sort of thing usual?[/quote]
As Brandye points out the existence of the "G-spot" in controversial in the medical & science community. Other here can tell you it does exist, thank goodness. Maybe you just are not finding it? Did you read the posts on it?
yeah, i've read the posts and i think i've found where it should be cause when i was rubbing that area she said she felt like she had to pee but i continued for a bit and it didn't do anything for her. Is it normal that she doesn't experience any "stimulation" from intercourse cause i would've thought there would be some kind of pleasure from it if not the first time then deffinatly by now...
[quote=INT508;177784]yeah, i've read the posts and i think i've found where it should be cause when i was rubbing that area she said she felt like she had to pee but i continued for a bit and it didn't do anything for her. Is it normal that she doesn't experience any "stimulation" from intercourse cause i would've thought there would be some kind of pleasure from it if not the first time then deffinatly by now...[/quote]
Keep at the g-spot but with your fingers only...only get the spot when she is aroused. The urge to void is it.
It takes time to get real pleasure from intercourse. Some women never orgasm...but it takes time & practice to learn.