Hi everyone,
I am new here. The reason I'm posting is I believe I may be suffering from frigidity. I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now, and he is the world to me. However, over the last year and a half or so, my libido has drastically decreased. It's very confusing to me because I'm very attracted to him, but for some reason I just never have the desire or energy to have sex. We have sex 2 or 3 times a month, but even then it's usually more for him than for me. I am only 24 years old!!! So this is of great, great concern to me.
It's caused an extreme amount of stress in our relationship lately. He is so down on himself, understandably, because his girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with him. And I can't give him an answer why this is, because I don't know!! He thinks it because of him. I don't believe this to be true - because I don't have the desire to have sex with anyone else either. I just don't get aroused very often. It does not make any sense. It's to the point where he thinks I must be a lesbian (which is not true). Imagine trying to convince your boyfriend over and over again that you are not a lesbian. It sucks.
I've done some research on the topic and still can't pinpoint the cause. But, my question to you all would be - who should I talk to about this?? My gynecologist, a psychiatrist, or... ? I have no idea what to do, or if there is any such thing as treatment for this. I don't want to lose the love of my life over this.
Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
A sex councler. And explore new things, like search up something and see what turns you on, maybe its because you want to try new things, I have had this before and it normally has to do with sex being the same all the time
Any doctor might be able to help. A sex councelor is one option, but it might not be necessary. Are there any medications you are on? Birth control? Many medications (including the Pill) can really cause you to lose your sex drive, so you should talk to your doctor about this. It could also be a psychological problem, but first I would weed out medications/stressors by talking to a doctor. If they can't help, they'll know who to direct you to.
Start with your gyn. She has heard it all and will be able to recommend a legitimate sex therapist. This issue should always start with a physical examination to insure that everything is where it should be and your hormones are at the proper levels - and that is where your gyn will begin.