ok everybody heres the thing.....i have a friend who is my age (16) and his girlfriend is ready for sex.....well he doesnt know what to do and is asking me if he's ready.......what shoud i say?
Sat, 07/10/2004 - 02:18
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friend for sex
yes she is a virgin also
then he shouldn't be so nervous about performing.
most times your first time isn't that great anyways. the guy usually doesn't last very long and the girl sometimes experiences pain... can be a little pain or a lot.
i could understand more if she was real experienced but since she's not they can share their first time together.
the majority of guys their first time aren't pros.
they are fumbly and last maybe a minute or two.
thats nothing to be ashamed of.
a good lover isn't born. it comes through practice and communication.
if she cares about him, she'll be patience and guide him. they will learn together and boost his confidence.
is she a virgin?
tell him that's not up for you decide.
it's something he has to decide.
they've been together for about a year.they've fooled around a little, especially in the oral department, but i think he's more worried about how well he's going to perform more than anything else.
if he's having to ask you, then he must have reservations and probably isn't ready yet.
how long have they been together?
we sometimes have to say this to the girls, but it goes for the guys too.
don't let your g/f or b/f pressure you into anything. go at your own pace.
have they experimented w/ anything else?
oral, fingering, other types of foreplay?
as you read all the responses in the other thread you asked about being ready for sex. it all depends on the person.
are you emotionally and physically ready to take on all the responsibilities that come along w/ sex.
ill be it, more burden usually falls on the girl rather than the guy.
has he mentioned why he's hesistant?
is he nervous b/c she might be more experienced than him? is he nervous about his size?
lots of stuff to think about.