Ok, I realize everyone’s recovery time is different. Some can be as quick as a few minutes where as others may take a day. About me, I am a male, early twenties, and new new'ish to sex.
Currently I’m in a long distance relationship and I see my girlfriend every few weeks. So while I have sex, its not frequent. When I masturbate, it takes 15 to 30 minutes before I can do it again (not exactly sure). On the contrary when I have sex I usually feel like I’m done for the night while she is ready to go five minutes later.
To clarify further, after some positions I feel more worn out then I do with others. ie, when I am on my back and she is riding me, I can last a lot longer, but later, either that night or the next day, my penis feels sore. In the same position it is not as comfortable and I have a harder time maintaining my erection.
I use a condom, currently lubricated ones, so I don’t think it has to do with friction. Is this just a matter of me not being conditioned for sex? As an analogy, when running for the first time after quitting for a while, you’re sore. Yet after you do it for a while your body becomes used to it and recovery is much higher. Is this the same with sex?
> Ok, I realize everyone’s recovery time is different. Some can be as quick as a few minutes where as others may take a day. About me, I am a male, early twenties, and new new'ish to sex.
Your information is correct. It is my understanding that the range is primarily tied to age.
> Currently I’m in a long distance relationship and I see my girlfriend every few weeks. So while I have sex, its not frequent. When I masturbate, it takes 15 to 30 minutes before I can do it again (not exactly sure).
> You are quite normal.
On the contrary when I have sex I usually feel like I’m done for the night while she is ready to go five minutes later.
The release of endorphins makes guys drowsy. Getting up and moving around might get the body going again. It works with me, anyway when I get a nudge from my wife.
> To clarify further, after some positions I feel more worn out then I do with others. ie, when I am on my back and she is riding me, I can last a lot longer,
It could be due to muscle exertion in those other positions that wear you out.
The woman superior position usually does not give a guy a lot of stimulation which is why you can probably last longer.
> but later, either that night or the next day, my penis feels sore. In the same position it is not as comfortable and I have a harder time maintaining my erection.
These two circumstances may not have a connection. A sore penis could just be the result of chafing. It depends upon the nature of the soreness. This needs more information.
> I use a condom, currently lubricated ones, so I don’t think it has to do with friction.
Dunno. I would suggest applying some lube only to the Glans before rolling a condom on. Doing so will give the head some wiggle room increasing the amount of stimulation.
> Is this just a matter of me not being conditioned for sex? As an analogy, when running for the first time after quitting for a while, you’re sore. Yet after you do it for a while your body becomes used to it and recovery is much higher. Is this the same with sex?
I don't think there is a connection.
Aye, her on top (woman superior position) isn’t as sensitive for me, but she enjoys it and I enjoy being able to get her off. I realize that most girls can't get off through vaginal sex alone, but mine can... As long as I can last long enough. This is why becoming sore from this position is a concern to me. So far it’s the position I can last the longest in, only if I haven’t recently used it.
More to clarify on my "soreness" (as much as id like to give better details the last time I had sex was 2 weeks ago and its hard for me to remember and quantify exactly what happens). It feels like when you masturbate too much. The head is more sensitive (not in a hyper-sexual way) but in a "this feels good but is somewhat uncomfortable." Also my erection isn't as hard. So the first night everything is fine, but the second night, not only is the sex in this position not as comfortable, but not as effective either with a less hard erection.
The obvious answer is not to use this position consecutively. But assuming there is a way around this id like to. I am not massively endowed, so I am not sure if chafing is occurring from the condom, but it’s worth a try. Also I was thinking maybe PC exercises may help? I read that they can strengthen the erection.
On a side note, is it normal to increase your libido with PC muscle exercises? I find when I do them for a few days, or attempt some sort of routine, I’m more apt to be horny. While it’s cool to feel that way, it blows when your girlfriend is no where near you... Plus, I’ve been trying to increase my stamina through the stop and start method. And being horny like that makes me want an orgasm right then and not put the needed time in that stop and start requires. Though, ill save my questions on stop and start for later.