i just had sex for the first time about five days ago and i've kind of been in a bit of discomfort since then. i had kind of weird orangey/thick discharge for a little while, but it cleared up so i thought it might have just been blood. but it's also kind of been itchy, weird smelling and still painful and kind of uncomfortable. it also hurt when i peed and i thought i might have had a UTI but it isn't as bad now. i don't think i could have an STD or anything. it was my first time and we were careful to use condoms. it was pretty rough though; he said i was really tight and it was really painful for me. i'm just unsure as to whether i might have some kind of infection or something? :/ or if my body is still trying to recover.
Wed, 06/01/2011 - 12:28
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Itchy, painful and, especially, smelly. The smell is the tipoff that you have a bacterial infection. Not necessarily an STD ( five days would be fast for one to become symptomatic) but some bacterial infection. It will intiensify and then wane a bit but will not cure itself. Whatever, you need to see a doctor because you need a prescription to clear this up.
was your sex partner a virgin as well? he was not then the rough sex could have broken the condom. whatever you have you need to go see a doctor. the signs you are experiencing are not normal for a healthy person. itching and painful urination are never normal.
@big916 he wasn't a virgin and i don't think it broke because he probably would have said something.
): ok. i can't get to see a doctor until monday though, so hopefully it'll be fine until then. thanks guys.
Sej when it comes to your body never trust anyones "words" or lack thereof. He says he's clean. He wraps it up. He doesn't say it broke yet you suddenly are having issues then go to the docs. I have known plent of men who don't say "oops I didn't get out in time". They just leave her to believe it.
sej - please - remember that when it is just you and him: you are the only true safeguard you have. It would be nice if every woman could rely upon every man but, no. I know we may sound scared to you first-timers and overly pessimistic but we have good reasons for our caution.
So we stress gyne exam before sex, all your shots received (Guardisil), BCPs or equivalent birth control and mandatory condom use (used properly) each and every time.
Dear Sej,
I hope your physician can help you out. I wish you best luck tomorow!
And after all the other encouraging posts out here, may I encourage you to step up for yourself?
I say this, because I get a bit worried when you write that it was "rough" and "very painful" to you. Sex should not be painful, no matter how "tight" or inexperienced you are. Uncomfortable and weird at first; yes, many experience this. But uncomfortable isn't the same as painful. Sex should be pleasurable and joyful! :) And I'd love for you and every (wo)man to experience only that! Embrace it, own it and don't accept being hurt. He should have stopped or at least gone very slow at the first sight of you in pain. Did you ask him to? Or suffered in silence?
If you again have sex with this guy or any guy for that matter; would you please tell him to stop when it hurts?
i didn't end up going because i can't really afford it atm (despite being a studeent no where bulk bills :/). it also sems to have gone away so im just keeping an eye on it. im going home anyway so i might see someone there. i've been drinking lots of water and stuff
i guess you're right. i should check the condoms or something next time. and well i kind of said but i mostly just ignored it. i kind of presumed pain was normal because i wasnt used to it. it wasn't bad just painful.
thanks though. you've all been really helpful and nice about it
My first time didn't hurt at all.The guy i had sex with wasn't a virgin but knew i was so he went slow and easy with me and i was highly aroused and very willing at 23 years old and fearing i'd be left on the shelf.Twenty one years later and it is still the best sexual experience i have ever had.Although my new boyfriend makes me very aroused.RR is right,first time or not it shouldn't hurt alot and the guy should go easy and stop or ease off when asked.Rough sex is ok,i like it but the guy should know your limits and talk to you to see if you are comfortable or not,and respect your wishes if you want him to stop or go slow.
the night right after i posted this it flared up really badly so i had to go to the doctors. he said it was definitely an infection and gave me antibiotics.
yeah and ill definitely tell him to ease up next time considering all these problems ._____.
Yes, sej. It is YOUR body so TELL him, don't just ask him.