The foreskin should, when erect and ready to go, pull back over the glans. It is not uncommon for young men to have the problem you describe. The idea that the tightness of the vagina will retract it is wrong.

If the foreskin will not retract, it can cause problems having sex, can be painful during erection and can harbor lots of germs. In Israel, where almost everyone is circumcised, the incidence of cervical cancer is very low. That is caused by HPV. It appears that uncircumcised men are more likely to be carries because of the difficulty of maintaining proper hygiene. Most men handle this well but if the foreskin will not retract, it is difficult to impossible.

What to do about it? Talk to your doctor. You could be circumcised; you could be slit allowing retraction or you could decide to do nothing. That is up to you and the doctor. There is no way anyone can make a good guess on a message board.

I do ask my women patients getting married about the state of their penis-to-be and make some recommendations.

Dude, i have to say, i have EXACTLY the same issue,

Same age (17), same problem, theres just no way it would happen with me :/

TBH, my girfriends never said anything to indicate anything strange, but ive always wondered...

lol, as harsh as it sounds, its rerassuring to know im not the only one and thus it might indeed not be anything to worry about ^_^

It is also possible to stretch the foreskin so that it will retract over the glans. It takes patience and persistence. You should start in a warm/hot bath which will relax the skin. Work at stretching it back over the glans. This process can take months, but it is an option other than surgery.

Other than a sexual issue, there IS a hygiene issue. The foreskin should be retracted to clean. There are diseases from a lack of cleanliness that affect not just any female you might be with, but yourself.

You might try this site:
http://www.healthboards.com/boards/showthread.php?t=210347

[QUOTE=Brandye]
I do ask my women patients getting married about the state of their penis-to-be and make some recommendations.[/QUOTE]
What kind of recommendations do you make? As an intact person, this topic is quite interesting to me.

> I just found out about the fact that you should be able to pull the foreskin back over the glans of the penis. I had never heard this before, and now im pretty worried.

I find it interesting that normal curiosity during the early teen years didn't have you fooling around with it. There is usually nothing to be worried about. The foreskin begins to separate from the Glans in the prepubescent years and has generally fully separated by the late teens, although the timeline can vary from individual to individual.

> Im only 17 years old, and honestly, it has never even occured to me to pull the foreskin that far back, it would hurt wont it?

It might or might not. It depends upon whether or not the foreskin has completely separated from the Glans or not, as well as the size of the opening. There was a thread over the weekend disucssing the matter of a tight albeit fully separated foreskin causing pain and discomfort when trying to retract it. If the foreskin has a wide opening that partially or almost covers the Glans then retraction should be easy. If it extends out in front wth a tiny opening then retraction might be difficult depending upon how pliant the skin is and how large the opening is. Generally speaking, once full separation from the Glans has occured, the foreskin will slide back and forth easily except as noted. Here is a link to some animated images. (Depending upon your d/l spead, it may take a few moments before you see any action.) http://www.erectionphotos.com/motion/MotionPage2.htm

> Is this necessary to be able to do?

Yes, no, & maybe.

Yes- because you will want to clean between the foreskin and Glans when you bathe

Yes- if you want variety in the type of sensations you experience when retracted vs when extended.

No- if touching and stimulating the Glans is too uncomfortable when exposed and touched directly.

Maybe- if you want to build up a tolerence in order to be able to stimulate the Glans directly once in a while and as an alternative to stimulating it directly.

As Brandye notes, it is important for the foreskin to retract when the penis becomes erect.

The foreskin should be able to go all the way back behind the Corona Rim of the Glans where it tucks in making a series of corrugations.

My foreskin overlaps the end of the penis by about 1cm (like a bottle neck squeezed together) Only recently did I realise that it's supposed to retract to allow the glans to be exposed (though the skin was very tight) I first noticed this when my girl gave me a handjob and the foreskin went right back.

I mentioned this to my Urologist (Who was examining a lump in my testicle - nothing sinister, just cysts I get) He tried to retract it an prescribed 2% hydrocortizone gel (after a bath to apply the HC to the rim of the foreskin for a month. This I did, and while the foreskin retracts easier, it's now quite hard and painful to get it to come back in fact it sometimes rolls up. I have scheduled another appointment with him to discuss circumcision (which he said he'd be happy to do at the first appointment)

My advice would be to see your doc if you're at all worried.

Moose,

If the uncircumcised man has the problems being discussed here, she and he and a doctor should have a chat. These issues can lead to a difficult sex life and also hygiene problems. It is better to get this worked before problems arise. If her husband to be retracts normally, I make nor recommendation because there will likely be no problems.

One thing about the circumsizing deal,,I think it depends on how old you are,because I know when I had it done I couldn't walk for a year!!:eek: ;)

Benefit or curse, that is the question....

A lot of us guys who have been "cut" envy those of you who remain intact. Why? Because you have lots of extra sensitivity that we have lost over the years due to exposure. As great as those sensations are, they are weak compared to what a "natural" man is able to enjoy. This was confirmed a few years ago when a friend who underwent the knife as a young adult due to medical reasons and watched his penis become dull by comparison over the years commented on the matter. The reason this happens is that the nerve endings in the Glans are exposed and in constant contact with skin, hair and clothing and although the abrasive effect is tiny, it builds over the years eventually dulling our sensitivity.

The uncut man has the potential to enjoy the effects of being stimulated either through the protective layer afforded by the foreskin, or directly when it is retracted. In addition, many additional nerve endings are in the foreskin that we no longer have benefit of.

So, yes, while your Glans may be hyper-sensitive when touched and rubbed directly, it is likely to remain this way; however, you may be able to build up a tolerence because many men are able to also enjoy being touched and stimulated directly. Variety is spice.

I've often wondered about how sensitive the glans is compared to a clitoris. Consider that both share a common heritage and there are as many nerves in the tip of the clitoris as there are in the Glans of the penis. The difference is that they are packed together in an area about the size of a pencil eraser! No wonder women like the clitoris to be fondled indirectly. If you think you are sensitive, imagine what it must be like for the typical woman!

[QUOTE=dancingdoc2]
I've often wondered about how sensitive the glans is compared to a clitoris. [/QUOTE]
Let me put it this way: I've never received oral that wasn't painful in some measure. It's really sensitive and I don't want to imagine how painful it would be if I was walking around with the foreskin open and the head rubbing against my underwear.

Most women I've talked with about it seemed quite interested and some openly expressed interest in fooling around with an uncut guy. It is fun to teach a woman how to open it though as it is the first step in her giving you a hand job. :D

Then why not keep the oral stimulation to the outside and not have her lips and tongue touch the Glans? In place or retracted, you have many more nerves and more sensitive nerves than those of us who have no foreskin so enjoy oral stimulation and hand jobs any way you can.

[QUOTE=dancingdoc2]Then why not keep the oral stimulation to the outside and not have her lips and tongue touch the Glans? In place or retracted, you have many more nerves and more sensitive nerves than those of us who have no foreskin so enjoy oral stimulation and hand jobs any way you can.[/QUOTE]
This advice makes sense, and I've tried it that way on occasion. We couldn't get it to "work just right" but I don't think either of us was practiced or fine tuned enough to say it was a failure. (Argh, I wish I could describe it better.)

I'm looking for a girlfriend again now so sooner or later I'll get a chance to experiment with that again. Though really I am more of a handjob guy, both giving and receiving, so perhaps that is the more appropriate choice for me overall.

In my experience, the foreskin stays retracted over the gland a lot easier if you use some lube on it. That way, the foreskin essentially slides and remains folded under the corona. When it's dry, it tends to roll and so that folding effect doesn't really take place.

As for the pain, well, I don't know how to answer that. I do remember a few years back when experimenting a bit (nothing too extreme, of course) I probably caused the foreskin to seperate from the glans by a means speeder than was meant. There was no bleeding, but my penis was sore for a few days and there was a bit of a purple bruise, but nothing of the sort has happened again.

is this only for guys who arnt circumsized yet?

Please clarify your question. I am not sure what you are asking.

[QUOTE=gratefullydreaded]is this only for guys who arnt circumsized yet?[/QUOTE]

Probably, as circumcised guys don't have a foreskin to retract.

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i'm so glad to see this thread, bit of a personal story coming on here but all throughout my childhood i was unaware that you could pull your foreskin back at all, but then when i saw pictures in sex ed, i thought whats wrong with me?so for several years i wondered what was wrong with me, everytime i tried to pull it back it was too tight and hurt really badly, but then when i met a girl i really liked i tried harder than ever and i actually managed to pull it all the way back, then i couldn't put it back to how it was before = ( but i simply had to cos the glands were toooo sensative by far, so in pain i managed to pull it back, i left it for a few months but then i though "to hell with it" and tried again, it was so painful if i pulled it back and got and erection, just felt like i was streching it, but then after i kept doing it eventually i could retract and put it back normally with no pain, the glands weren't too sensitive and everything is great = )

oh and i got with the girl i liked and we are still together in a healthy sexual relationship = )

anyways lol thanks for this topic = )

[QUOTE=Akitsa;137105]I just found out about the fact that you should be able to pull the foreskin back over the glans of the penis. I had never heard this before, and now im pretty worried.
My friend says it happens during penetrative sex anyway due to tightness of the vagina.

Im only 17 years old, and honestly, it has never even occured to me to pull the foreskin that far back, it would hurt wont it?

Is this necessary to be able to do?[/QUOTE]

Well like it or not it does happen. I'm uncircumsized aswell and I thought it would hurt to. However, during sex all the "wetness"(from you and her) help ease it and you actually don't really feel it. So as long as she's very wet I don't think you should have too much of a problem.

[QUOTE=Brandye;137109]The foreskin should, when erect and ready to go, pull back over the glans. It is not uncommon for young men to have the problem you describe. The idea that the tightness of the vagina will retract it is wrong.[/QUOTE]

Long time reader, first time poster etc. I'm sure you know what I mean. Anyway, I decided to post due to my own personal issue with this. When I was 17 I had the same issues as the threadstarter. Having recently begun to have sex (Lots of it actually) I found that the issue sorted itself out on it's own. My first time was a bit awkward, but by about the 7th (In the space of 24 hours... Was quite a good day actually ;)) my penis was fine. The foreskin now retracts fully. So Brandye, I have to say... Sometimes the tightness of the vagina will retract it.

Of course, I'm sure that I was very lucky that this happened, and it could have ruined sex for me. But I just thought I'd point out that there is always the slight possibility that this sort of thing will work out.

If you've not got a young lady you can test it with, go to the doctor. He'll be the next best thing :p

when i am with my boyfriend and his foreskin goes rite back he gets pretty worried and puls it up again, i did quite no what was happening at the time but now i've read this i am more aware of what happens to the guys penis, should i tell him that its ok?

For hygine purpose, the foreskin has to be pulled back and the dirt (usually white or off white) is to be washed off. Teenage boys should be thought this to clean themselves.

Yes, its sensitive when the head of the penis is fully exposed, but you will get used to it. Need not worry about loosing the sensitivity, you will experience the full satisfaction of oral and intercourse.

Keep yourself clean, your lover will appreciate it

I am here reading these posts as a girl about to get involved in a relationship with an uncircumsized man. I want to know some of the differences that might become part of our sex lives as opposed to the sex lives I've had previously with circumsized men. I have tried reading patiently through these posts, but right now am wondering if anyone has come across something useful and informative either on this site or as a link out of it.

Thanks for any help, and I will keep looking.

~S. Cabronita~

Some uncircumcised men have difficulty puttin condoms but most get this figured out. Higher in this thread is a comment about one always experiencing pain with fellatio because of the extreme sensitivity of the protected glas. That you have to work out with your man. Generally, there is no difference for us women - once it is in us, they feel the same.

My concern is always hygiene. If the dforeskin is retractable and the man practices good hygiene, no problem. If the foreskin will not retract fully it is not possible to clean the corona properly. This should be addressed with his doctor.

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating.

The differences between natural and circumcised is mostly a guy thing, meaning that other than cosmetics there is nothing that would really impact you or the two of you as a duo. As good as the sensations are for those of us who have been "cut", they are a whole lot more intense for the man sporting a foreskin. There are two reasons for this; first, the foreskin covers and protects the sensitive nerves in the Glans and they remain extremely sensitive; second, there are sensitive nerves in the Foreskin that also contribute to his pleasure and enjoyment. So, you have an additional part of him to pleasure that is missing from the rest of us.

For the rest of us without a Foreskin, the nerves in the Glans become desensitized over time because of constant contact with clothing and the elements that over time make them less sensitive.

Of concern to both of you, especially him, is the fact that he must make hygiene a priority if he hasn't already done so. The area between the Glans and Foreskin must be washed daily in order to prevent the buildup of Smegma, the white pasty substance. Left uncared for this can cause health problems.

If his Foreskin retracts fully, the Glans might be too sensitive to touch much. You'll have to experiment. If this is the case then you will have to stimulate the Glans indirectly through the foreskin. It may be possible over time to desensitize the Glans just enough in order to give it a h/j or b/j directly.

If the Foreskin does not retract fully, and depending upon how much of the Glans/Meatus is exposed if any, you will just be working with it primarily. Considering that he derives more intense stimulation then which ever way he is built, you will know he will be enjoying much more intense pleasure.

Foreskins come in a variety of sizes. On the short side, they just barely cover the Corona Rim; others partially cover the Glans leaving the tip/Meatus exposed; while on the long side, there are those that extend out in front with a straw-like protuberance. By a boy's mid to late teens the Foreskin should retract partially or fully from just playing with it and stretching it over time out of curiosity and natural inclination. If his does not, and he finds cleaning under it difficult or impossible, he should probably talk to his family doctor.

I hope this answers your question. If not, please be more specific and I'll try and zero in on your concern.

I appreciate the information, and it did help me. Thanks Dancingdoc2 I was concerned that more than the sex, his enjoyment of oral and of handjobs would require a different approach than that of an uncircumsized man. I thought to seek insight before approaching him with the questions, because I like to do my homework ;). guess like all sex, the stimuli/response combination is individual and only he can answer those questions.

Since he always wears condoms and he's experienced, I am not worried about whether his foreskin complicates that aspect. I just worry about hurting him or over-stimulating with Oral, or masterbating him.

I do have a specific question though in this regards...is having foreskin what makes the difference between him being visually or verbally stimulated to the point of cumming without any contact being made with his cock? This happened to him/us and it is new to me. I always thought a guy had to be at least being touched before he'd cum. Is that more myth and lack of knowledge or a difference between being circumsized versus natural.

[QUOTE=serafinacabronita;221665]I appreciate the information, and it did help me. Thanks Dancingdoc2 I was concerned that more than the sex, his enjoyment of oral and of handjobs would require a different approach than that of an uncircumsized man.
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You're welcome. This why we volunteer our time.

As for delivering a hand job, that shouldn't be any different as it pertains to the shaft. Of course a good hand job can also extend to the Glans, particularly the Meatus, Corona Rim, and Frenulum. You may have to make some adjustments in how these are worked with, so explore and work together. He can tell you what works and what doesn't.[/COLOR]

Since he always wears condoms and he's experienced, I am not worried about whether his foreskin complicates that aspect. I just worry about hurting him or over-stimulating with Oral, or masterbating him.

[COLOR="Teal">Well, it is still possible to unintentionally hurt him by tugging on the foreskin if--
A. it won't retract
B. it is retracted behind the Corona and you try to pull it back farther. Just handle with care until you get to "know it".[/COLOR] :confused:

I do have a specific question though in this regards...is having foreskin what makes the difference between him being visually or verbally stimulated to the point of cumming without any contact being made with his cock? This happened to him/us and it is new to me. I always thought a guy had to be at least being touched before he'd cum. Is that more myth and lack of knowledge or a difference between being circumsized versus natural.[/QUOTE]

This is interesting. No, this did not happen because he has a foreskin. That this happened is a direct result of him being so turned by you and your activities that he was brought to the brink of an orgasm by all the fooling around and his mind did the rest. Smile a wry knowing little smile and enjoy the power you have over him. :D

You know I'm quite curious what my guy did different that he has none of these problems. His foreskin retracts fully quite easily, and yes his head is quite sensitive during oral but its not unbearable for him. I guess he was just curious or taught properly, because he never had a problem with it being too tight and its comfortable enough for him that I can move it up and down while giving him a handjob. I keep reading these threads on here, and it really..sort of amazes me how I got so "lucky" I guess.