Brandye,
You will probably know the answer to this question...I hope!
I have been having sex with a partner who is probably a little too big for me, at least it seems so. Unless I'm incredibly warmed up and turned on, we have to use tons of lube, and even then it's a bit of a tight fit. Anyways, a few days ago I started noticing a bit of discomfort, as in pain when peeing, or just spreading my legs.Checked it out with a mirror, and i think they are fissures, or small cuts starting from my vaginal opening to my anus. (We also had anal sex not long ago that didn't go so well)
Apart from not ever having anal sex again...lol... with this pain, is there something I can do???Home remdies, creams, etc etc. I've had them before but just tiny like paper cuts. This looks more like tearing from childbirth!! (Not that I would know....)
any help would be great!
It would be best to see a gyn and, embarassing as it may be, tell the whole story. Doctors hear it all and is usually is candy-coated. That leaves us guessing. I saw a woman similarly torn last week and her story was so convoluted that I ignored what she said and made my own decision about what had happened.
I cannot estimate whether the tears came from vaginal or anal sex. They would be more common in anal. Unless this guy is really important to you, you may want to move on. You are capable of accommodating him but it will take some time and practice. And you should not be practicing until the tears are COMPLETELY healed. You are off vaginal sex for a couple weeks. Do use an anti-bacterial cream but it would be best to see your doctor.
Thanks for the advice Brandye.
I've been using Ihle's Paste...apparently it's good for cute, and also treats diaper rash, so the pharmacist said it would be safe to use there.
I always tell my doctor the complete truth as horrible as it might sound, because why lie?? I find I always get a much more thorough treatment if I just lay it all out there for him.
Will go see my gyn asap, and have already told this guy we would have to take it easy for a while. No problem with that for him, strangely enough. (He probably thinks this just means more blow jobs for him... lol)