This is my first time looking at these kinds of forums and my first time ever doing anything with a woman, so be gentle.
Last night me and my girlfriend, she's my first and I am her third, were cuddling together and she let me play wiht her for the first time. I don't have any experience in this "field" and wanted to give her the most pleasure I can give her. After massaging her brests and rubbing/sucking/nibbling(her suggestion) her nipples for a while we embraced and I began to trace my finger lightyly around the back of her sholders. Just as I began she started trembling and saying that was a sensation she had never had (This is normal?) and after doing that for a it she had asked me to finger her.
As I have said this was all new to me and I had not a clue what to do. So I started to explore, I had rubbed all around inside and she had felt kind of "sticky/gooey" and slightly dry. I had felt that she liked it most when I hooked my fingers foward/upwards and stroked. (Is that the G-Spot?) After rubbing for about 5 minutes her mussles contracted a few times (Is that her orgasming?) and after about 20 min of doing that Her mussles Contracted for about a minute and she asked me to stop.
Then she came up and hugged me and we kissed and cuddled for a while all the time she trembled, I continued to trace my finger around her back like she seemed to like, and after about 4 minutes she said she had seen lights flash across her sight and that she had never experienced that before. (What is with the lights? I have never herd of that before.) then about 3 hours later we woke up at about 5 am and she wanted me to finger her some more, so I did. She was really wet this time and I felt the contractions come sooner and faster but she didn't want to go much more then 5 minutes because she said she felt as if she was about to burst. (I am kind of oblivious to some things and ignorant to others I am kind of confused by what she mend because we havent talked about it much, she is kind of embaresed.) All I want to do is please her. I am looking for tips on how to please her and kind of looking for what I should try not to do. He haven't had sex yet but I would like to know what I should do for her to be pleased.
Sounds to me like Beginner's Luck paid off big time!
The female orgasm is much more internalized than the male's so to be certain whether or not she climaxed, I believe it is good etiquette to let him know either by verbal or non-verbal feedback.
I don't know about the flashes, either, although I have heard others describe this phenomenon on occasion. Sounds to me like you got her so worked up there were some electrical disturbances in the optic nerve that manifested themselves visually--heck, I dunno.
That she was about to burst could mean that she experienced several orgasms in a row and just could not take another. Communication is the cornerstone of every successful relationship--you should ask her what is going on and also ask for feedback when she climaxes.
She said that she had loved the whole thing but couldn't take any more at the moment. I figured I had done something right but I just want her to to be pleased in the long run too.
I love being with her and just holding hands is fine, I could do that all day, I love staring into her eyes, and she blushes easily so it's a little fun doing that all the time. V-Day is comming up and we don't know what to do. She had told me that she has never had a toy and was thinking of suprising her with one. I don't know if that is the right thing or not. I have never been in love before and can't tell if what I feel is love or not. I feel as if I do. Every time she says "I love you" and kisses me on the cheek my mind just doesn't work. . . God I don't want to screw this up. . . I don't want us to end up in a relationship baised on sex, that is the main fear that we both share. one last question before I am off to school. How much playing around/sex is too much?
First Valentines day together? First love? I would not buy her a sex toy...hell buy her something romantic, get a toy as an extra surprise! I think if this is a new relationship a toy sends "I just want sex" as a message. When her parents ask what you gave her for VD day; what is she going to say? Oh, a sex toy...This is just my opinion...Buy her a pendant, something she can wear around her neck daily to remind her of you, suprise her w/a toy "just because".
I wasn't just going to get her a toy that would be as you said "I just want sex". No I am Getting her some new emerald earrings a single rose I would do more but all she wants is one. I am also going to be taking her out to dinner or a picnic havent decided yet.
[QUOTE=ShyGuyAmI;166330]I wasn't just going to get her a toy that would be as you said "I just want sex". No I am Getting her some new emerald earrings a single rose I would do more but all she wants is one. I am also going to be taking her out to dinner or a picnic havent decided yet.[/QUOTE]
Dang, what a spoiled little girl. She's makeing out better than mine for sure! LOL
Jeez, Old Kid, what's wrong with you?
I'm in love with a devil dog (read- Marine which is supposed to mean blatent piggy perv) and he gets me jewelry for all sorts of special occasions. (I absolutely loved his Christmas present of a diamond heart pendant, some books, and a boxed DVD set of our favorite show.)
I think that somebody's missing out!
I wa just making sure you were not buying her a VD gift of the toy...you said you did not want to screw it up...Don't over buy either for VD day...BUT get her a realy nice card!
shyguyami - i am officially super jealous of your girlfriend - you should give my bf lessons lol
I just want her to be pleased and it seems I am doing ok. I don't have any friends to ask for advice so I turned to the next best thing. Thanks.
I wanted to clear a couple things up I was in a rush to get to school this morning. 1. She had told me she never had an orgasm and didn't know what one felt like that's why I was saking if that is what it was.
and 2. About the toy I only wanted to get her one because She said she wanted one but couldn't afford one and was too embarassed to go in a shop and even look at them.
Well, I still wouldn't make it the Valentine's Day gift. Maybe as an aside, but make sure you talk it over first.
I don't want this relationship to be only about sex but she wants it. She also wants more than that as I do. I would never want to do something to ruin the relationship or hurt her. She wants our first time having sex to be on V-Day so thats why I thought of the toy so I could give her more than just sex but a nnight of pleasure.
You will be her toy for pleasure! Just enjoy the romance of VD day; save the toy for another time in the future!!!
I just don't know what I am doing this kind of relationship/feelings are new to her and all new to me. Some of the other guys she has dated only wanted her for her body and she had fell in love with one of them and he hurt her bad not phisyicaly but he drove her into depression. I don't want to do that. I want to make her feel like the special someone she is. I am a little afraid too but I think that is just because I have never had any real friends or any experience with this.
First time love is scarey but it's also wonderful! Enjoy it, you will not screw it up. Just talk a lot--communicate and let her know you love her for the person inside & let her know she is the most beautiful person in the world to you! You can tell when someone is being truthful w/you it's in their eyes...Don't worry so much!
Thank you. Should I get a lubrication for our first time? And if so what kind?
It's your first love, just keep shagging her,treating her nice and eventually you'll both have to move on.enjoy the ride while you can
Okay, pick up a bottle of KY warming gel just in case! The flavored ones are fun but they get really stickey and are too sweet...it kind of makes the two of you stick together in the not so pleasant way, make sure she is really wet before you try sliding in if not keep arousing her. The gel feels good for both men & women (I like it for when I give him a handjob) and if I've taken sudafed (for a cold) it dries me up so the KY works well; just don't buy KY surgical lub it belongs in the hospital!
[QUOTE=SexySass69;166343]Jeez, Old Kid, what's wrong with you?
I'm in love with a devil dog (read- Marine which is supposed to mean blatent piggy perv) and he gets me jewelry for all sorts of special occasions. (I absolutely loved his Christmas present of a diamond heart pendant, some books, and a boxed DVD set of our favorite show.)
I think that somebody's missing out![/QUOTE]
God bless you both, Sass. Nothing wrong with me, just financially straped these days. Divorce and some other legal crap, too much money going to attorneys. Don't worry though, my little girl won't be forgotten. She makes me too happy for that. Just that her B-day comes 2weeks after Xmas and now we got V-day. Jeez...then the taxes are due...Yikes! :eek: Oh well, one day at a time.
Now that's not a thought I like. I don't want to move on. I want to be with her for aslong as she stil loves me.
[QUOTE=sera300;166436]Okay, pick up a bottle of KY warming gel just in case! The flavored ones are fun but they get really stickey and are too sweet...it kind of makes the two of you stick together in the not so pleasant way, make sure she is really wet before you try sliding in if not keep arousing her. The gel feels good for both men & women (I like it for when I give him a handjob) and if I've taken sudafed (for a cold) it dries me up so the KY works well; just don't buy KY surgical lub it belongs in the hospital![/QUOTE]
Thanks for the assistance.
Should I bring more than one condom? and what kind should I get?
Bring a few of them! Ask the guys here about the better condoms...I don't know too much of what is out there these days!!!
Should I change if I cum and want to continue if I am still hard?
When you cum always remove the old condom and put a new one on. Be careful to hold on to the base of your penis and keep the condom fully on while you remove it to prevent potential leakage. If you have not used them before practice before the big day. Either get yourself hard and put them on or practice unrolling them on a bananna (this is what they taught in high school in sex ed--everyone had to practice on the fruit). Hopefully as part of foreplay she will help you, but if not be sure how to do it!!!
Which condoms? I don't know anymore which are good since I have not used them w/a partner in about 15 years. Some of the guys here can prob. tell you (or some of the women). Just don't buy the neon ones!!!
i'm sure you did please her - A LOT!
from the info i have it sounds like an orgasm - i had a hard time with that at first as well when my bf and i became sexualy active
it's one of those things where you jus know cuz it's something you'll never feel any other way lol