if your on BC, and you use a condom, id like to say you are very safe (in terms of STD's and what not)

dont be nervous, because if you are nervous, and "chicken out", your likely to repeat that and make it a habit of not going for it.

take the plunge, the water is deep, come up for air and tell us how it is.

dont worry, if your nervous, he (more than likely) is too.

Okay well, this advice might come too little too late - but for what it's worth:

If your scared, wait. That's my best advice. You should be excited and full of anticipation when you have sex, not scared. Don't rush into it if you are not ready, because you won't really enjoy it as much as you could. I rushed into my first time and ended up regretting it.

Thats my 2 cents.

I'd say you're too nervous and not ready for this at all. Seriously. I'm basing this (lightheartedly) on the fact that you're chattering like an auctioneer. The "." key is two keys to the right of the "m" key.

I agree with the above....

Sex should wait if you are nervous...thats the best advice anyone can give. I would make sure you are 100% comfortable with your boy and yourself before. Since you havent even seen eachother out of your underwear, maybe start from there. If you are nervous about it, you might end up regretting your decision later on...

dont "take the plunge" just yet....

I suggest that you learn to type and use punctuation.

Next I recommend that you educate yourself far more about sex, anatomy, and love than you have so far. From your note, you know far too little to be safe and and responsible.

Subjects to learn are:
* The art of making out
+ necking
+ petting
+ heavy petting
+ foreplay
and what is involved in each and how to progress from one stage to the other. In addition, how each of you become aroused and the different timelines involved for each of you
+ intercourse
* Boundaries and when to stop and when to extend it
* Contraception
* Your respective anatomies
* What to do to prevent a pregnency
* What to do if one occurs

You also need to address your religious beliefs
You have to establish just how far each of you is willing to go. Very often couples stop short of intercourse for many reasons important to them.

> we have condoms but dont know whats more enjoyable anyone got advise

To use or not to use a condom is not about enjoyment, it is about lowering the chance of a pregnancy. If you are not prepared to be an unwed mother, to have your life and goals forever changed, then you need to take responsibility for this and (also) use a contraceptive. I recommend seeing your physician, healthcare provider, or Planned Parenthood at the very least, before ever allowing a penis anywhere near your vagina. The same holds true for him. If he is not yet ready to be an unwed father, to support a child, and to have his life and goals forever changed, then he needs to take responsibility for his part in this. The younger the participants, the more chances there are for unplanned unwanted pregnancies. Lastly, treat any penis as if it is a loaded gun with a hair-trigger ready and able to fire live ammo. For all practical purposes, a penis is a loaded cannon with an extremely hair-trigger. Be extremely aware of where it is pointed and how close to the 'target" it is!

I fully understand the appeal and draw that getting close to and naked with a boy is; however, from all that you have written, you are much to naive, unsophisticated, and uninformed to be doing more than kissing each other above the shoulders. Slow way down, take the time to learn about the things you do not know to include the things you do not know you do not know and then learn how to each of you becomes physically and emotionally aroused and then how to incorporate necking and petting into the equation.

Even after doing all these things, I wouldn't rush into intercourse. I'd stop short of this and you need to know before reaching this point how to say "NO". Very often young boys will say and do most anything in order to get into a girl's panties. Once having done so, they frequently turn the other cheek. Do you want to take a chance on this happening? The less a boy has invested in the relationship the more apt he is to simply use it and you as a means to satisfy his "itch". The answer here is to spend many more months developing the relationship. If he truly values you and what the two of you are working on achieving together, then he will wait.

You should also be aware that giving each other hand jobs and/or oral stimulation is far more stimulating than intercourse. As fantastic as intercourse is, it's realm of pleasure is with the psyches and emotions of the participants. If you have not created and established this bond, then you are much better off stopping short of intercourse.

There is a tremendous amount of information for the two of you to research and read on this website. Here are two other websites:

For him--
http://members.optusnet.com.au/~au

For you--and for him--
http://www.scarleteen.com/

Begin here by reading "Am I Ready For Sex?" on the second page of Chick Chat.

dang, i stand corrected.

after looking at it the second time...

sheez. your probably not ready, and i advise you do what the doctor says. he's good at this.

[QUOTE=champloo]d...and i advise you do what the doctor says. he's good at this.[/QUOTE]

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