I have an issue, and maybe some others out there can relate to this...
I got involved with a guy a few weeks ago, nothing more than heavy petting, under the clothes, etc. It didnt go as far as getting fingered, and we didnt kiss (idanno, just wasnt in the cards). Im definitely a virgin,...and kinda a virgin to everything, including the petting. I enjoyed it a lot, and we met up later that week and did it again. But this guy has gone away for two months for some training at a camp, and im left alone at home with a few amazing experiences, and a longing for him to come home so we can experiment some more...i definitely also have feelings for him and he has feelings for me, but we arent dating and we decided to wait until he got home to decide anything.
My problem is that i like it and i want it. Ive been masturbating more frequently now that he's gone, and think about him while i am. I lust for it, and im not sure if i can wait 2 months with masturbation for him to get back. Does anyone find it wrong that i have the strong urge to go looking around and fooling around with other people? This may be confusing, and i may just be stupid, but the feelings are new and i think im a little confused myself. it kindof comes down to i can decide if i want the 'lust or love' (though im CERTAINLY not in love with this guy)
Sorry to write so much, maybe someone can give me their helpful advice...feel free anyone else to post if they have or had a problem similar to this.
im more old school than not it seems... heavens how times have changed.... i got a real lousy track record with guys ... part why i think the way i do - i have a real problem with sex sex sex, dont love the guy but sure good enough to have sex with him.... cant go without having sex for 2 months so just any guy will do....
WHAT are they teaching kids these days? ok to screw around any ol time you get the need to get your rocks off fine and dandy okey dokey you both got no feelings towards each other, dont know last names, just met, never gonna cross paths again, just as long as you practice safe sex ....
well well well must seem real silly that us ol folks got fed a bunch of balogna like we had to have deep feelings for a person before having sexual contact... one night stands - oh eeek gads all those poor gals we labeled as sluts just had more sexual tension they had to relieve, and those poor virgin brides ... guess tho they can still catch up - mail man comes around, carryout at the grocery, boss, co workers... world still full of guys aint had pleasure with yet......
Of course, it's not wrong.
You say you aren't even dating. Unless you made some sort of commitment to wait for each other, I'd say you are completely within your rights to continue looking. BUT, keep in mind, there may be consequences. How will he feel if he finds out you are still looking? Is this worth not seeing him again if he reacts badly? Just imagine him asking the same questions that you are. How would you feel? If you can deal with that, then keep exploring.
Remember to play safe.