> i had sex for the first time with my bf yesterday n he kept hitting a spot which made me feel like pee-ing...is that normal???

I am not qualified to answer this; however, pressure against the wall of the vagina can press against the urethra or bladder causing the sensation. I do not know how prevalent this is among women; however, if the bladder is empty you can consider this a false signal. A false signal is also experienced by many transitioning from a preorgasmic state to an orgasmic when learning how to masturbate to climax. The sensation often inhibits a woman's progress toward reaching the trigger point of her orgasm unless she learns to ignore the signal and push right on through it. I recommend making sure you empty your bladder before having intercourse and if you experience the signal, just ignore it.

> also i felt good but didn't reach an orgasm....is that normal too?

Yes and no. The answer depends upon several factors. First, are you able to masturbate to orgasm? If your answer is no, then you must first learn to do this regularly and consistently. The reason is because each of us is responsible for our own orgasms--we do not give them away to our partner. If you have never experienced orgasms at your own hand, you absolutely cannot expect your partner to bring them about for you. All any of us can do is to help our partner achieve her/his own. Boys quickly learn to make this transition right out of puberty; very often girls learn at an older age or not at all. If you have successfully made this transition and enjoy orgasms then the answer may be:

that very few sexual positions actually permit enough continuous or ongoing contact in order to generate the required buildup of friction necessary to reach an orgasm. When you think about it the touch and go bouncing around that we do is not enough to create the mount of friction we need. The answers are:

1. for the man to reach around and finger his partner while stroking and thrusting
2. for you to use one of the few positions that actually do bring the two of you into more or less constant contact. These are the Woman Superior posiltion and the "X" and "Y" positions for starters. The last two are the same except for the placement of legs. The two of you recline on your sides facing each other and at an angle that premits your pieces-parts to rub against his pubic mound and base of the penis.

> it hurt a little bit,and i suppose it's because he's quite big,and i'm a lot smaller than he is.

This might be a possibility. With women new to intercourse, the vaginal opening is often rather small. It will stretch over time, although this process can be quickened by stretching it with your fingers each day for several days or a few weeks.

> ...plus we could explore more foreplay n use lubricants

More and more foreplay is a good thing. Lubrication is not always a necessity, especially if the woman has become very highly aroused. If a condom is used then it is usually recommended that a lubricant be applied even if the make/model is a lubricated one.

Entirely normal. The vagina extends upwards directly behind you bladder. Rummaging around in there often causes the urge to pee. As you learn what positions and angles work best, this will be no problem.

It is rare that a woman experiences orgasm her first time. There is so much new happening that we get distracted (as with your urge to pee) and are not able to fully respond.

In Chick Chat, read "Female Sexual Response" and a few others of your choosing.

could he be hitting her g-spot?