I'm 19 and I've had boyfriends before but all I've ever done is kiss them. I am a virgin and I have never done anything sexual with a guy. But now I am very attracted to a guy I work with. He is a wonderful, funny, nice guy and I've known him for 5 months (since I started at my current job). I really want to become sexually active with him (he likes me too; we flirt and send sexy text-messages to each other on our cell phones), but I'm so self-conscious and nervous. Also, he doesn't know I'm a virgin because of the way I act. I want to entice him so I pretend I'm experienced (for now anyway; before having sex with him I would tell him I'm a virgin). I don't know what to do at all and I'm nervous about showing him my body because I think it is not very attractive. I'm 5'6, about 148 lbs, size A breasts, and my stomach is kinda chubby.(but people tell me I'm pretty and skinny). I know I'm so nervous because I have never been intimate with a guy but I really want to be intimate with this guy. So, please help me. Tell me what you guys think I should do to overcome my extreme self-consciousness and what bascially happens when you have sex for the first time. What am I supposed to do? Am I supposed to initiate everything? What should I do during intercourse? Thanks for reading this. I know it's quite long. Please help me. 
Tue, 11/30/2004 - 11:06
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first time worries
You're welcome.
People will always frown upon the age thing but speaking from experience...if the age gap doesn't bother either of you, then it doesn't matter what the others think.
thanx tease.
[QUOTE=Quote (TommyBoy @ Nov. 30 2004,15:40)]You're 19 and hes 30? :S[/QUOTE]
I guess you have a problem with that?
Bet you'd hate to know that my first time and the only person I've ever been with is almost 20 years older than me.
So, to speak on behalf of the age issue, age is nothing but a number.
If it doesn't bother you and it doesn't bother him, then that's all you have to worry about. Don't worry about how others may view it because others don't know the reason you're together in the first place because they're not you, and they're not him.
And all that being said, just make sure you want him to be your first.
Even though there was a huge age gap between me and my guy, I knew that he was the one I wanted to lose it to and almost a year later, I still couldn't imagine losing it to anyone else.
try this link first...
http://www.sexinfo101.com/ic_herfirst.shtml
it may answer all your questions.
I do want to stress the articles advice to wait to have sex until it's with someone you really love and trust. Don't just 'give it up' because you don't want to be a virgin anymore. It's a rite of passage, make it a good thing to remember.
And if you're worried about your body...
there are tons of topics on this message board dealing with girls and how guys view their different shapes. And excercise if YOU'RE unhappy with the way you look. Don't do it for the guy you've been pining over that may not stick around long. Be selfish. Look better for you.
One other thing, he's dated a stripper and had threesomes huh? You ought to ask him what his sexual history is before you hop into the sack with him. Don't wanna get any nasty STD's.
I hope my advice helped.
You're 19 and hes 30? :S
by the way, he is older (30) and has dated a stripper and had a three-some and all so he's quite experienced. If that info makes a difference in your replies. Thanks.