One failure is nothing to be concerned about. Relax and try again. As long as you are communicating and helping one another, fine. If this happens repeatedly, there may be other issues.

If you read around a bit, you will find similar discussions. You can raise the issue again if the problem persists on a forum or in a pm.

well one is don't stress it that will cause problems next time, relax and have A LOT of foreplay and here is why

1. having him do this will make him familiar with your vagina and the surrounding parts will probably stop that from happening again

2. unless its just a quickie i would strongly recommend at least 30 minutes of foreplay if not more

3. with the foreplay even if the actualy sex isn't amazing (which is most likely going to suck) you will both have a good time

hope this helps

Not Foreplay. Make out first for half an hour or more then add this part to the mix. It's not all about Foreplay, rather the build up that comes before like Necking, Petting, and, Heavy Petting. These are all stages of activities that progressively build excitement, sexual tension, expectation, and arousal. Foreplay is the icing on the layer cake that is the actual foundation.

Any one or more of these individual elements might last half an hour or more. My point being, "Foreplay" is not the be all end all, it is the activity that follows everything else unless as you say, the couple is after a "Quickie". The term refers to and categorizes manual stimulation (hand job) and oral stimulation that go together to peak all those sensations and desires that have been built before.

As for first time intercourse problems--there can be various reasons why this was a problem. Hopefully by the time you read this, the matter will have solved itself, as Brandye suggests. If it has not, here are some suggestions:

* Relax and be comfortable with each other and the setting
* As above, devote lots of time to the build up.
+ Necking- kissing and fondling above the shoulders
+ Petting- activities that exclude the genitals with the clothes on
+ Heavy Petting- activities that can include the genitals as the clothes are partially or completely removed in stages

The above activities are inclusive meaning a couple progress from A to B to C then revisit A add D and so on and on.

Once you become very highly aroused from all of these activities, add foreplay which concentrates on the primary and secondary erogenous zones (look them up) yet (and this is important) includes all of the kissing and caressing that has gone on before.

* Check the condition of your Hymen. Do you know if it is fully or partially intact? Do you know where the membrane ends? This is important because this open area is where the tip of the penis should be placed in order to help have an easier access. (A lot of guys will simply poke the hymen arbitrarily and it is much more difficult to break the membrane from poking or jabbing than by stretching it from the side.)

* Utilize pressure to gain entrance. Do not poke, push, shove, or prod.

The Woman Superior position is the one best suited for first time (second time) intercourse. Here is why:

a. It places the woman in complete control. She knows where the penis is and where the vagina is and can bring the two together often saving the man some embarrassment and angst. She knows where to aim and position the penis.
b. She can apply the amount of pressure against or alongside the Hymen that seems correct in the moment
c. She can determine when to apply more pressure or back off
d. Once the Hymen has been breached, she can let the penis slide inside at a rate and depth that is comfortable
e. Once intercourse begins, she can choose the speed, tempo, and depth of penetration

If you are orgasmic and have learned to have climaxes, then be stingy and have one or more before having or attempting penetration. It's just sexual etiquette.

If you continue to have difficulty, then you may want to seek medical advise. Before you do, however, try spending some time in a bathtub of warm water (no soap or bubble bath) and stretch the hymen and the vaginal opening using a finger to tug against them. The warm water will soften the tissue and make the tasks easier. These exercises will take several sessions to accomplish so do not expect a quick fix. When you can comfortably insert one finger, use two, either from the same hand or one from each and continue the tugging actions as you work your way around one quadrant at a time.

As for penetration, I recommend using a lubricant even though you may have become very wet. The reason is to make the penis or condom as slippery as possible, first, and not to expect that it will become so as your man tries to slip in. Second, is to add to any mucus you have and make sure it is well distributed around the entrance.

It is not unusual for a couple to have to make two or more attempts in order to gain entry. It is also not unusual for the first several of these sessions to be less enjoyable than hoped for or anticipated. It takes some time to get accustomed to each other and for your body to "acclimate". If you've tried all of our suggestions to no avail, pose the problem to Brandye.