my first time was really painfully too .... we had to try 3 times and i basically had to suck up the pain and after a few minutes it dulled

idk if that helps but maybe reassure her that once you get past the hard part it gets better quickly

Giving ages would help. It could ba simple like stretching but it could be more serious. All women should have a gyn exam before becoming sexually active. There is a condition discussed on several threads here in which the muscles involuntarily contract at the approach of the penis. This take smore than soaking and stretching. Many women get over it (we do not really know how many women experience this) but about two percent are unable to admit a penis without some real counselling.

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> she can take about an inch of me now but it still hurts her, got any ideas how to make it eaiser

One other way is for her to do some daily exercises over the course of a couple of weeks. She should sit in a bathtub of warm water (no soap or bubble bath) and then insert a finger and tug in one direction, holding the tension for a few moments. Next, do the same thing in a different quadrant, finally working your way around in a circle. She should spend no more than 15-20 minutes at this each session.

Over the course of a several days she should be able to insert two fingers. She should continue the practice using her fingers in opposition.

The use of an additional lubrication is good. Just make sure that it is spread out over the surface of the penis/Glans as well as around the entire vaginal opening. It is one thing to use a lube and quite another not to have it properly or completely distributed.

the pain will go, she is just getting use to opening(if she is a virgin)