Hi, nice to meet you all, I'm sort of nervous about posting here, but I have a question and I need help!
My boyfriend and I decided to have sex for the first time, both of us were virgins, and we had a hard time with it. Most positions just didn't do anything for either one of us, but we laughed it off and found things that worked. Eventually, he orgasmed, but I didn't. He knows how to give me mindblowing orgasms, both G-spot and clitoral with his fingers, but it just didn't work for me during sex! Is this normal? Should he just try to stimulate me with his hand while we have sex, or is there a postition that will help both of us be pleased at the same time?
I'm sorry if this was answered elsewhere.. I read a bunch of postings, including the sticky on "Why can't he make me orgasm?", but I just can't find the right information. I know how to do it myself, he knows how to do it for me, but it just didn't work in sex!
Any help would be appreciated, thank you!
Mon, 03/26/2007 - 19:49
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First time sex help
A lot of girls don't orgasm from sex --- just be grateful he's good with his hands and don't sweat it.
I totally agree with canoodle06. This is totally normal. Not everyone orgasms during sex.
I wouldn't worry about not having an orgasm while having sex. I'd suggest purchasing Kama Sutra or another book with sex positions in it. It'll give you a great deal of ideas, and hopefully you'll find some that work best for you and your boyfriend.
My boyfriend just got me a small book, so I can easily keep it out of sight from my parents. We're going through the positions in it and having a great time!
Allright, that's comforting that not everyone does... Although it doesn't comfort HIM, he's very much turned on when he sees me excited. Sometimes it felt really good while we were having sex, but mostly it just didn't feel like much at all. I was really suprised actually, I thought it would at least hurt more than it did, seeing as how I'm a virgin and he's well endowed. Thank you though! We'd both love to get a kama sutra type book, that sounds like a good idea to learn some positions that might help.
Get a copy of The Joy of Sex. It is back in print and there are lots of used copies available.