Alright.. My girlfriend/fiancee and I have known eachother for years, been together over a year now, and just last week we started trying to make love. Now, the very first time (for the both of us) she was so tight that I had to finger her and eat her out a few times before there was even a hope of getting inside of her. No complaints there from either of us. We got condoms after my first time inside of her (If I came at all, it was a 'spitter' and neither of us realized it...she washed herself afterwards just in case.)
Anyway, here's my reason for posting: We all know it hurts a girl the first few times. My girlfriend was definately a virgin before I came along, as was I.. Neither of us have been with anyone but eachother... The thing is, after we had finished, for one we stopped half way because the pain was too great for her...but then what worries both of us is that not only has she been feeling really sore, she's also been very itchy in her vaginal area. Aside from this, she didn't bleed... We've had sex at least five or six times now and she has yet to bleed... I keep thinking maybe it's because she's not letting me get in deep enough, but we're both wondering if this is typical of the first few times... Just a little worried that something might be wrong.
Was she only itchy after using a condom? If so, she may have an alergy to latex or to the lube on the condom. The latter is especially likely if the lube contained spermacide.
Washing herself after unprotected sex will have no effect on the risk of pregnancy. If this happened less than three days ago, she should see her doctor about getting the morning after pill.
I agree that it could be the condom causing the itching. As far as the lack of blood, it could have been she had broke her hymen before. This doesn't necessarily mean she isn't a virgin, it could be due to sports activities, tampons... a whole lot of things. I wouldn't worry too much. It doesn't take blood for the first time to mean something.