I am 18 and have fooled around with a few girls before, but have never gone that far (nothing more than petting and kissing). I get an erection easily and it is usually very hard, but by the time we decide to try to move on to more serious stuff, my erection has already gone down. It is usually embarassing that I have become soft and I usually stop the girl from trying to get me up again. Is it supposed to be able to stay up throughout foreplay or when we want to do something else (oral, etc.), should it become hard again? Also recently I had a strong erection, but when she started touching me, it went down. I have read the many posts and know it is all pyschological, but was just wondering if that is normal? Thanks for helping with the two questions!
Thu, 02/24/2005 - 04:49
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first time question
[QUOTE=Quote (dagger86 @ Mar. 10 2005,07:25)]So my new girlfriend recently tried to go down on me twice and neither time was I able to get completely hard. I was hard earlier in the night when just kissing and never have trouble getting hard masturbating. I am starting to get worried because this is the first time a girl has tried to go down on me and I have been unable to get up. During the time, I was very relaxed and wasn't worried, assuming I would be fine, but now I am nervous. What can I do?[/QUOTE]
Dont worry, this happens to alot of people just keep your cool, sooner or later you will be able to then after that youll be fine.
So my new girlfriend recently tried to go down on me twice and neither time was I able to get completely hard. I was hard earlier in the night when just kissing and never have trouble getting hard masturbating. I am starting to get worried because this is the first time a girl has tried to go down on me and I have been unable to get up. During the time, I was very relaxed and wasn't worried, assuming I would be fine, but now I am nervous. What can I do?
Some guys have erections that get hard and stay that way, but- in my experience- most come and go (no pun intended) during sex.
Personally, I usually get an erection immediately, but sometimes it will subside if I'm intensely concentrating on the other person. But it always comes back when I need it...lol.
Don't worry about it. If you lose your erection, LET her bring it back. It can be quite fun.
Incidentally, I've noticed the more times I become erect and let it subside, the more intense the orgasm.
The "not getting hard" thing happens to al ot of people.
If my guy isn't focused on what I'm doing and is off in la la land or thinking about something else, he can't get hard. But if he's focused and enjoying the moment, he can get hard in no time flat.