I guess you can say that my boyfriend and I are fairly new to vaginal sex, though we've taken part in other things. (oral, grinding, e.t.c) We aren't even complete newbies at vaginal sex because we've done it a few time before. If I had to put a number on it I'd say five other times. Mind you, I'd say that's still pretty new considering today was the first time he continually went in and out with everything inside me.
What I wanted to get advice on is this:
I've felt the pain I experienced today previously. First, when he went inside me for the very first time just a little bit. The way I would describe it is kind of a sharp feeling pushing up against my stomach (this was when he only had the first bit of his penis in me) This second time I felt that pain was when he went fully in me today. The sharp feeling up against my stomach was much more intense and I even had to guide him back with my hands a little to prevent him from thrusting too hard. I would tell myself it's supposed to start feeling better soon but it still kept hurting. Mind you, I was completely wet so that wasn't the issue. Could the feeling I'm experiencing be first-time intercourse pain that everyone always mentions will go away after a while? It is after-all the first time we've every done that with each other and he be fully inside me and we were both virgins before each other.
I don't want to sound ignorant asking this because I, of course am naive about these things and would just like the answers.
Please and thanks :)
I'd say check out the sticky thread called "The Four Hotspots". If he was entering in, for example, with you on your back missionary with legs up, so that when he's all the way in he's up on the "roof" as it were, then he hit your Anterior Fornix. I'd assume it's a fairly common 1st timer mistake, as I did the same thing way back when, and was made well aware when I did it. :)
Basically that's a stay away zone until you're at the least pretty close to orgasm. Even with my wife after 13 years of and 3 kids it's still behind a velvet rope until way later during sex. So unless I'm reading your post wrong it's nothing to do with being new to it, other than just needing some exploring. And that's the fun part regardless.
Take care...
So what you're suggesting is instead of him going inside me in the beginning on my back, if I'm on my back, my legs should me lifted up? We started the vaginal part with me on my back so I was flat.
Sorry, wasn't clear on that. No I just mean that in the beginning of sex, just make sure you're:
a: plenty aroused. Like at least 15-ish minutes of foreplay, heavy petting, etc.
b: Don't immediately start thrusting away super deep. That may very well only be for the finale. Go slow, take your time, and find what you like and don't like.
I'm still fairly new to this site as well, so I'm sure the good people like EvilEvilKitten and DancingDoc will swoop in to straighten it out, but like all new guys we saw porn or whatnot our whole life where we "learn" that sex is a terribly poor amount of foreplay followed by gut wrenching pounding.
That is very far from the truth. There are plenty of threads on this site that both of you should study together that will say just the opposite; make foreplay important, and learn how to use the penis as a tool, not a battering ram. And good luck! You're on the beginning parts of this whole scenario, when everything is new and fun. Cherish every second of it. :)
All women should have complete gyn exams before becoming active. If you have not, now is the time.
You will experience various feelings or "pressure" as you gain experience. The first time could have been simply a tearing of the hymen; some require more pressure than others. Then, if it was not completely torn the first time, that could be the cause this time. At full depth, his hitting the cervix could cause the pain.
Get checked to make certain that everything is in its correct space and then be a bit gentler at least until you figure this all out.
Update: We had sex a couple nights after this was posted and it was much better than when I was lying flat on my back.
Just wanted to say that we went back and it felt much better with the help of different positions. (I find that I realllllly like it on my side)