Hi, this might sound stupid but my girlfriend and I have been going out for over a year now. We began by being super conservative but now are quite comfortable with anything but sex and oral sex. We have a kind of routine we go through, but I never orgasm. I asked her once if she liked the thought of receiving head. To my suprise she refused and offered it in return! We care a lot about each other and have been told that oral can be quite impersonal because you're not as close... I'm not quite sure what to think and just want some advice. Also, she wants me to warn her before I cum so she can back off. This is fine but I'm just wondering how possible it is? (good self knowledge and control when it comes to ejaculation)
Thanks for anything you can add. Peace!
[QUOTE=Quote (nsmusician @ Dec. 30 2004,03:43)]...We care a lot about each other and have been told that oral can be quite impersonal because you're not as close... I'm not quite sure what to think and just want some advice. Also, she wants me to warn her before I cum so she can back off. This is fine but I'm just wondering how possible it is?[/QUOTE]
? not as "close" to what?
? not ---- oh my my my what the ... speachless, im just speachless.
you gotta be kidding here right? boggles my mind that some people think the act of oral sex as impersonal!!!!!!!! not as close?
a gal has her mouth around a guys dick.... NOT CLOSE?
?? impersonal to who?
? how is this NOT about as personal an act of intamacy as it gets?
??
this got brought up on a tv talk show
and i really didnt believe it to be much more than a few goofy cases that it really was not widespread practice to give and take bjs as freely as a handhake!!!!!!!!!!
oh my gracious am i getting old and sooooo out of the loop...
shock and awe aside, im a gal so im guessing here that when you masturbate, you feel that pleasure mounting and can safely judge that you will ejaculate real soon.
she can learn to sense your state of being about to reach its climax by your ohs and body tightens up a bit and.... there is a slight bit of "precum" comes out before the rest... she might feel that or taste it and can pull herself off you ....
i suggest you both forgo any sexual contact until you're both mature enough to understand what it is all about and what it really means to have sex.... sex is NOT to be thought of lightly, not to be taken lightly, sex does NOT belong in a casual relationship, sex is NOT a casual ho um no big deal, doing it cuz were dating....
[QUOTE=Quote (thetease13 @ Dec. 30 2004,08:48)]After you get used to the feeling, you will know when you are about to cum, and yes, it does take a lot of self control.
But anyways, I don't think that oral sex is impersonal.
I think it's quite intimate. You get to know your partner's hot spots and watch them squirm under your power. I also think it's quite hot and sexy and a huge turn on.[/QUOTE]
thanks that helps a lot... I just needed a second opinion
After you get used to the feeling, you will know when you are about to cum, and yes, it does take a lot of self control.
But anyways, I don't think that oral sex is impersonal.
I think it's quite intimate. You get to know your partner's hot spots and watch them squirm under your power. I also think it's quite hot and sexy and a huge turn on.