I've heard it over and over on this forum by those of experience, that sex as long as its not "rough", is not painful.
Well it is very true!
My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time not that long ago; I thought because we had only had the chance to have intercourse for maybe 10 minutes the first couple of times (hard to find privacy :D) that it didn't hurt, but two weekends ago we had a chance "to go at it" for a good 40 to 50 minutes.
It was proven that night, sex does not hurt.
I was wrong thinking it was because the other times weren't long, that intercourse for a long period of time would cause pain.
He did have me dripping wet (or very well lubricated as others prefer it), when we would do it from behind or I would sit on him, it would get all over his thighs. We did not use a lubricated condom.
His penis is not small, it is a little over 7 inches and very thick (not like a coke can but hm.. idk but its thick!), so don't think it didn't hurt because it is small.
The day after, there was minor soreness but nothing dreadful, got over it in like two days.
Don't be afraid of it hurting, just make sure the chick is very wet!!!
HOPE THIS HELPS!
I forgot to add!!!
Everytime we engaged in sexual intercourse, we had already messed aound (foreplay) for an hour or two!
Including, making out (lots!), oral, hand job/fingering (even more), touching, rubbing, neck kissing, ear nibbling, lip sucking, teasing, just everything!
So that helped a lot, to get me "ready".
SO MAKE SURE THERES LOTS OF FOREPLAY TOO!!!
Well, maybe. That is your experience (with a bit of embellishment) and for many women it is absolutely painless. For a few, it is excruciating. For most, a bit of a picch the first time but no big deal.
Um no embellishment, exaggeration, all truth, but egh ok.
Well anyways gynecologist advised me (before I had done the deed) that if there is "excruciating" pain that I should go right back, because that most likely means there has been some damage.
So if sex is extremely painful, you should stop, if your vaginal opening continues to hurt after a day or two, you should visit a gynecologist.
It apparently depends on the woman. To some women, it hurts because there is a very thin membrane that the penis penetrates, known as the hymen("cherry"). That is somewaht painful, but the right man will make that pain soon forgotton about. (He just has to take it slow.) However, not every woman has a hymen, so not every woman will be in pain.
Usually the first time is "nothing special" for both him and her. The pain is entirely optional but is usually due to the hymen (first time) or his lack of skill (subsequent times).
Agreed, it totally depends on the person. For me there was no pain, but I have friends who sex has always been painful for. Foreplay will definitely help tho.