ok.... so me and my g/f decided to have sex.. we have a really strong relationship going so we both know we are ready for it... and its good cause we are very open with each other and thank god we could just kinda joke about this situation.... but anyway lets start off with saying yea she is younger than me and i am kinda a big guy(not bragging)... so anyway... i was fingering her and i can only get in 1 finger... i didn't think much of it cause once we tried to actually have sex i couldn't even get it inside her. it was also a combination of me being kinda nervous and not having the hardest erection of my life. but yea what can we do to solve this.. im assuming i will need to finger her more till i can get two in so shes a little looser. and also probably use some lubrication or what are yolu suggestions for me and her? thanks to anyone who can help
Wed, 07/14/2004 - 03:18
#1
first time issues
i personally have to be extremely wet or i get a sharp shearing pain where it feels like i'm trying to be ripped in two.
it doesn't matter if i'm having sex or getting fingered or using a toy. i have to be really really wet on the inside. i mean, i can be dripping wet on the outside, but almost dry as a bone on the inside, so yes, try some extra lube. it never hurts.
it was like that with me an my bf. at first it hurt when he put just 1 finger inside, and i thought we wud never be able to have sex. i dont wanna say that yeah getting her used to the size is the only way to do it, cuz it might not be true. but i found that that is what i needed.
i found that i had to get used to three fingers inside me before i could even try having sex, and even this didnt compare, but it was a start. this may take a while tho so dont rush it all in 1 night.
i also found that im still not completely comfortable having sex, as certain positions can still hurt a bit. but it is slowly getting better.
i hope this works for you, but even if it doesnt at first, remember it might take sometime.
did you read through all the posts under new to sex?
called 1st time pain and bleeding.
lots of personal experiences there.
yeah you'll need to help work her and loosen her up some, don't just dive right in.