Hey everyone, im brand new here...
found the site lookin on the net for some advice on what to do, but where else to go with forums full of people with advice eh?!:cool: Well anyway, me and this girl have been hangin out for quite some time now, im a virgin, she is not, but ive done everything up to sex (oral, fingering, going down, etc..), but that was all with a really serious g/f back like 2 years ago, and i dont even remember how we started all of it... so really yeah, who knows it may not be sex the first time, but i really have no idea how to even start with her like if i want to get intimate with her. I mean yea we have alotta fun with eachother and laugh a whole lot, but there are very few times we are serious and other stuff. Like i'll kiss her neck and bite her ears to try to get something going but then she'll just end up laughing or somethin else and it makes me mad cuz i dont know what the hell to do?!?!? it makes me soo frustrated because i dont want to be like really pushy about what i want to do because i none the less want to please her more and have HER coming backing for me... ANY help would be so great, thanks guys
Mon, 10/23/2006 - 01:12
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First time, I want to but dont know how to start?
well you could start with a lot of kissing... (forget the necking and ear work at this stage) just kiss her a lot while stroking /rubbing her cheeks... then move to rubbing her neck whilst still kissing.
If she laughs at that then she is not really mature enough to start anything intimate... (she will either want to do it or not.. but laughing is kinda weird and immature)
[QUOTE]it makes me soo frustrated because i dont want to be like really pushy about what i want to do because i none the less want to please her more and have HER coming backing for me... ANY help would be so great, thanks guys[/QUOTE]
also just be patient... give her space and respect that... it sounds to me from your post like u just want to get in her pants when infact u should be getting closed to her emotions and feeling and her for herself... just take it slow.... dont try rush things as it will just ruin the friendship.
how experienced is she?? honestly it seems like she is to nervous to let anything get serious, so I wouldnt even worry about sex. At least not until you can kiss her without her laughing.
shes experienced, i guess they way i make the post sound lol really getting into her pants is all im really for, but im not, i want to get into a serious relationship with this girl...umm maybe you know shes just lookin to have space for a lil bit cuz she did just get outa this like 1.5 year relationship
[QUOTE]umm maybe you know shes just lookin to have space for a lil bit cuz she did just get outa this like 1.5 year relationship[/QUOTE]
that does not explain the laughing... she would have just said that she wasn't ready or what not.. not laugh...
Ask her why she laughs when you kiss her or what not. its the only straight answer u will get about why she is doing it. none of us can really tell you why...
Communication is the key to a successful relationship.
yeah man i dunno, she says it tickles, but what can ya do ill ask if its a good tickle or bad tickle or whatever but she says it makes her go crazy yet she doesnt let me do it!:confused: confused..never can figure them out
[QUOTE=buddy5001;155156]yeah man i dunno, she says it tickles, but what can ya do ill ask if its a good tickle or bad tickle or whatever but she says it makes her go crazy yet she doesnt let me do it!:confused: confused..never can figure them out[/QUOTE]
lol. well u can figure them out by communication. me and my gf communicate a lot and are very open which means that we are both equal and well. lets jus say that we have worked each other out.
by kissing are you kissing her lips or where... on the ear yes it does tickle a bit but it is in a good way for most. if she is laughing while kissing her on the lips then that is very very odd as there are no nerves or anything in the lips that trigger the 'ticklish' mode so to speak. in my previous posts i spoke as 'kissing' as just on the lips.
she could b very ticklish near the neck like my g/f is, try and get her to let u massage her back and start from there(you have to be decent at massages so u dont make it hurt) but juss do something nice for her every so often
ah u no we make out alot i spose, i was thinkin the massage idea to, i dunno ima shy sort of bashful guy in a way its just hard to get back into it...like me and this girl dated for like 1.5 years, first 6 months we didnt do anything then we just did ****, we made out, had sex, everything for the first time together, and it was so easy to do stuff with her, but now that we broke up its like wow i dont know what the other one is thinkin, i dont want to screw up ahhh!!! this is tearing my head apart
lol dont let it get to you personally.. just be yourself and think of your partner first then yourself.
its hard not to dude, i know shes expecting some like controlling guy to TAKE CONTROL! lol but i mean its like dayum, im lost, im just lost man haha