Well, eventually me and my gf are goin to have intercourse. We've already done oral, and we're both virgins. I'm planning on using condoms, but since pergnancy would literally mean her being disowned from her family, i was wondering if there's any other precautions we should take. Could get birth control pills but it's a bit risky cus her parents dont even know about me. We're both 17.
Any suggestions? Tips?
First off, put her parents in the background. Are YOU & SHE prepared for the consequences in the event that she becomes pregnant?
In answer to your question, use a condom and have her use a spermacide. Also, check out the Birth Control Section.
http://www.sexinfo101.com/bc_index.shtml
There is no absolutely certain prevention for pregnancy. About the best odds you will have is that if 100 women use condoms AND spermicide for a year of regular sex, 3-5 will become pregnant.
Know the odds and make a conscious decision.
Oh! I just noticed your sub-title about your g/f reading this. If you are not ready to discuss this with her, you are not ready for doing this with her.
[QUOTE=Quote (Brandye @ Mar. 03 2003,15:21)]Oh! I just noticed your sub-title about your g/f reading this. If you are not ready to discuss this with her, you are not ready for doing this with her.[/QUOTE]
BRAVO, Brandye.
[QUOTE=Quote (Brandye @ Mar. 03 2003,15:21)]Oh! I just noticed your sub-title about your g/f reading this. If you are not ready to discuss this with her, you are not ready for doing this with her.[/QUOTE]
I agree with that!
Starting off with the subtitle on this topic, I’m assuming you’re saying that because you’d be embarrassed by your girlfriend reading this. No worries, your real name isn’t on this and you didn’t mention hers.
Next, you two need to talk about having sex, and if you can’t, well then you’re not ready. It’s as simple as that although you may not want to hear it.
Also, look into birth control, the link was provided in a previous post from another member. Since you’re both relatively young, condoms are your best choice. She can get birth control from her doctor if she’s irregular or has really bad PMS. Or, you two could head over to your nearest Planned Parenthood.
In addition, about the condoms, you should do a little research. You may want to check out what I just posted in Nonoxynol-9 as well as the ‘Condom Chooser’ that I posted about at Condomania.com.
You also need to check if either of you are allergic to latex. I imagine that you would know by 17 years old, so I’m assuming not. If so, just choose non-latex with the condom chooser.
You may want to read Her First Time and His First Time, and make sure that you know how to but a condom on the right way so it won't break.
If she’s going to get birth control, it’s best that her parents know about it in case they find it. You also need to know how birth control pills work.
We've talked about Sex and sex-related things about a dozen times. I just made the mistake of telling her about this site and then making this post. Unfortunately, this name is very close to my SN, she'd spot it right away.
And like I said, her parents definately can't know and can't know about the pills, so pills aren't really helpful for us.
We've already discussed about if she gets pregnant, she says she'd get an abortion, and that's her choice on the matter.
Where can I get spermicide?
Well if that post didn't give you away then I don't know what did. Change your member name. If she keeps the birth control pills with her at all times I don't think it would be such a problem, unless her parents search her or anything. I don't know where you can get spermicide. I would imagine a drug store or a pharmacy. You can always go in and ask.
[QUOTE=Quote (Smoove @ Mar. 07 2003,14:20)]I just made the mistake of telling her about this site and then making this post. Unfortunately, this name is very close to my SN, she'd spot it right away.
Where can I get spermicide?[/QUOTE]
Firstly, why would it matter if she did recognize you on here??
Secondly, spermicide is available as cream, foam or jelly. Read the following section to decide which is right for you. Spermicides.
You should find them in the birth-control section of any pharmacy.
i know where you are coming from. your worried about all the things that could go wrong instead of all the good things. you sound ready, just make sure you keep safe and enjoy it. if you are both truely ready and willing, then worrying about parents finding out will not be an issue.