okay im 15 yrs. old and theres this guy that i met at a party. we kind of hooked up at the party but before this he was with a girl and shes only 12 and hes 15. he told me wen we started talkin that she was to young and she was just a friend. so then a week later he asked me if i wanted to go with him to his hotel and of course i said yes. we had sex and the condom ended up ripping. we didnt know until afterwards and we werent sure what to do. we talked abuot it for a few days afterwards but now he doesnt even care and i dont know yet if im pregnant or not because this just happened abuot 2 weeks ago. and now i have all these feelings for him, but he doesnt really know, and just this weekend he went back to the hotel and only this time he took the 12 yr. old he was at the party with. we dont really talk much anymore and i dont know what to do ..can someone please help me!!?!
Fri, 11/26/2004 - 18:48
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first time feelings
thankz so much for all that input.. yeah i knew before sex wouldnt brinq on any feelinqz ..well it did for me ..but i mean it doesnt for all people and now i really know that ..were startinq to become closer friendz now but im just quna leave it at that ..nothinq more will ever between us ..im not up to deal with any of this aqain ..for a while i cudnt evn think about beinq friendz with him but now i find myself okay to talk to him ..
Thats also a part of what I meant. A lot of girls think they can "hook" a guy by having sex with him, assuming that the sex will initiate feelings in the guy. Obviously, such as is the case with this guy, that is not necessarily true. Also, a lot of people, not just guys, dont think about the other's feelings when becoming involved in sex.
And yes, people really do need to be happy with themselves before they can be happy in a relationship.
Of course, sometimes I get angry at the women involved, too, Monie. Some women seem so intent on "gettin' myself a man" that they don't seem to think they are worth anything without one.
That applies to everyone. If you aren't happy in yourself, the chances are another person isn't going to make you happy... at least not for very long.
I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with looking for someone to love. However, they should add to your life, not BE your life.
Good post Oberon, I like how you got straight to the point. I just wish more girls would realize this...
This thread makes me angry. Where are the parents in this little scenario? Sorry, but I can't imagine at 15 being able to get away with running off to a hotel. GRRR... anyway, that doesn't help Sweet x seduction.
Honey, this guy is a little Pr!ck with a capital "P". He seems to be of the opinion that he can do as he likes and not suffer any consequences. My suggestion is for your safety and health you remove yourself from his vicinity.
Sadly, women run a greater risk of adverse consequences from sex than do men. Pregnancy and STDs. Some men don't seem to think either are their problem. Before you have sex with a guy, make sure he's as concerned about YOU as he is about having sex. You are worth being loved... not used.
yeah his mom knew and everythinq i dont kno about his dad but i kno his mom did ..cus she told my mom wen i went with him that there wurr a bunch of other qrlz there? hah ..but he didnt end up havinq sex with the 12 yr. old ..i called hur parentz and told them i wus someone else and they called hur and she ended up leavinq!! hhah but yeah so they never ended up havinq sex THAT NiGHT ..who knoz about any other time ..and now he has this thinq with oh i dont wunt a relationship ..well if he doesnt wunt a relationship he shudnt be qoin around havin sex with ppl like he has bcus of wut happened wen i had sex with him ..wen somethinq like this happenz uu kno uu shud stop for atleast until uu kno if everythinqz okay with the other person ..but not him the next week there he qoes aqain with a 12 yr. old ..or atleast he TRiED too ..but i wus sooo pissed and i deff. wus quna put a stop to it ..lol
thankz for ur support ..i took an at home preqnancy test today and it said i wusnt preqnant but im deffinitly quna be qoin to a doctor within the next week ..as soon as i can qet there
im sorry about what happend with the torn condom and all but how the hell is a 15 yr old having sex with 12 yr olds? that is kinda wierd since he is also in a hotel room too. does his parents know hes out at that time?! lol but from a 15 yr olds perspective i say "Drop da bum" he obviously is out there for the ass and not for the love. i pray you arent pregnant because if you are it doesnt sound like he is going to be much help. i hate guys like that...some times i wish i could castrate (i think thats how you spell it) every guy that was just in it for the ass and not for the feelings (falling in love) and not that fake crap of "oh i like you lets have sex". thats why i will be waiting till im married to have sex. but... again i hope you are not pregnant and get through this with out any hassles. or any problems from that bum.
ill be sure to go and see a doctor and ill post and let you kno how everything goes and after that. thankz alot..
yeah thankz alot ..im deffinitly guna be more careful next time ..i do need to forget about him i really appreciate your comments
No problem. I really do hope that you go and see a doctor to be sure that you are ok physically. Then you can move on and take care of yourself emotionally.
Keep us posted. If you have any more questions, please feel free to post them. Or if you like, you'r welcome to PM me directly, if you wish.
Hey, sorry to hear about your situation. Guys can be serious assholes, and that guy seems like one...
I agree with demon's post. There is just one thing I want to add: Since the condom broke, you may also want to get tested for any STD's as well as for pregnancy. It's definitely a good idea to make sure that you are safe and healthy. A real good place to go is Planned Parenthood- they are understanding, easy to afford, and your entire visit will be confidential.
I really think you need to forget about this guy, move on, and take care of yourself. I wish you the best, and please be more careful in the future.
thank you so much ..yeah like the first couple of days afterwards he would be like what do we do and stuff and act like he cared ..now its like w/e and everything ..and wen i asked him about taking the 12 YEAR OLD with him he was like i didnt even wunt her to go ..this other kid that was with me did ..but he told me he was guna f*** hur ..and he wus like i dont see what the problem is i dont have a girlfriend ..he just like doesnt understand! ..and maybe its becuase he doesnt really know that i have feelings for him? but i dont know if i should tell him bcus what if hes like i knew you for a week and fucked you and now u say youve got feelings for me? i dont kno if i were him i might think that sounds stupid ..??
Geez, how is a 15 yr old boy getting all these hotel rooms?
And with 12 yr olds??? man!
Anyways, once you realized the condom ripped, you probably should have went to a planned parenthood and got a morning after pill. Those only work for the first 72 hours tho, so that window period is closed.
I'd suggest you forget about this creep of a guy, get a pregnancy test, and PRAY TO GOD! that you aren't pregnant by this dumb kid.
I know you have feelings for him and that happens especially if you have sex with somone and even more so if they are your first. Women sometimes have a hard time separating sex and emotions, they just come together. But this kid doesn't care about. Especially if there was a risk you were pregnant and he doesn't even seem to worry or be bothered by it. Then he's taking this other girl to his hotel? You and her probably aren't the only two
sorry