Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 6 months now, and we have a pretty balanced relationship. We do fool around (many nights at home or in our car :D ) and we both agree that we both need a good mix of pleasure time and more close "love" time in order for us to have a healthy relationship. Well I have helped her through a lot of stuff...(coming to terms with sexual abuse) And we both trust each other more than we trust ourselves. So what id like to know is it too soon to be having sex? Part of me does want to have sex with her, but not for pleasure. I just want to feel that closeness to her.
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We are really comfortable with each other. We have done stupid things i.e. falling off the bed trying to move while making out, or even tripping and falling while carrying her to the bedroom. and we laugh about it, and it doesnt ruin the moment. and after we finish fooling around, were perfectly fine, (not rushing to get dressed) we just lay there naked basking in each others glow so to speak. So just judging by the way we act, i would say that we might be ready for it, but how would i bring it up
Ducy:
From your last post...look at the issues first, hold the sex. Resolve the relationship issues since she is not ready. She may want to be but is not...
Dude, if you are having this much fun together...the time will "just" come...it sounds like you two are having an awesome time together...just enjoy it and let the cards fall...THUMBS UP to you two!!!:)
[QUOTE=sera300;189197]Ducy:
From your last post...look at the issues first, hold the sex. Resolve the relationship issues since she is not ready. She may want to be but is not...[/QUOTE]
Get to bed...it's late for you!!
[quote=HardNgood;189199]Get to bed...it's late for you!![/quote]
Had to check a note out, LOL! Hopefully you give me the answer!
sera i had a feeling you would say that. I know that there are some things that need to be solved, but i still had to ask, because there is just some part to me that thinks about it, and has been thinking about it more often. especially because i have brought it up to her before and she has never been against the idea of sex or anything, and she has wanted to move it farther forward, (genital to genital contact) so I had to ask it
And i just realized this is the wrong forum...i thought this was first time....moderators...a little help would be great.
[quote=Ducy;189201]sera i had a feeling you would say that. I know that there are some things that need to be solved, but i still had to ask, because there is just some part to me that thinks about it, and has been thinking about it more often. especially because i have brought it up to her before and she has never been against the idea of sex or anything, and she has wanted to move it farther forward, (genital to genital contact) so I had to ask it[/quote]
If you both have a good time, continue, get her to seek a professional for assistance. Just be understanding & patient...:)
don't worry about it Ducy...it was an intelligent question...it'll get answered!.:)
I thought I told you.............ROFLMAOPIMP
believe me, i am very patient, we actually went back to square one (just light kisses) when she had her first resurface of the abuse.