I know it's weird to say but even though my boyfriend and I have been having sex for over a year now I've never gone down on him. It's not because I don't want to, because all I want to do is please him but there are several reasons as to why I haven't.
~The first reason being that I have braces and elastics that go with them and I'm afraid of hurting him.
~I've never done this before and I'm a little intimidated.
~I'm afraid of making a fool of myself because I'm inexperienced.
~And I really don't know how I would even initiate such an encounter in a graceful and yet arousing way.
The thing is, it's his birthday tomorrow and I'd like to do something special and he's shown interest in the act on many occassions but knows how I feel and doesn't pressure me. I could use some advice, especially about the braces part. That's the thing that scares me the worst is that it could be painful and therefore unenjoyable. Help?
Thu, 01/31/2008 - 20:51
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> I know it's weird to say but even though my boyfriend and I have been having sex for over a year now I've never gone down on him.
This is not weird at all. All good things in their own time. The only timeline that counts is the one you set and are comfortable with.
> there are several reasons as to why I haven't.
~The first reason being that I have braces and elastics that go with them and I'm afraid of hurting him.
Moisten you lips and fold them over your teeth. Let his penis slip between your lips. You do not want to scrape his skin with your teeth. Besides, the braces are on the front of your teeth not the bottom edges.
> ~I've never done this before and I'm a little intimidated.
Do not insert his penis all the way to the rear of your mouth. The important nerves are on the Glans, the Corona Rim at the rear where the head attaches to the shaft, and, the most sensitive place of all--the Frenulum or Y-shaped ridge of skin on the underside that extends from the cleft to the shaft.
You can use your tongue and lips moving in ways that are dictated by his responses. Just try something and keep going. Explore and learn together. Take your cues from his reactions.
> ~I'm afraid of making a fool of myself because I'm inexperienced.
I do not fully believe you believe this because you have gotten undressed and have been having sex for months. Please do not worry. If you do something he does not particularly enjoy, you will find out and then can adjust. The same goes for him with you. I can pretty much guarantee that when your hand clasps his penis and when your mouth encircles his glans he will become putty in your grasp.
> ~And I really don't know how I would even initiate such an encounter in a graceful and yet arousing way.
1.) you can just slip down and go for it.
2.) you can approach with your hand and or your lips by brushing one or both along his thigh to his scrotum and then up along the bottom of his penis
3.) you can approach as above from above and let your moist tongue slide along the top of his penis whereupon you will take him in your mouth.
4.) Explore and learn together
> ~And I really don't know how I would even initiate such an encounter in a graceful and yet arousing way.
Asked and answered.
> The thing is, it's his birthday tomorrow and I'd like to do something special and he's shown interest in the act on many occasions but knows how I feel and doesn't pressure me. I could use some advice, especially about the braces part. That's the thing that scares me the worst is that it could be painful and therefore unenjoyable.
Asked and answered. You have much reading to do between now and then.
Do not worry. Just act and take your cues from his reactions.
Enjoy. Got questions??
You will find old posts here from men who have been married for twenty years and their wives have never gone down on them. Some women just do not want to.
Among those of us who do, we all started in your position with some real concerns about knowing what to do. You will do well whenever you try from the standpoint of him. My first time I gagged, coughed and made a fool of myself. He was quite pleased regardless.
If his penis is exposed, simply slide down to reach it, grasp it firmly in your hand and take into your mouth. Be aware that that thing can go off at any time. The taste and the consistency are not pleasant but what really makes women gag is the first powerful shot into the back of the throat. Place your thumb on the base of his penis right in front of the scrotum. You will be able to feel his ejaculate and when You do, quickly press the back of your tongue against your hard palate. And do not be surprised at your own reaction.
You want to? Then do it and you will get better each time.