First time and im scared as hell !

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Wed, 04/21/2004 - 23:49

First time and im scared as hell !

me and my girlfriend had sex for the first time the other night. i was trying to give her an orgasm before me because i always feel the woman should come first even tho its my first time , anyways i thought i was doin pretty good and she was really close *shes never had an orgasm before not even by herself* i was about to cum to and i kept trying not to but after an hour and a half of sex a first timer cant take anymore , so i came but she said keep going so i forced myself to go for another 5-10 minutes.. pretty soon i got limp and she seemed to have lost her orgasm so i stopped. ok so heres my questions-
#1 the only thing we used was a condom.. no birth control or anything, and i was wondering if because i kept goin after i came would that raise the possibility of her getting pregnant?
#2 what are the chances of her getting pregnant with only using a condom?
#3 is there anyway i can prelong my ejaculation? i mean i thought an hour and a half was pretty good.. will i get better over time?
#4 it seems like she has a really hard time having an orgasm *since shes never had 1 before* .. but she says im the closest person to get her to have one when i give her oral sex.. is there any tips i can get on how i can please her better? she really likes it when i go deep with both my fingers but after a while my fingers feel like there going to break off
well tommorow were going to the health department to get a pregnancy test so wish us luck *im very nervous and we didnt think this out enough, i didnt force her into doing this, she told me she was ready and i asked if she was positive and she said yes, but i didnt even think about birth control or anything, i was just so excited and so focused on pleasing her*.. and any comments will be very much appreciated, also if u have any questions that will help you answer my questions feel free to ask * we are both 17 yrs. old btw * thanks in advance - kyle

Fri, 04/23/2004 - 01:56

oberon

[QUOTE=Quote (amandas_boyfriend @ April 21 2004,21:32)]also i didnt give her oral for an hour and a half, we had sex for an hour and a half.. i gave her oral for about 15 minutes before we had sex. not sure if thats what you were implying or not . she really likes when i go in deep with 2 fingers and she doesnt wanna try to have an orgasm by herself or with a toy like a dildo.. i suggested it and she said "i prefer to have you in me" so that made me kind of happy but id also like to give her an orgasm, i guess it will just take some practice .. thanks again for the time taken to help a noob out [/QUOTE]
Hey amandas_boyfriend, glad everything turned out okay.

No, I wasn't suggesting that you did, or should, give her oral for and hour and a half...lol, but just that it might be a way to bring her closer to orgasm before intercourse.

And as for the vibrator/dildo idea, she doesn't have to use it on herself, you could use it on her. It can be fun... trust me...

Thu, 04/22/2004 - 22:48

Brandye

The Golden Posts have answers to all your questions. Look for yourself. And she should always use a spermicide. That will increase the effectiveness of the condom significantly. I do not mean the spermicidal lubricant on the condom; I mean use vaginal jelly, foam, film or something chemical protection inside her.

Thu, 04/22/2004 - 04:32

amandas_boyfriend

[QUOTE=Quote (oberon @ April 21 2004,20:34)]Well, to answer, in my opinion, the most important question first. Condoms are a good starting place. They aren't 100% though. I'd recommend your girlfriend start birth control and you continue to use the condom- even after she's on BC- it's not 100% either. A good spermicidal gel will help reduce the risks of pregnancy as well- those with nonoxynol-9 have even been shown to help prevent HIV.

As for your girlfriend's pleasure- by the way, congrats on lasting an hour and a half (shows excellent control on your part)- you mentioned oral. You can try getting her close with that before switching to intercourse. I suggest maybe purchasing a vibrator as well. She can use it on her own, but it can also be a fun addition to sex. A vibrator or dildo should help with your sore finger problem as well...lol.

edit- Oh yes! After you ejaculate, you should always pull out as soon as possible. You NEVER use the same condom twice. It does increase the risk of breakage or spillage.

Hope this helps. Good luck.[/QUOTE]
tyvm for all that info.. alot of it was very useful, we went to the health department today and it turns out shes not pregnant *sigh of relief*, she also took a pill nicknamed the morning after pill? its good for up to 72 hours or something.. anyways yes im going to try and get her on bc and i will also purchase some spermicide with nonoxynol-9. also i didnt give her oral for an hour and a half, we had sex for an hour and a half.. i gave her oral for about 15 minutes before we had sex. not sure if thats what you were implying or not . she really likes when i go in deep with 2 fingers and she doesnt wanna try to have an orgasm by herself or with a toy like a dildo.. i suggested it and she said "i prefer to have you in me" so that made me kind of happy but id also like to give her an orgasm, i guess it will just take some practice .. thanks again for the time taken to help a noob out

Thu, 04/22/2004 - 03:34

oberon

Well, to answer, in my opinion, the most important question first. Condoms are a good starting place. They aren't 100% though. I'd recommend your girlfriend start birth control and you continue to use the condom- even after she's on BC- it's not 100% either. A good spermicidal gel will help reduce the risks of pregnancy as well- those with nonoxynol-9 have even been shown to help prevent HIV.

edit- Oh yes! After you ejaculate, you should always pull out as soon as possible. You NEVER use the same condom twice. It does increase the risk of breakage or spillage.

Hope this helps. Good luck.

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