I had a lot of trouble the other night...I'm very self conscious about myself, and my body, but my boyfriend thinks I'm sexy, and beautiful, and he's not just saying lines..

So when we found ourselves naked in his bed, I was really embarassed, and unsure of myself, and what I was doing, so even though I was as horny as anything..there was so much resistance to him inserting himself into me..and I think what lilly said was right...sometimes psychology comes into it. I was worrying, and stressing about my own performance, whereas he was thinking the opposite!

maybe you were having trouble b/c you and your g/f still have a lot of underlying issues to take care of, according to your other post about time healing a relationship.

My partner & I had the same trouble first time we tried to have sex, too, so dont fret, you're not alone! it seems also lily was on the same track as i.

is your gf a virgin also? Anyways, i think what came into play were nerves. I honestly didn't think i was nervous, but when i look back, i was nervous as all hell, and was afraid we might get caught (seeing as i was in his house w/his parents & they didn't even know i was there).

Just keep trying, that's the best thing possible. Take it real slow, use some lube, have plenty of foreplay 'till she's really wet (if you're up for oral, that could be great as not only will it feel great for her, you're also using some of your saliva to help the process), and as i said, just take it slow. Let her guide you in, and dont go pushing too hard - unless that's what she wants ofcourse.

And remember to breath deeply - that will also help the both of you relax without losing the tension and will also greatly help her vaginal muscles relax so it'll make it easier for you to go in. Remember also - communicate! Talk about it before hand (but not toooo soon before hand).

Good luck! You'll get there!

Well without being there we can't say for sure.

You may not have been hard enough... but only you know how hard you can be in relation to how hard you were that night..

She also may not have been wet enough. Get some lube and try again. But don't put so much pressure on getting it in, it may be freaking you out and when you start freaking you'll start to go limp. Relax and tease her a bit with the head of your penis. (pretend like you're teasing, but really you are looking for the vagina!) PUt a finger or two in first so you know exactly where it is and to get her excited, then try again. It will be okay. Everyone's first time is not perfect, so don't worry about it.