My idea of a first date with a new couple is go eat dinner at a nice resturaunt and then walk around town if the weather is nice.
Personally, I think movies on a first date is a bad idea. 'cause when you're watching a movie in a theater, you can't really talk to your partner while watching a movie right? That's why going to the movies with your date all the time is my opinion, wrong. Think about it, it takes time away from actually talking to each other to get to know each other. Going to movies once in a while is okay, but all the time is not. And this is coming from someone like myself who goes to the movies all the time, but I mostly go by myself though.
You want to do things with her that will have long conversations with through the whole date.
What is your idea on a first date?
This topic is a good one for me. Not because I think I'm a master at first dates but because I've been on a lot of them!
So it all depends on where you stand with the girl. If you don't know her all that well and you two are a little shy. Never ever go to dinner! that could be a really bad idea! If conversation dies...so do you! and no matter how good the food is she won't want to hear you talk about it the whole time. Not only this but there are other reasons. For instance women typically do not like to be seen "pigging out" infront of someone they don't really know. No matter how comfortable they are with themselves, they won't want you to potentially see them with a linguini noodle hanging out of their lips stuck to their chin. You can probably see the potential awkwardness there. But that doesn't mean you can't have desert!! Everyone loves an ice-cream covered brownie etc... not only that, but "pigging out" on desert is to be expected and its shared! (shared being key) also its typically cheaper too. And as a bonus. desert takes less time at the table. Which means if the conversation goes dull. thats ok. theres only two bites left!
Movies are pretty typical but a decent Idea however. It can be relaxing (if its a good comedy) and it can also provide discussion topics later in the date.
Any kind of physical activity is good too. walking, going ice-skating, bike rides, etc...
and of course you have museums, sporting events, etc... which are all excellent idea's as well.
Just keep in mind to relax, be yourself and have fun. If your relaxed and she can sense that, it'll be just that much easier for her to relax too. A good way to relax is to take her out for some drinks to a quietter pub in the mid evening. Good way to loosen up and get some good convo going.
Hope this helps and good luck!
I think the game itself would be a better idea in your situation Greendale, but ya know, wait until you're at that level.
I love music, but unfortunately have never been to a concert
If a good friend of mine took me to one as a date, I'd be thrilled. Not exactly good for first dates though, maybe after you have known each other for a while.
[QUOTE=Quote (vagabondprince @ Jan. 02 2005,21:31)]have somewhere in mind as a definite plan for the day, don't just ask what she wants to do though. just make it a surprise[/QUOTE]
Yep, well, the girl I'm interested in from work, I know she's an obsessive baseball fan, she loves the Yankees. I'd love to take her to some kind of baseball hall of fame/musuem or something that has something to do with baseball. Perhaps even a live Yankees game during MLB season.
have somewhere in mind as a definite plan for the day, don't just ask what she wants to do though. just make it a surprise
[QUOTE=Quote (vagabondprince @ Jan. 01 2005,19:00)]you have to keep in mind that i was already decent friends with my gf before we started dating, but our first official date was lunch at a nice restaurant and then the art museum, and we were planning on going for a walk through the campus arboretum, but were too anxious to get back to the room to end up doing that. she had expressed interest in art before, so i knew that would be a good thing to do, and i made it a surprise kind of thing, inviting her out to lunch, but not telling her anything else, just saying to plan on an afternoon of fun. it was definitely an afternoon of fun, the lunch and the museum being only part of it
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That's a good plan to, ask her out for lunch first, if she accepts, then ask her if she wants to go anywhere.
you have to keep in mind that i was already decent friends with my gf before we started dating, but our first official date was lunch at a nice restaurant and then the art museum, and we were planning on going for a walk through the campus arboretum, but were too anxious to get back to the room to end up doing that. she had expressed interest in art before, so i knew that would be a good thing to do, and i made it a surprise kind of thing, inviting her out to lunch, but not telling her anything else, just saying to plan on an afternoon of fun. it was definitely an afternoon of fun, the lunch and the museum being only part of it
[QUOTE=Quote (mjv154 @ Jan. 01 2005,18:25)]Movies are bad! I'm also going to tell you that sitting there eating dinner can be bad too. Here is what I do on the fist few dates I take a new gal on.
Find something interesting and stimulating....a hockey game, a museum exhibit, art gallery, wine tasting. This not only is fun, but give you something to talk about. "Wow, that was a really great body check, or this art work is intersting I think it means....this."
Dinner can be a trap. You sit there eating, and if conversation is difficult for you or her, then the date can go bottoms up real fast.
Besides, if you like this gal then you want her to remember you. So...build a memory for her. Give her something that she will not soon forget.
You can imagine her going home to her friends and saying, "Oh he took me to dinner and we talked, it was NICE." When you really want, "Wow, we went to this really cool art gallery, it was really interesting, I've never done that before." Points my friend, big points.
You do need to eat though....so you can add dinner to the end of an intersting night. Try to add a cool twist by ordering a bunch of appatizers instead of entires. It's fun, promotes sharing, and though it's not usually cheaper, sometimes it can be.
If you really want to knock her socks off....cook. Not for her, but WITH her. It's fun, and you really get to bond. No pressure, if you burn the chicken just order a pizza, she'll still love it.
Good luck![/QUOTE]
Now that sounds like a plan.
If I go somewhere with this new girl I'm interested in from work, an art gallery, museum and hockey game all sound like great ideas.
But wouldn't dinner at home be a little off? It'll get her thinking that you'll want a first french kiss on a first date or even worse, she'll think you want sex from her right away....
Thanks for the great advice though. I'll think of something that she will never forget. I'm asking for date ideas to find ways to get her to like me a lot more on a first date.
[QUOTE=Quote (mjv154 @ Jan. 01 2005,21:25)]Movies are bad! I'm also going to tell you that sitting there eating dinner can be bad too. Here is what I do on the fist few dates I take a new gal on.
Find something interesting and stimulating....a hockey game, a museum exhibit, art gallery, wine tasting. This not only is fun, but give you something to talk about. "Wow, that was a really great body check, or this art work is intersting I think it means....this."
Dinner can be a trap. You sit there eating, and if conversation is difficult for you or her, then the date can go bottoms up real fast.
Besides, if you like this gal then you want her to remember you. So...build a memory for her. Give her something that she will not soon forget.
You can imagine her going home to her friends and saying, "Oh he took me to dinner and we talked, it was NICE." When you really want, "Wow, we went to this really cool art gallery, it was really interesting, I've never done that before." Points my friend, big points.
You do need to eat though....so you can add dinner to the end of an intersting night. Try to add a cool twist by ordering a bunch of appatizers instead of entires. It's fun, promotes sharing, and though it's not usually cheaper, sometimes it can be.
If you really want to knock her socks off....cook. Not for her, but WITH her. It's fun, and you really get to bond. No pressure, if you burn the chicken just order a pizza, she'll still love it.
Good luck![/QUOTE]
Ooo that sounds nice
Take me on a date! lol
Movies are bad! I'm also going to tell you that sitting there eating dinner can be bad too. Here is what I do on the fist few dates I take a new gal on.
Find something interesting and stimulating....a hockey game, a museum exhibit, art gallery, wine tasting. This not only is fun, but give you something to talk about. "Wow, that was a really great body check, or this art work is intersting I think it means....this."
Dinner can be a trap. You sit there eating, and if conversation is difficult for you or her, then the date can go bottoms up real fast.
Besides, if you like this gal then you want her to remember you. So...build a memory for her. Give her something that she will not soon forget.
You can imagine her going home to her friends and saying, "Oh he took me to dinner and we talked, it was NICE." When you really want, "Wow, we went to this really cool art gallery, it was really interesting, I've never done that before." Points my friend, big points.
You do need to eat though....so you can add dinner to the end of an intersting night. Try to add a cool twist by ordering a bunch of appatizers instead of entires. It's fun, promotes sharing, and though it's not usually cheaper, sometimes it can be.
If you really want to knock her socks off....cook. Not for her, but WITH her. It's fun, and you really get to bond. No pressure, if you burn the chicken just order a pizza, she'll still love it.
Good luck!
well i think the movies is a good idea on a first date BUT only if u do something afterwards. i think u could...go to a movie..and then go eat, or hang out at the beach or somewhere cool. i do agree there has to be some time to talk.