I'm 18 years old and new to sex. The problem is I last too long. I've never finished during intercourse and my partner thinks it is a problem. We've gone for as long as 40 minutes(not counting foreplay) and while she does have orgasms, I do not.
Sat, 11/10/2007 - 18:30
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Finishing problem - she cums, I don't
RELAX!!!!
So many people stress way to much over sex. Just let it be fun. Enjoy...dont focus on cumming. Let me ask you, do you grab your shaft tight and pump away while masterbating? or is it a loose grip slow method? Because a vagina isnt like your hand. It cant go as fast as your arm does, nor can it grrip as tight. And until you have had sex a fair amount, your not going to be able to thrust that fast, or even fairly quickly for a while.
Just relax and have fun, let her finish you orally then, or switch to ultrathin, or something. If you enjoy the warmth more than anything, you can go wrong with polyeurethane ;)
I envy you lucky man! First of all tell me how do you manage to last so long! This is something that I cant expect even in my wildest of dreams. Though I understand this may have already been asked before many times but am still looking for an answer. I am so desperate to last longer well not that I want to last as long as 40 minutes but even a good hard 10 minutes are good for me. Being optimistic to find this answer I came to this place and am sure I would get my answer too.
[QUOTE=snowstorm;199084]I envy you lucky man! First of all tell me how do you manage to last so long! This is something that I cant expect even in my wildest of dreams. Though I understand this may have already been asked before many times but am still looking for an answer. I am so desperate to last longer well not that I want to last as long as 40 minutes but even a good hard 10 minutes are good for me. Being optimistic to find this answer I came to this place and am sure I would get my answer too.[/QUOte]
[quote=mrfixit]The problem is I last too long. I've never finished during intercourse and my partner thinks it is a problem. [/quote]
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Your concerns are common ones and have been asked and answered many times. First things first.
If you are lasting too long, tell us, are you using a condom? Are you you on the raw edge of a climax when you begin intercourse?
If you are using a condom apply some lube to the Glans of your penis before rolling the condom on. This will give it some wiggle room. Next, many young guys have the misguided misconception that lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking is the way to build arousal to the brink of an orgasm. WRONG. This is the purpose and the why of Foreplay and all the Necking and Petting that goes before.
If you are not lasting long enough then there are some fixes.
* First, you can masturbate an hour or so before getting it on
* Second, try different positions. Some provide more friction and stimulation than others
* Third, use the Squeeze technique and FREEZE all movement until the sense of urgency subsides
* Fourth, work on recognizing those sensations that immediately precede the trigger point of your orgasm. Begin by reading this helpful article:
Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controling Premature Ejaculation
* Fifth, concentrate on stroking the Glans, Frenulum, and top of the shaft just inside the vaginal opening. The vagina itself expands quite a bit when aroused while the opening remains fairly tight.
I hope this is of help. Either of you got questions?
Oh um...you know you dont want to last 40 minutes. Because lasting that long means that you really dont feel too much, and you get tired. Plus she gets sore after usually 10. Believe me...I went an hour my first time...actually i average 30 for the first 7 or 8 times. it was lame and we had sex maybe 1 time a week cuz she would be soooo sore.
Danci'n Doc is quite correct. Also, even at your age, it is not too early for you to begin learning to appreciate and enjoy subtlety during sex. Stop focusing upon yourself and your orgasm. You are capable of asssting your lady to multiple orgasms by alternating between stimulating her posterior fornix and her G-Spot using various positions. Hmmm a nice 4 hour sex session - sounds good, doesn't it?
When it is your turn to climax, she should be assisting you by applying body worship until you're ready to either explode or scream and only THEN should you enter and begin thrusting, with her moving to help, toward your cimax. Have her whisper"yes" into the side of your neck.