Hey everyone!
Iam still a virgin but I have been fingered by this one boy on many occasions. Every single time he fingers me it really hurts, I mean really painful! To the point where I want him to pull his fingers out and he asked me ''What, Am I doing it wrong''?? and I answered ''Nah it f***ing hurts though''. My god that was stupid of me to say that, but I hated it!!
I think the problem is as soon as we are about to get together, he pulls my trousers down straight away, so I have not even got the chance to get horny!
I really should ask how many fingers he is putting up there!!
I tense up my vagina and it feels like all my vagina muscles are pulled in tight, so that it is really painful.
And also he is not my boyfriend, he is like a one off casual fling which means that I get really nervous.
I really need to let myself go!! Have you guys got any tips on my situation 
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dont be so tough on yourself, how can you be into it if he just barges on in.... you need to at least be a bit turned on, try masterbation, learn exactly what you like then show him...
[QUOTE=Quote (demonbuttercup @ June 23 2005,14:01)]Ok first off... never do anything you aren't comfortable with.
If it hurts... tell him!
you should never continue with fingering/sex if it hurts. I mean come on.
Just the way you describe how you feel around him, all tensed up etc... tells me you might not be ready or just not comfortable with him. I mean there are plenty of women who have booty calls and one night stands yet they are totally "comfortable" with the situation. I on the otherhand need to know the guy well....you might be like that and just think you aren't.. i dunno.
I mean if you are anticipating pain every time OF COURSE you will be tense.
Its your body YOU tell him what to do... not the other way around.
Also sounds like he has no clue as to what he is doing. I personally dont enjoy being fingered or anything down there if Im not properly turned on. Im not a virgin and that still hurts. If its not wet down there.. its gonna hurt. He has to learn your body and know to kiss and touch and test the waters... when he can tell you are sufficiently wet down there... then proceed w/ the fingers.
He'll never learn the right way if you dont tell him. Don't be embarassed and definetly dont lay there in pain for his sake.
He's supposed to be giving you pleasure not dread.[/QUOTE]
exactly wat i wud have said...u shud think hard about if u actually want to be doing this with this guy..he doesn't sound very caring.
If I'm not turned on, fingering hurts like the dickens. And this is after ten years of sex and two kids.
Experiment with foreplay, get some lube, and let him know that there are a lot of other places he can find that will get you ready to go a lot better. Make it a game: find the erogenous zones.
Ok first off... never do anything you aren't comfortable with.
If it hurts... tell him!
you should never continue with fingering/sex if it hurts. I mean come on.
Just the way you describe how you feel around him, all tensed up etc... tells me you might not be ready or just not comfortable with him. I mean there are plenty of women who have booty calls and one night stands yet they are totally "comfortable" with the situation. I on the otherhand need to know the guy well....you might be like that and just think you aren't.. i dunno.
I mean if you are anticipating pain every time OF COURSE you will be tense.
Its your body YOU tell him what to do... not the other way around.
Also sounds like he has no clue as to what he is doing. I personally dont enjoy being fingered or anything down there if Im not properly turned on. Im not a virgin and that still hurts. If its not wet down there.. its gonna hurt. He has to learn your body and know to kiss and touch and test the waters... when he can tell you are sufficiently wet down there... then proceed w/ the fingers.
He'll never learn the right way if you dont tell him. Don't be embarassed and definetly dont lay there in pain for his sake.
He's supposed to be giving you pleasure not dread.