not much sorry to say she will let you when she is ready. I did that to a x-boyfriend a long time ago I found it exciting to touch him but didn't want him to do anything but kiss me. Age might be a factor if you all are teens that would be a reason. i would think
Just enjoy the fact that she is grabbing your dick and appreciate that she will do that for you. I think eventually she will let you slip your fingers down her pants.
Traditionally, women set the boundary lines for how far to go at any given time.
These limits are based upon her comfort level with the guy and the relationship as it is that day. It also hinges on factors like trust, fear (real or imagined), self confidence, self image, shyness, to name a few.
She is also free to extend the limits on how far the two of them will go at any time. So, how does a guy know when to stop, or when the boundary has been extended? Simple. We use a technique known as "Implied Consent". This means that consent to proceed is silently granted until she gives the signal to stop. Once we know the limit we are free to fool around within that boundary. To learn if the boundary lines have been extended, we just do as we have done before, teasing to see if we can go beyond, and if we can then we continue to go further than the times before until she stops us upon reaching her new limit. And, so it goes.
> my gf wont let me go down on her, she grabs my dick all the time but wont let me in her pants what can i do to get her to let me finger her?
Work on matters of trust. She has to know without a doubt that you will stop before ever going too far. This is your responsibility and requires that you have the mental capacity to keep part of your brain aware of what is going on so you can stop even when the raging hormones in the heat of passion are urging you on. Breech this trust and your relationship will be over or severely damaged.
Wait. At some point she will let you in. Right now her boundary is at some point outside her panties. Perhaps you can rub, massage, and finger her from the outside of her panties. If you test to see if you can either slip a finger inside the crotch or perhaps pull them down, you will be stopped; however, do not stop trying because at some point in time she will not stop you. The key to this is not to keep trying that night. Once is enough. If she stops you---then you stop trying and operate freely within whatever limits she has determined are safe and secure for her.
you know your relationship is in a comfortable state if your gf doesn't mind about farting infront of you or with you. once they do that you know they are very comfortable as girls 'never fart'
Just a little thing i found that usually works as usually women will not fart infront of somebody unless they are really comfortable for a sake of embarrassment. correct me if i am wrong but i found this is usually the case.
Also just respect her, give her some time. things will pan out eventually. She just needs to reach a higher comfort level and know that you aren't just in it for her body that you are in it because you love her (dont say this if you dont mean it, they are strong words)
Also just respect her, give her some time. things will pan out eventually. She just needs to reach a higher comfort level and know that you aren't just in it for her body that you are in it because you love her (dont say this if you dont mean it, they are strong words)[/QUOTE]
Ok well very interesting terminology with the whole fart thing. But I agree with the quote of respect her giver her sometime. And whatever you do NEVER EVER say I love you to a person just to get sex or foreplay. What goes around comes around double fold. Have had a guy say that to me just to get in my pants. Did he succeed HELL NO but the next girl he tried the I love you thing with well lets just say he got what he asked for. LOL
not much sorry to say she will let you when she is ready. I did that to a x-boyfriend a long time ago I found it exciting to touch him but didn't want him to do anything but kiss me. Age might be a factor if you all are teens that would be a reason. i would think
Just enjoy the fact that she is grabbing your dick and appreciate that she will do that for you. I think eventually she will let you slip your fingers down her pants.
Traditionally, women set the boundary lines for how far to go at any given time.
These limits are based upon her comfort level with the guy and the relationship as it is that day. It also hinges on factors like trust, fear (real or imagined), self confidence, self image, shyness, to name a few.
She is also free to extend the limits on how far the two of them will go at any time. So, how does a guy know when to stop, or when the boundary has been extended? Simple. We use a technique known as "Implied Consent". This means that consent to proceed is silently granted until she gives the signal to stop. Once we know the limit we are free to fool around within that boundary. To learn if the boundary lines have been extended, we just do as we have done before, teasing to see if we can go beyond, and if we can then we continue to go further than the times before until she stops us upon reaching her new limit. And, so it goes.
> my gf wont let me go down on her, she grabs my dick all the time but wont let me in her pants what can i do to get her to let me finger her?
Work on matters of trust. She has to know without a doubt that you will stop before ever going too far. This is your responsibility and requires that you have the mental capacity to keep part of your brain aware of what is going on so you can stop even when the raging hormones in the heat of passion are urging you on. Breech this trust and your relationship will be over or severely damaged.
Wait. At some point she will let you in. Right now her boundary is at some point outside her panties. Perhaps you can rub, massage, and finger her from the outside of her panties. If you test to see if you can either slip a finger inside the crotch or perhaps pull them down, you will be stopped; however, do not stop trying because at some point in time she will not stop you. The key to this is not to keep trying that night. Once is enough. If she stops you---then you stop trying and operate freely within whatever limits she has determined are safe and secure for her.
you know your relationship is in a comfortable state if your gf doesn't mind about farting infront of you or with you. once they do that you know they are very comfortable as girls 'never fart'
Just a little thing i found that usually works as usually women will not fart infront of somebody unless they are really comfortable for a sake of embarrassment. correct me if i am wrong but i found this is usually the case.
Also just respect her, give her some time. things will pan out eventually. She just needs to reach a higher comfort level and know that you aren't just in it for her body that you are in it because you love her (dont say this if you dont mean it, they are strong words)
[QUOTE=Vper;152965].
Also just respect her, give her some time. things will pan out eventually. She just needs to reach a higher comfort level and know that you aren't just in it for her body that you are in it because you love her (dont say this if you dont mean it, they are strong words)[/QUOTE]
Ok well very interesting terminology with the whole fart thing. But I agree with the quote of respect her giver her sometime. And whatever you do NEVER EVER say I love you to a person just to get sex or foreplay. What goes around comes around double fold. Have had a guy say that to me just to get in my pants. Did he succeed HELL NO but the next girl he tried the I love you thing with well lets just say he got what he asked for. LOL