I know this has been mentioned a few times before as i've searched the forums for help, but i never quite got enough answers i was looking for, so i wondered if any of you could help me.
I'm eighteen years old, still a virgin (although my hymen has been broken) and my boyfriend of three months has just started getting intimate with me.
The thing is, i seem to be the only person i know who finds fingering... uncomfortable after a while.
I dont know whether its my inexperience, or the way he's doing it, but sometimes i have to stop him as i get the urge to pee and i dont really want to just let go and urinate all over his hand :p
I've read up that this could be a form of female ejaculation and i am keen to find this out but i just never allow myself to let go, just incase its not.
My boyfriend and i never really "plan" when we're going to start doing it, just one thing leads to another, so i never really get the chance to go to the toilet before hand and i sense that stopping him and saying "One minute Love, i need the loo" might be a bit of a mood killer, haha.
We've tried many different positions, from me laying down, to being on all fours, but still i find that after the initial enjoyment of penetration after a few minutes he presses on my bladder and i just have to stop then.
Are here anyways that he can finger me that i'll recieve enjoyment from, that wont involve him prodding my bladder every given oppertunity?
If anyone can give me any advice or point me towards a good thread, i'd very much appreciate it!
Thankyou :)
99.9% of the time it is a false sensation and you will not pee on him. I get the same sensation when my "g-spot" is being stimulated. And it's weird at first because you feel like you're going to pee and then you are concentrating so hard on not peeing you stop having any fun. It took the guy telling me "I don't care, go ahead and pee on me if that's what you have to do." for me to relax and let it happen, and guess what? I didn't pee on him.
The top of the vaginal wall is very close to the urethra in proximity, sometimes g-spot stim can give you an urge to void, or just him penetrating and rubbing against the top can do the same.
You may just have to use the bathroom before you begin (like it or not, the fact is we are adults, and this is part of life) and empty your bladder. If that's not working have him take it easy on where he is touching and massage another portion of your genitals.
1. We ALL sometimes get uncomfortable with fingering!
2. Either he is inserting his finger and rubbing the aanterior wall of the vagina. The urethra is right behind that wall and this will give you the urge whether or not you have to go.
or
3. He is rubbing outside and across your urethral opening. This gives a similar urge to pee when repeated.
Most men think that because the penis goes "in there" that is where they should put their fingers. The real stimulation is of the clitoris which does not need insertion and is located in front of the urethral opening.
You say you are a virgin but refer to "penetration." This usually refers to the penis penetrating but I assume you mean his finger penetrates. Next time, tell him to forget about putting anything into your vagina. Have him gently press three fingers over your mound and rotate them slowly. Adjust from there at your direction.
And you are not getting your bladder fingered. Do a search on female reproductive ssytem and learn your parts.
i get that feeling during sex sometimes but i havnt ever peed if i 'let go' just try you'll enjoy it more
yeah i get that too its like eeeeeeek need the loo! try and go to the loo before u go in your room and if you still feel like you need the loo then you probably won't it's just the pressure on it as Brandye said.