well...i finger my girlfriend when i dont want to eat her out..but i guess im not good enough to make her climax off fingering...so girls tell me what you like
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Well, if she says she enjoys it then I don't think you need to worry much. When my boyfriend fingers me it is ten times more intense when we kissing. I guess location and position really matters for that, but it is so much nicer than a guy just jabbing his fingers around you. I'm sure you could have figured that out yourself, you just need to remember it. And kissing doesn't just have to be a mouth to mouth deal, I love getting little kisses anywhere, especially my neck where the jaw and neck meet.
Not that this is really an option for you, but before I had my own room and I used to sleep in my boyfriend's room on the weekends and it really got me going when he'd finger me with his rommate sleeping like 5 feet away. I'm not too into erotica etc. but it was just such a thrill to know that at any minute we could be had. So, in other words, maybe there is something that would mentally stimulate your girlfriend.
If you read around the ‘Pleasing Her’ section, there’s a whole bunch of topics on the g-spot, female orgasm & ejaculation, and fingering. There’s also one called ‘Sounds of Pleasure’, and that’s under ‘Pleasing Her’ too, you have to scroll down a little bit to find it.
You should go read those because they may help, then come back here and post again, but as for now, it seems that you two are comfortable with each other, considering you’ve been together for 6 months or so. I don’t think it’s exactly a problem that she doesn’t masturbate. And it sounds like she’s not comfortable talking about it…maybe while you’re doing it you can just ask her if it feels good, or what feels best.
I sort of have the same problem with my gf. I haven't really solved it yet but I am getting closer. let me tell you what I know and maybe you can help me at the same time.
1. communication is good BUT you can't make her reaction your sole topic and you can't ask her about it too much. you should be there for fun first and foremost.
2. you can't say anything negative about her. the things she does or tries to do. her smell or taste. thats a real big thing. always make her feel comfortable. tell her how sexy she looks and how much you like the taste and smell of her.
3. dont expect her to moan. probably wont happen for awhile.
4. open up yourself. moan when she does something you like. tell her what you like and what feels best. and just have fun.
thats all I can think of for the moment. I'll check back later.
last night i fingered my girl friend for the first time i think i was doing something right because she started really getting into it she was breathing hard moaning and like scratching my back biting me and almost going crazy but she just wouldnt orgasim this went on for a while until she told me to stop because she was exuasted and my hand was just about dead i asked her after that if she had ever orgasimed before and she told me no i was kissing her during the whole thing and was trying to play with her breats does anybody have any tips so i can give her the first orgasim of her life.
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Alright well heres the run down. I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 6 months. Neither of us want to have sex, atleast yet, and we haven't gotten into oral related stuff either (she doesn't want to yet).
Well the problem is, my girlfriend doesn't really react to much of anything. I do talk to her, and occasionally ask questions, but the problem is she's never masterbated. And she is pretty much dead set against it. So basically communication doesn't really get too far, she only manages a "I dont know". She does enjoy it she says, and I have gotten her to jump a couple times when I found her clit, but I cannot seem to ever really find it, despite knowing where it is (I have found it on other girls). Her G-spot I have found (shes admitted that much) but again, I don't get much reaction out of that it seems?
So basically I'm stuck. She doesn't really feel completely comfortable talking about it, and anyways I don't think she can really tell me much either.
Any suggestions? I am very down to earth when I do attempt communication with her, and she'll laugh and enjoy it altogether, but I really would like to maybe get a moan or two out of her if you know what I mean.
ok.....i have started fingering my girl for about 3 weeks now. And im not sure if i do it good or not. What is the best thing to do girls......
1) Put your fingers in the vagina and just move your fingers all over while they are in there.
2) The same as above except move your fingers in and out a little
3) Just move your fingers in and out and just keep doing that
4) Same as 3 except when your fingers are in her vagina...move them around
well, if there is something better than what i asked, then tell me what it is....thanx
Well, to start off, I like #1 the best, but as you know, every girl is different. With #1, if you move your fingers in circular motions while inside her, you are more likely to hit her g-spot, which is known to give a girl orgasms. If you don’t know where that is, I can best explain it by saying it’s underneath the clit (which is on the outside) on the inside.
Now i got another question....
how do you know if you hit the g-spot?
will your partner like make a sound when you touch it or something....does the g-spot have a feeling, like what does it feel like, if it does have a feeling.
She might, she might not. It's best to research a little bit so you have some idea of where everything is and what you are doing. Ask your gf what she enjoy's the most, and dislikes the most. All woman are different and will react in different ways; it's important to learn how she reacts to things so you can play off of those reactions.
I never really liked a guy to stick their fingers inside my vagina, I always liked it when they would play around it not in it. It never really does anything for me.
whosoleft, first off, welcome to the board, you will like it here
every girl is different, not all girls like it the same way. Tell her to masturbate that way she can orgasm, and she will know the way she likes it and what way gets her to orgasm, when she figures that out she can tell you so that you can do it and you will be able to give her an orgasm.
Far as me enjoying things, she gives a good hand job, we'll leave it that
Basically in reponse to some of the suggestions here, I've come to this site before and read the different articles, so I gotta pretty good idea of whats going on (if thats the best way of saying it lol).
I guess I just prolly need to be a lil more patient.
I don't always like being fingered and didn't like it from my ex (long term). I can tell you that I am really not into being fingered if I am not already turned on. But the #1 for me is that I have to be caressed on some other part of the body at the same time. Kissing counts big-time as "other". Also, if you can stimulate her clit while fingering, it should make a big difference.
I know this is a late response to your question, but I hope it helps!
To start with, communication is a very important part of a relationship in order to work, so you have to work on that. I really can't tell you what to do to please her because every girl is different. You have to try a whole bunch of things until you find the right thing. Try until you get it right. Try things that have worked on your other girlfriends, you never know maybe it'll work for her too. Good luck.
why dont u start off with rubbing the outside the start fingering her slowly then go a little bit faster and then vary by going fast and slow. then take your two fingers and rub across the surface slow with a little bit of pressure. but at the same time with the other hand finger her slowly then faster again. why dont u try this and let me know if it works!!
There is no exact way to finger a girl. As you will read over and over again on this site, every girl is different and stimulated by different things. Play around, move your hands all over and see what she responds to the most (in a good way of course). Take a look at other topics that deal with fingering and make note of some techniques. I know I've made a few posts attempting to describe what I like best. Just remember that sticking your finger(s) into her vagina is not usually the best was to bring a girl to orgasm, it is all about stimulating the clit, and a finger or two inside doesn't hurt at the same time.
ok yeah i guess so. and i heard in the other thread about the left side being more sensitive . maybe ill throw that into it also. is the g spot (like if shes laying on her back) in and towards the front of the inside?
The first thing you do when fingering really isn't look for the g-spot, but yes that is where it is. Finding the g-spot isn't always easy so you should start with the clit.
all right...well this is what i found that works great but not good enough
1)play with her iner thighs (just for a tease)
2) play with her clit for around 30sec-1min
3)make sure you fingers are well lubed...then enter in slowly
4)bring your fingers out all the way to the tip (still inside though)
5)then slide it in remotely fast and hard all the way in
6)then working from her (how she moans) faster, harder, tease....what ever
remember 90% of it is mental...so if you turn her on more then you'll get more resonse
i dont think you guys should focus so much on having to find the G-spot. like everyone said its different for every girl. personally i like my man to rubbed the outside of my panties first getting me real wet. all the while kissing and teasing my nipples. then once he puts his hands in my panties just running his fingers up and down the slit up to the clit just to make sure everthing gets wet. now when im fingering myself i prefer a slower fingering as opposed to just a jabbing as someone suggested. what ill do is insert my middle and ring fingers in my vagina leaving the first and pinky finger on either side as kind of a support for my hand... and place the heel of my palm on my clit and apply just a little pressure. then ill start moving my hand up and down slowly this allows my fingers to move in and out of my vagina while the palm of my hand stimulates my clit. its a great way to stimulate a lot of areas w/ just one hand. also moving in a circlular motion feels good too...hope this helps
I like it best when a guy uses his thumb because its a little wider. Either that or two fingers.. i like it slow, don't just jam 'em in there and go to town.
ok, first off, you don't HAVE to touch her clit, but it's a good thing to do.
so, you could start by rubbing her clit, gently, gentle rubbing feels better and hard rubbing can hurt! I know, a guy can get to into it and hurt you! you can rub it in circular motions, or up and down, side to side, even tap lightly on it with your finger.
Then find her hole, if she's wearing pants or underwear it can be kind of tricky to find. Do not start poking your finger at her to find it, (this also can hurt) the best way is to go down alittle further towards her anus and then you can separate the lips of her vagina. put your finger in and pull it in and out slowly, you can curl it, whatever there's alot of stuff you can try, whatever feels good to her. Start going faster, you can even add another finger or two. good luck.
Ok
ive just registered on this website hoping that someone could just give me a like walk through on fingering a girl..
ive never fingered a girl before i know u have to feel the clit then put your finger or fingers inside her pussy and curve them when u pull them out to try and find the g-spot
i was just wondering if this was correct and add any specail things that a bf have tried on you or you have used on a girl
i just want to get it right with this girl that i just asked out today
someone please help me
Obviously, you are very new to this whole thing. The best tip anyone can give you and has been, is to communicate, ask her what she wants, then do it. Let her know it's alright to direct you as he move. That, is the best way to get going with a girl, in my opinion.
Bigmac is correct; you do NOT want to finger the "pee hole." The urinary opening is a seperate orifice from the vagina and is generally not a source of pleasure. It is located further forward than the vaginal opening. I wouldn't worry too much about fingering the wrong hole, as the urinary opening is very small and not easily confused with the vaginal opening. Here is a link to a diagram to help you get better oriented: female diagram
My boyfriend fingers me and he doesn't use any lubrication and he doesn't lick his fingers. Now, don't get me wrong, I do get wet but sometimes it's PAINFUL! I feel bad telling him to lick his fingers (we're only 14... and I can't get actual lube). He's very new at doing things like this and I'm afraid that vy me telling him to lick his fingers, he'll get offended. I've already had my guy friend try to suggest it but he didn't get it. Is there any way I can bring this up w/o causing him to be offended?
Just tell him, he doesn't have to feel offended, and that's the only way he will learn to please you the right way. When having sex, talk to him, don't just stay there hoping he'll make the right move this time; take control, guide him, tell him where/how it feels good, and when and where to stop/continue.
You know, when you are down there, is realy hard to know what you are doing, even more if you are a newbie, so give him a little help .
By the way, i think you can get lube at any age, it's not like it is a prescribed drug, isn't?, and it's not realy expensive, or you can use baby oil (only for fingering). Well, c ya.
I don't think he'll get offended. If he does, it's time he learns that lubrication is an important and necessary part of sex.
You can get lube at any drug store. As Tjdude said, you can buy it at any age. I know it might be a little embaressing, but real lube works better than saliva, and it is safer, since there is some risk of transmitting a disease through saliva.
[QUOTE=Quote (Dirrty LiL Duckie @ June 24 2003,21:55)]My boyfriend fingers me and he doesn't use any lubrication and he doesn't lick his fingers. Now, don't get me wrong, I do get wet but sometimes it's PAINFUL! I feel bad telling him to lick his fingers (we're only 14... and I can't get actual lube). He's very new at doing things like this and I'm afraid that vy me telling him to lick his fingers, he'll get offended. I've already had my guy friend try to suggest it but he didn't get it. Is there any way I can bring this up w/o causing him to be offended?[/QUOTE]
Ifhe respects you and wants to please you he won't be offended at all. There is nothing wrong with communication to what you like. Either that or when you try and start something why not lick his fingers for him? Or show him how you like it done but masterbating in frount of him.
Those are my suggestions.
ive been with my girlfriend for a couple of months now and we get on really well and i want to take it one step further but i can never seem to get in a good position to finger her and kiss her at the same time can anyone help?
hmm well are u guys naked or at least pantless? hehe...ok well i find for me the best way is if u two are lying down, shes on her back and u lay next to her on ur side facing her. that way ur hand have easy access to everything. just kinda pull her towards u a little and u can caress her breasts, stomach, ass, legs, thighs, whatever while u are kissing her. then just maybe while ur hand is going down one leg slightly bend it up so that one is straight and one is bent. a little parting of the legs and u should be in a good position to let ur hand go down south...lol.
If you want to finger her without taking her panties off you should try letting her sit in your lap with her facing away from you. She can still turn her head so that you can kiss and you have good access to down below. Another advantage is that she will be squiring around a little if she is enjoying it and that is a nice little type of lap dance that she doesn't even realize she is doing. Or does she?
all depend on how your gonna do it, whether u slid ur finger in deeply, or just shallow, or even at all. i can bew done in nearly any position, and can depend on how flexible your hands are, when me and my girl first started going out, she sat in front of me, and that worked quite well cause u canthen tikle her ear, or kiss her neck, or such things, and another great favourite is standing against a wall (this very much depends how flexible your wrists are), and while chest to chest, kissing, with or without tongues, your hand can slip down her pants (sorry for all you americans, panties, im not refering to the item of clothing which you call pants or slacks, but which we call trousers), and have acces for shallow fingering, so long as your hand can twist around a bit, not a lot, just a LITTLE BIT.
I've found that this works best on a couch towards the ends so you can lean. You, the boy, sits up with the girl horizontally lying down with her head on your lap. A variation on this is for her to move up a little bit, with your free hand cradling her. It makes it much easier to kiss. This works really well if you're keeping clothes on.
Another one is that if her pants are off, or halfway off, you can lay her on her back, and you can hold yourself up over her, and finger her, and kiss her at the same time but that one's a little harder.
Pants on or off, I think the best way is the girl on her backone leg straight and the other bent with the guy on his side. Sometimes I like to put my bent leg around my boyfriend. After that I'd go for the girl on her back and the guy kneeling over her with one leg wrapped around his ankle and the other his neck, but you gotta be comfortable with your legs contorted for that I guess.
I find that the best way to do this is for the girl to be lying down and the man to lay on top of her, kissing her and slowly move your hand down and then you can do both at the same time.
If it is possible to use the bed, it makes for the most comfort...have your g/f lay on her side and you can lay behind her..(spooning)....you can reach over her and be able to finger her and play with her clit. This also allows you to be able to whisper in her ear or kiss her on the neck....
just one quick reminder: if we are showing signs of liking what you're doing (heavier, faster, harder, breathing, moaning, whimpering...whatever), then don't change...faster isn't always better but harder will do...and even though orgasm is most easily brought on by certain sports such as the g-spot and the clit, don't ONLY concentrate on those...maybe you can mix it up like stimulate those, but other parts at the same time!!
Interesting. I have noticed that the left side of my clitoris (my left) seems more sensitive than the right, but I always assumed that was somthing unique to me.
Fingering and oral are a self taught art - differs girl to girl. i have found out that if you take time and rub her mound of pussy hair for a while they tend to warm up.gentle pressure on the mound and move your hand around - star at the bottom of her stomach use your whole hand almost like a massage on the outside of her pussy. then slide your middle finger over her clit to the actual hole and move it in and out like a swinging door that is attached at the top - just barely catch the bottom of the hole as you going in very shallow strokes in and out. she should be or getting pretty wet by now - now try sticking a finger or two in her and if you can change positions so your head is at her feet turn you hand palm up and insert your finger try to find a spot or rough surfice on the inside of her on the outer wall - with any luck you will have found her G-Spot massage it gently. circular or up and downj motion on the spot should get her pretty hot.Don't get upset if you don't find it the first time some are smaller than others and maybe hard to find but when you do both of you will know. as far as oral goes - spread her pussy lips and expose the clit or the clit hood your objective her is to massage the clit with your warm and wet tongue - you may have to get under the hood of the clit depending on her level of excitement - just gently move the foreskin/hood around. massage her pussy lips with your thumb and fore finger there are lots of nerve endings in the lips that we males don't pay much attention to or forget to. the whole pussy region is full of nerve endings that when stimulated adds to the pleasure. I'm sure Brandye can comment on all of the technical stuff - and i'm sure girlygirl-sexgodess and xx22xx can comment on how they would like a male to approach their genitals. Good luvk and let us know how it works out or in as the case maybe
aright...start to finish as you wish...start out with kissing/making out and holding each other...make it seem like you're NOT in it JUST for the hookup, make sure she's relaxed and where you're somewhere that no one's going to walk in/see you. then as you're making out, shift into a position that it will be easy access for you and comfortable for her...take your time, and make sure you run your hands over every part of her body, especially the inside of her thighs and her chest, to make sure she'll be wet when you actually get to fingering her. the easiest way is obviously with her pants off, but assuming this is her first time too, she may not be very comfortable not having most of her clothes on in front of you. and assuming that, then i found that one of the easiest ways for both guy and girl is for the guy to be sitting up (this works best on a couch type thing) and leaning back with the girl laying down (horizontally obviously) with her head/mostly the upper body in the guys lap...this girl has her knees bent with her legs spread, and her pants only need to be unbuttoned it's a turn on if the girl starts with her legs together and the guy slides his hands in between her thighs and rubs her entire 'area' over her pants. then he unbuttons her pants and undoes the zipper/whatever (we're not going to think you're retarded if you need both hands to undo our pants, cuz we do to) so anyway, then repeating rubbing her entire area over her panties, then finally doing it without anything in between your hand and her. i found that it feels best if the guy then VERY slowly slides one finger between the lips, and puts it inside just a little, enough to get it wet, press it gently on her as you pull out, and keep moving upwards until you feel her clit...then circle it. after you do that, put your finger back inside of her, and move it in and out slowly for maybe a minute or so, and try and spread her 'wetness' around her entire area so if you rub a different way it won't be dry and hurt her. then she should be wet enough that you can put two fingers in, possibly three but don't push it, remember to watch her body language, if she's arching her back or rasing her hips, she likes it a lot. so when you have the 2 (possibly 3) fingers inside of her, it feels better to go a little faster (in and out), just don't be rough and don't ignore her clit...teasing it feels realllllllly good. and if u've been doing it for awhile, then pull your hand out of her pants, and rub her outside of her pants, then go back in to give you and her a rest for a little while. in the future, being in this position will be good for you because her head and hands are in easy reach of guess what!! your dick!! so all you need to do is just take her hand and put it on your dick, over your pants to start, and show her how to rub it...and then for oral sex a little later on, all you have to do is roll her head to the side, and it's easy for her to swing around to being in front of you on her knees.........good enough??
well...i finger my girlfriend when i dont want to eat her out..but i guess im not good enough to make her climax off fingering...so girls tell me what you like
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Well, if she says she enjoys it then I don't think you need to worry much. When my boyfriend fingers me it is ten times more intense when we kissing. I guess location and position really matters for that, but it is so much nicer than a guy just jabbing his fingers around you. I'm sure you could have figured that out yourself, you just need to remember it. And kissing doesn't just have to be a mouth to mouth deal, I love getting little kisses anywhere, especially my neck where the jaw and neck meet.
Not that this is really an option for you, but before I had my own room and I used to sleep in my boyfriend's room on the weekends and it really got me going when he'd finger me with his rommate sleeping like 5 feet away. I'm not too into erotica etc. but it was just such a thrill to know that at any minute we could be had. So, in other words, maybe there is something that would mentally stimulate your girlfriend.
If you read around the ‘Pleasing Her’ section, there’s a whole bunch of topics on the g-spot, female orgasm & ejaculation, and fingering. There’s also one called ‘Sounds of Pleasure’, and that’s under ‘Pleasing Her’ too, you have to scroll down a little bit to find it.
You should go read those because they may help, then come back here and post again, but as for now, it seems that you two are comfortable with each other, considering you’ve been together for 6 months or so. I don’t think it’s exactly a problem that she doesn’t masturbate. And it sounds like she’s not comfortable talking about it…maybe while you’re doing it you can just ask her if it feels good, or what feels best.
Come back with an update and Good Luck
I sort of have the same problem with my gf. I haven't really solved it yet but I am getting closer. let me tell you what I know and maybe you can help me at the same time.
1. communication is good BUT you can't make her reaction your sole topic and you can't ask her about it too much. you should be there for fun first and foremost.
2. you can't say anything negative about her. the things she does or tries to do. her smell or taste. thats a real big thing. always make her feel comfortable. tell her how sexy she looks and how much you like the taste and smell of her.
3. dont expect her to moan. probably wont happen for awhile.
4. open up yourself. moan when she does something you like. tell her what you like and what feels best. and just have fun.
thats all I can think of for the moment. I'll check back later.
last night i fingered my girl friend for the first time i think i was doing something right because she started really getting into it she was breathing hard moaning and like scratching my back biting me and almost going crazy but she just wouldnt orgasim this went on for a while until she told me to stop because she was exuasted and my hand was just about dead i asked her after that if she had ever orgasimed before and she told me no i was kissing her during the whole thing and was trying to play with her breats does anybody have any tips so i can give her the first orgasim of her life.
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Alright well heres the run down. I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 6 months. Neither of us want to have sex, atleast yet, and we haven't gotten into oral related stuff either (she doesn't want to yet).
Well the problem is, my girlfriend doesn't really react to much of anything. I do talk to her, and occasionally ask questions, but the problem is she's never masterbated. And she is pretty much dead set against it. So basically communication doesn't really get too far, she only manages a "I dont know". She does enjoy it she says, and I have gotten her to jump a couple times when I found her clit, but I cannot seem to ever really find it, despite knowing where it is (I have found it on other girls). Her G-spot I have found (shes admitted that much) but again, I don't get much reaction out of that it seems?
So basically I'm stuck. She doesn't really feel completely comfortable talking about it, and anyways I don't think she can really tell me much either.
Any suggestions? I am very down to earth when I do attempt communication with her, and she'll laugh and enjoy it altogether, but I really would like to maybe get a moan or two out of her if you know what I mean.
ok.....i have started fingering my girl for about 3 weeks now. And im not sure if i do it good or not. What is the best thing to do girls......
1) Put your fingers in the vagina and just move your fingers all over while they are in there.
2) The same as above except move your fingers in and out a little
3) Just move your fingers in and out and just keep doing that
4) Same as 3 except when your fingers are in her vagina...move them around
well, if there is something better than what i asked, then tell me what it is....thanx
Well, to start off, I like #1 the best, but as you know, every girl is different. With #1, if you move your fingers in circular motions while inside her, you are more likely to hit her g-spot, which is known to give a girl orgasms. If you don’t know where that is, I can best explain it by saying it’s underneath the clit (which is on the outside) on the inside.
Now i got another question....
how do you know if you hit the g-spot?
will your partner like make a sound when you touch it or something....does the g-spot have a feeling, like what does it feel like, if it does have a feeling.
She might, she might not. It's best to research a little bit so you have some idea of where everything is and what you are doing. Ask your gf what she enjoy's the most, and dislikes the most. All woman are different and will react in different ways; it's important to learn how she reacts to things so you can play off of those reactions.
I never really liked a guy to stick their fingers inside my vagina, I always liked it when they would play around it not in it. It never really does anything for me.
whosoleft, first off, welcome to the board, you will like it here
every girl is different, not all girls like it the same way. Tell her to masturbate that way she can orgasm, and she will know the way she likes it and what way gets her to orgasm, when she figures that out she can tell you so that you can do it and you will be able to give her an orgasm.
Far as me enjoying things, she gives a good hand job, we'll leave it that
Basically in reponse to some of the suggestions here, I've come to this site before and read the different articles, so I gotta pretty good idea of whats going on (if thats the best way of saying it lol).
I guess I just prolly need to be a lil more patient.
I don't always like being fingered and didn't like it from my ex (long term). I can tell you that I am really not into being fingered if I am not already turned on. But the #1 for me is that I have to be caressed on some other part of the body at the same time. Kissing counts big-time as "other". Also, if you can stimulate her clit while fingering, it should make a big difference.
I know this is a late response to your question, but I hope it helps!
To start with, communication is a very important part of a relationship in order to work, so you have to work on that. I really can't tell you what to do to please her because every girl is different. You have to try a whole bunch of things until you find the right thing. Try until you get it right. Try things that have worked on your other girlfriends, you never know maybe it'll work for her too. Good luck.
I have never fingered my girlfreind b4 can anybody give me like exact details on exactly what i should do? it would be very helpfull.
There is no exact way to finger a girl. As you will read over and over again on this site, every girl is different and stimulated by different things. Play around, move your hands all over and see what she responds to the most (in a good way of course). Take a look at other topics that deal with fingering and make note of some techniques. I know I've made a few posts attempting to describe what I like best. Just remember that sticking your finger(s) into her vagina is not usually the best was to bring a girl to orgasm, it is all about stimulating the clit, and a finger or two inside doesn't hurt at the same time.
ok yeah i guess so. and i heard in the other thread about the left side being more sensitive . maybe ill throw that into it also. is the g spot (like if shes laying on her back) in and towards the front of the inside?
The first thing you do when fingering really isn't look for the g-spot, but yes that is where it is. Finding the g-spot isn't always easy so you should start with the clit.
i know but i was just wondering if i knew where it was so that i could give her the pleasure she deserves
all right...well this is what i found that works great but not good enough
1)play with her iner thighs (just for a tease)
2) play with her clit for around 30sec-1min
3)make sure you fingers are well lubed...then enter in slowly
4)bring your fingers out all the way to the tip (still inside though)
5)then slide it in remotely fast and hard all the way in
6)then working from her (how she moans) faster, harder, tease....what ever
remember 90% of it is mental...so if you turn her on more then you'll get more resonse
i dont think you guys should focus so much on having to find the G-spot. like everyone said its different for every girl. personally i like my man to rubbed the outside of my panties first getting me real wet. all the while kissing and teasing my nipples. then once he puts his hands in my panties just running his fingers up and down the slit up to the clit just to make sure everthing gets wet. now when im fingering myself i prefer a slower fingering as opposed to just a jabbing as someone suggested. what ill do is insert my middle and ring fingers in my vagina leaving the first and pinky finger on either side as kind of a support for my hand... and place the heel of my palm on my clit and apply just a little pressure. then ill start moving my hand up and down slowly this allows my fingers to move in and out of my vagina while the palm of my hand stimulates my clit. its a great way to stimulate a lot of areas w/ just one hand. also moving in a circlular motion feels good too...hope this helps
I like it best when a guy uses his thumb because its a little wider. Either that or two fingers.. i like it slow, don't just jam 'em in there and go to town.
ok, first off, you don't HAVE to touch her clit, but it's a good thing to do.
so, you could start by rubbing her clit, gently, gentle rubbing feels better and hard rubbing can hurt! I know, a guy can get to into it and hurt you! you can rub it in circular motions, or up and down, side to side, even tap lightly on it with your finger.
Then find her hole, if she's wearing pants or underwear it can be kind of tricky to find. Do not start poking your finger at her to find it, (this also can hurt) the best way is to go down alittle further towards her anus and then you can separate the lips of her vagina. put your finger in and pull it in and out slowly, you can curl it, whatever there's alot of stuff you can try, whatever feels good to her. Start going faster, you can even add another finger or two. good luck.
either that or use KY
Ok
ive just registered on this website hoping that someone could just give me a like walk through on fingering a girl..
ive never fingered a girl before i know u have to feel the clit then put your finger or fingers inside her pussy and curve them when u pull them out to try and find the g-spot
i was just wondering if this was correct and add any specail things that a bf have tried on you or you have used on a girl
i just want to get it right with this girl that i just asked out today
someone please help me
Welcome to the Board Marcus.
Check out this link to Fingering Techniques - it will "walk you through".
One thing - make sure that the girl is moist. If she isn't already, you can either go down on her or lick your fingers before inserting.
Obviously, you are very new to this whole thing. The best tip anyone can give you and has been, is to communicate, ask her what she wants, then do it. Let her know it's alright to direct you as he move. That, is the best way to get going with a girl, in my opinion.
Bigmac is correct; you do NOT want to finger the "pee hole." The urinary opening is a seperate orifice from the vagina and is generally not a source of pleasure. It is located further forward than the vaginal opening. I wouldn't worry too much about fingering the wrong hole, as the urinary opening is very small and not easily confused with the vaginal opening. Here is a link to a diagram to help you get better oriented:
female diagram
My boyfriend fingers me and he doesn't use any lubrication and he doesn't lick his fingers. Now, don't get me wrong, I do get wet but sometimes it's PAINFUL! I feel bad telling him to lick his fingers (we're only 14... and I can't get actual lube). He's very new at doing things like this and I'm afraid that vy me telling him to lick his fingers, he'll get offended. I've already had my guy friend try to suggest it but he didn't get it. Is there any way I can bring this up w/o causing him to be offended?
Why dont you lick his fingers? Right before he does it....and i bet he wont think anything of it
Just tell him, he doesn't have to feel offended, and that's the only way he will learn to please you the right way. When having sex, talk to him, don't just stay there hoping he'll make the right move this time; take control, guide him, tell him where/how it feels good, and when and where to stop/continue.
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You know, when you are down there, is realy hard to know what you are doing, even more if you are a newbie, so give him a little help
By the way, i think you can get lube at any age, it's not like it is a prescribed drug, isn't?, and it's not realy expensive, or you can use baby oil (only for fingering). Well, c ya.
LMAO,
if you are afraid to tell him to make his fingers wet, what are you going to do when you realize he isn't sure where to put it?
I don't think he'll get offended. If he does, it's time he learns that lubrication is an important and necessary part of sex.
You can get lube at any drug store. As Tjdude said, you can buy it at any age. I know it might be a little embaressing, but real lube works better than saliva, and it is safer, since there is some risk of transmitting a disease through saliva.
[QUOTE=Quote (Dirrty LiL Duckie @ June 24 2003,21:55)]My boyfriend fingers me and he doesn't use any lubrication and he doesn't lick his fingers. Now, don't get me wrong, I do get wet but sometimes it's PAINFUL! I feel bad telling him to lick his fingers (we're only 14... and I can't get actual lube). He's very new at doing things like this and I'm afraid that vy me telling him to lick his fingers, he'll get offended. I've already had my guy friend try to suggest it but he didn't get it. Is there any way I can bring this up w/o causing him to be offended?[/QUOTE]
Ifhe respects you and wants to please you he won't be offended at all. There is nothing wrong with communication to what you like. Either that or when you try and start something why not lick his fingers for him? Or show him how you like it done but masterbating in frount of him.
Those are my suggestions.
ive been with my girlfriend for a couple of months now and we get on really well and i want to take it one step further but i can never seem to get in a good position to finger her and kiss her at the same time can anyone help?
hmm well are u guys naked or at least pantless? hehe...ok well i find for me the best way is if u two are lying down, shes on her back and u lay next to her on ur side facing her. that way ur hand have easy access to everything. just kinda pull her towards u a little and u can caress her breasts, stomach, ass, legs, thighs, whatever while u are kissing her. then just maybe while ur hand is going down one leg slightly bend it up so that one is straight and one is bent. a little parting of the legs and u should be in a good position to let ur hand go down south...lol.
If you want to finger her without taking her panties off you should try letting her sit in your lap with her facing away from you. She can still turn her head so that you can kiss and you have good access to down below. Another advantage is that she will be squiring around a little if she is enjoying it and that is a nice little type of lap dance that she doesn't even realize she is doing. Or does she?
all depend on how your gonna do it, whether u slid ur finger in deeply, or just shallow, or even at all. i can bew done in nearly any position, and can depend on how flexible your hands are, when me and my girl first started going out, she sat in front of me, and that worked quite well cause u canthen tikle her ear, or kiss her neck, or such things, and another great favourite is standing against a wall (this very much depends how flexible your wrists are), and while chest to chest, kissing, with or without tongues, your hand can slip down her pants (sorry for all you americans, panties, im not refering to the item of clothing which you call pants or slacks, but which we call trousers), and have acces for shallow fingering, so long as your hand can twist around a bit, not a lot, just a LITTLE BIT.
hopes this helps
good luck
I've found that this works best on a couch towards the ends so you can lean. You, the boy, sits up with the girl horizontally lying down with her head on your lap. A variation on this is for her to move up a little bit, with your free hand cradling her. It makes it much easier to kiss. This works really well if you're keeping clothes on.
Another one is that if her pants are off, or halfway off, you can lay her on her back, and you can hold yourself up over her, and finger her, and kiss her at the same time but that one's a little harder.
Pants on or off, I think the best way is the girl on her backone leg straight and the other bent with the guy on his side. Sometimes I like to put my bent leg around my boyfriend. After that I'd go for the girl on her back and the guy kneeling over her with one leg wrapped around his ankle and the other his neck, but you gotta be comfortable with your legs contorted for that I guess.
I find that the best way to do this is for the girl to be lying down and the man to lay on top of her, kissing her and slowly move your hand down and then you can do both at the same time.
If it is possible to use the bed, it makes for the most comfort...have your g/f lay on her side and you can lay behind her..(spooning)....you can reach over her and be able to finger her and play with her clit. This also allows you to be able to whisper in her ear or kiss her on the neck....
just one quick reminder: if we are showing signs of liking what you're doing (heavier, faster, harder, breathing, moaning, whimpering...whatever), then don't change...faster isn't always better but harder will do...and even though orgasm is most easily brought on by certain sports such as the g-spot and the clit, don't ONLY concentrate on those...maybe you can mix it up like stimulate those, but other parts at the same time!!
Interesting. I have noticed that the left side of my clitoris (my left) seems more sensitive than the right, but I always assumed that was somthing unique to me.
Fingering and oral are a self taught art - differs girl to girl. i have found out that if you take time and rub her mound of pussy hair for a while they tend to warm up.gentle pressure on the mound and move your hand around - star at the bottom of her stomach use your whole hand almost like a massage on the outside of her pussy. then slide your middle finger over her clit to the actual hole and move it in and out like a swinging door that is attached at the top - just barely catch the bottom of the hole as you going in very shallow strokes in and out. she should be or getting pretty wet by now - now try sticking a finger or two in her and if you can change positions so your head is at her feet turn you hand palm up and insert your finger try to find a spot or rough surfice on the inside of her on the outer wall - with any luck you will have found her G-Spot massage it gently. circular or up and downj motion on the spot should get her pretty hot.Don't get upset if you don't find it the first time some are smaller than others and maybe hard to find but when you do both of you will know. as far as oral goes - spread her pussy lips and expose the clit or the clit hood your objective her is to massage the clit with your warm and wet tongue - you may have to get under the hood of the clit depending on her level of excitement - just gently move the foreskin/hood around. massage her pussy lips with your thumb and fore finger there are lots of nerve endings in the lips that we males don't pay much attention to or forget to. the whole pussy region is full of nerve endings that when stimulated adds to the pleasure. I'm sure Brandye can comment on all of the technical stuff - and i'm sure girlygirl-sexgodess and xx22xx can comment on how they would like a male to approach their genitals. Good luvk and let us know how it works out or in as the case maybe
aright...start to finish as you wish...start out with kissing/making out and holding each other...make it seem like you're NOT in it JUST for the hookup, make sure she's relaxed and where you're somewhere that no one's going to walk in/see you. then as you're making out, shift into a position that it will be easy access for you and comfortable for her...take your time, and make sure you run your hands over every part of her body, especially the inside of her thighs and her chest, to make sure she'll be wet when you actually get to fingering her. the easiest way is obviously with her pants off, but assuming this is her first time too, she may not be very comfortable not having most of her clothes on in front of you. and assuming that, then i found that one of the easiest ways for both guy and girl is for the guy to be sitting up (this works best on a couch type thing) and leaning back with the girl laying down (horizontally obviously) with her head/mostly the upper body in the guys lap...this girl has her knees bent with her legs spread, and her pants only need to be unbuttoned it's a turn on if the girl starts with her legs together and the guy slides his hands in between her thighs and rubs her entire 'area' over her pants. then he unbuttons her pants and undoes the zipper/whatever (we're not going to think you're retarded if you need both hands to undo our pants, cuz we do to) so anyway, then repeating rubbing her entire area over her panties, then finally doing it without anything in between your hand and her. i found that it feels best if the guy then VERY slowly slides one finger between the lips, and puts it inside just a little, enough to get it wet, press it gently on her as you pull out, and keep moving upwards until you feel her clit...then circle it. after you do that, put your finger back inside of her, and move it in and out slowly for maybe a minute or so, and try and spread her 'wetness' around her entire area so if you rub a different way it won't be dry and hurt her. then she should be wet enough that you can put two fingers in, possibly three but don't push it, remember to watch her body language, if she's arching her back or rasing her hips, she likes it a lot. so when you have the 2 (possibly 3) fingers inside of her, it feels better to go a little faster (in and out), just don't be rough and don't ignore her clit...teasing it feels realllllllly good. and if u've been doing it for awhile, then pull your hand out of her pants, and rub her outside of her pants, then go back in to give you and her a rest for a little while. in the future, being in this position will be good for you because her head and hands are in easy reach of guess what!! your dick!! so all you need to do is just take her hand and put it on your dick, over your pants to start, and show her how to rub it...and then for oral sex a little later on, all you have to do is roll her head to the side, and it's easy for her to swing around to being in front of you on her knees.........good enough??
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