hi i got fingered for the 1st time yday..i was rlly worried he wudnt like the way i looked but it was a good experience and i'm glad i got over my anxiety about it. he got me really wet - he is quite advanced tho lol!
however, he stimulated right on top of my clit and that was really intense - it was a combination of pain and something else - i cudnt work out if i liked it!?! i kept flinching wich i guess shows that i was reaching orgasm, but how do i tell him not to massage directly on top of it without sounding ungrateful!? lol...do ne other girls agree massaging directly on top of the clit is a bit too intense?? 
uncreativename
[QUOTE=Quote (lilly2279 @ Mar. 25 2005,10:07)]Oh you'll KNOW when you orgasm!!! Trust me. If you're just not sure if you did or not, then you didn't.
The feeling of an orgasm is soo hard to describe. let's all try.. lol.
Here is my version.. It's like this sudden rush or wave or intense good feeling - like a release. Like kind of how you know how good it feels when you're able to sneeze??
You are definitely going to need to experience an orgasm by yourself. So you know what kind of touch is going to bring you to orgasm. He is probably being a bit too rough for your delicate clitoris. If he's a bit more gentle, you may achieve easier.
Good luck. This is a fun adventure for you![/QUOTE]
i see...well i know what one feels like 4 me cuz i've tried on my own, but i think mayb what he did was too intense 4 me as u said. i will try out diff things with him to find out what is nicer for me lol! thnx 4 ur post!!
uncreativename
Oh you'll KNOW when you orgasm!!! Trust me. If you're just not sure if you did or not, then you didn't.
The feeling of an orgasm is soo hard to describe. let's all try.. lol.
Here is my version.. It's like this sudden rush or wave or intense good feeling - like a release. Like kind of how you know how good it feels when you're able to sneeze??
You are definitely going to need to experience an orgasm by yourself. So you know what kind of touch is going to bring you to orgasm. He is probably being a bit too rough for your delicate clitoris. If he's a bit more gentle, you may achieve easier.
Good luck. This is a fun adventure for you!
[QUOTE=Quote (Laria @ Mar. 23 2005,09:34)]that happened to me too, its seems like as it is a very sensible part it has to be manipulated soft and gently, but i guess that depends. tell him that you would like to try it slowly and softly and if you like that tell him you liked it more, remember that communication is important and the reason he is giving you that is because he wants you to enjoy, so i think he would appreciate you tell him
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thnx again! how do u know if you have an orgasm or not? i mean...is it just kind of tingling n slight sensation in your whole body or what? i can't work out if i had one last time or not
that happened to me too, its seems like as it is a very sensible part it has to be manipulated soft and gently, but i guess that depends. tell him that you would like to try it slowly and softly and if you like that tell him you liked it more, remember that communication is important and the reason he is giving you that is because he wants you to enjoy, so i think he would appreciate you tell him
[QUOTE=Quote (secretly_shy @ Mar. 20 2005,06:40)]Just say "mmm, that feels good, but you know what REALLY turns me on...." and then tell him about all the other bits he did that felt nice
he will feel such a stud cos he will then only be doing all the bits that feel lovely[/QUOTE]
thanks!
You're not going to sound ungrateful at all. Guys need you to tell them what you don't like and what you like. If you don't tell him that this isn't working for you he'll just keep doing it because as far as he knows you really like it. Just tell him well it hurts when you do that but I really like it when you do that and tell him something that felt really good to you. Believe me guys would be lost without our input. lol. And we girls would be lost without theirs as well.
Another way you could express to him what you like is to show him. Masterbate in front of him and show him what really gets you going. This has a couple benefits. For one it seems to be quite the turn on for a lot of guys. And another you're letting him see what feels good for you.
Just say "mmm, that feels good, but you know what REALLY turns me on...." and then tell him about all the other bits he did that felt nice
he will feel such a stud cos he will then only be doing all the bits that feel lovely