i lost my virginity last friday. i didn't bleed, so that was weird... i know people are gonna start going on about losing the hymen during sports, but i do not do sports. anyways, so we had sex five times in the span of two days, and everytime he inserts his penis i feel like a virgin again. it hurts a lot. but once it is in there, it feels much better. another weird thing about my sexual experience, once he started going in really deep .. i started getting really bad cramps. really, really bad cramps. idk if it's because he was hitting something that shouldn't be hit, but yeah.. also, i feel a slight discomfort when he pulls out. one more thing, and then i'm done.. lol.. i find trying any other position other than missionary impossible. this is really starting to frustrate the guy.. what do i do?
Thu, 04/09/2009 - 06:05
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finally lost my virginity!
Congrats,
Yes I didn't bleed either and I hate sports lol... I think mine was due to tampons and masturbation.
Anyhoo, relax... it only happened barely a week ago... still very new and fresh...so have plenty of time to practice new positions..etc. For now if missionary is what makes u feel comfortable..then the guy can have patience!!! lol
If he's going too deep...he could be bumping up against ur cervix. Just have to tilt ur hips/pelvis at different angles or try diff positions to see which ones cause less discomfort.
The cramping could be from that or the fact u are still a little nervous and tense...so the constant tensing of ur muscles is making them cramp up.
hope this helps
GL! :)
In just under a year you have gone from "I do not even know where my hole is" to trying three times with a b/f who could not get into you, to "vaginismus makes sense" to wondering why you have some pain after sex. In there somewhere you stated you had seen a gyn for an exam.
If you did experience vaginismus and have bee "cured," go back to the therapist who helped you and get some more advice. If you cured it on your own, you may have learned something that will help.
With your history of the last year, I would not attempt to diagnose without an exam and history.
i didnt bleed my 1st time i bleed my 3rd or 4th time but thr 1st time did hurt for me
Sex should not hurt.
Go see a gynecologist.
Send your boyfriend to this site so he improves.
i did not have any problem at first time and i recently lost my virginity.i absolutely enjoyed my first time.