You called? LOL

Okay here's the deal: get the ATTITUDE. Now it is ALL about you.
His likes and dislikes are of no concern of yours. His entire focus should be on pleasing you.

To begin check out this website: www.wickedwomangroup.us
It is not extreme BDSM but it will get you started and in the correct frame of mind.

Good luck!

Sure you can, and yes, we did talk about it after, he had no worries and gave up all control. I took this as an approach to allow him a stress free environment, but at the same time hoping that he would take this as a hint that I needed to be relieved of the same duties as wife and 'mother.' Just as he deserves the right to be....my lover.

I think he picked up on that because he mentioned that I was deserving of the same treatment...I allowed him to orgasm fully, whereas I refrained, allowing the build to continue for the next time around, I KNOW it will be GLORIOUS!

So, feel free to use my statement on the website if you so please, I am definitely going to do this again, infact it was requested...

I just wanted to say that I stumbled across this post yesterday and checked out the link that EEK put up.

I have always been assertive, and don't have ANY problems asking for what I want, I am by no means shy when it comes to things like that.

So in lieu of the issues that hubby and I have been dealing with, (details under the thread I created under Marriage and Long Term), I decided to read it through and give it a go....lastnight!

OMG! It was awesome, I had him melting under my fingertips, I have had him wimpering in the past but JESUS, he ate it right up. I asked before hand if he completely trusted me and informed him that I had a plan, when he came to bed lastnight, I basically just ambushed him. Thanks for the direction, I really be liking this form of satisfaction!

Yeah it is AWESOME! And if you spoke with him about it afterwards, I am sure you found that he felt exactly what the dommes of the Wicked Woman Group said he would feel. This is GREAT stuff, ladies!!

May we quote you on the wwg site?

Excellent!
I also counsel people to NOT always do power play but to go vanilla every now and again. When you're into the "spice" just doing it straight becomes exotic.

[QUOTE=slave_girl69;188566]My boyfriend and I are into extreme bondage and bdsm. I'm always the slave, but he said we should try a little femdom. I want to, and he wants me to...problem is, I need advice 'cause I'm not used to it, so I'm not very good at it...HELP!:([/QUOTE]

I have known many submissive men who dominate their female partner just to get the power exchange thing going in their sexual relationship, and then "suggest" what they really wanted in the first place: to be the submissive to a dominant woman. These guys are not even real switches, they are subs playing at being doms until they can manipulate a woman into giving them what they really want. I don't know if this is your situation, but I have seen this too many times not to pass on the cautionary note in case it describes your boyfriend.

EvilEvilKitten is absolutely right. It's all about attitude. If you naturally feel dominant and can take charge during power exchange play, here are two simple, easy safe scenes for a beginner. Don't worry about mastering the tools of the trade right away. Give him one scene per week - don't indulge him. Make sure to have a safeword like "robitussin" so that if either of you wants to stop the scene, you can use that safeword. "Stop" and "no" are bad passwords because they are commonly used to mean that you are enjoying sex. Robitussin is not a commonly used word, period.

1) Tell him to take his clothes off in the exact order you say. (Did I give you permission to talk? Not another word from you, boy!) Make him neatly fold his clothes and place them on the floor in a specific spot. Toss them in the air.(You call that neat? Fold them again!) Tell him to kneel. If he has bad knees, his clothes can be his knee cushion or else do a different scene. Tell him to put his arms behind his back and keep them there. Slowly circle around him as if you were inspecting a large cut of meat at a butcher shop. Demand that he masturbates to orgasm with the one hand. Tell him that you will not allow him to make eye contact with you. If you have a good spotlight or flashlight, direct the light on his penis while he masturbates.If he disobeys any of your orders at any time, tell him lie down on his stomach on the floor for up to five minutes (make sure he is uncomfortable) and leave the room without further comment. Tell him to kneel again when you return to the room. Make lecherous comments and sounds while he masturbates for your pleasure. If you have a good spotlight or flashlight at night, direct the light on his penis while he masturbates.

Make a big deal out of the mess he makes when he ejaculates, and make sure he cleans it up himself - and does a damn good job too. If he cannot ejacuate, tell him to perform oral sex on you for your pleasure while you stand and he kneels. Do not touch him at any point during the scene.
If he is enjoys humiliation, feel free to compare him with any animal that comes to mind. Most subs immediately lose interest in scening after their orgasm, so just tell him to get dressed quickly and watch him with your hands on your hips and a scornful expression on your face. After he is fully dressed, resume your everyday relationship.

2) Sit in a comfortable heavy duty chair. Order him to come to you and tell him to stand near your chair. Tell him that once again, he has been sent to you for punishment because apparently he cannot manage to behave himself for one single day. If he asks what he did or protests his innocence, refuse to hear him out. He knows EXACTLY what he did wrong. Tell him to unbuckle, unsnap, and unzip his trousers and pull them down but not off. Let him stand there for a few minutes looking foolish with his trousers wrapped around his ankles. Stare at the outline of his naughty bits through his underwear. Tell him to pull down his underwear slowly. Act alternately stern and delighted when he is fully exposed with his underwear down around his ankles. Now tell him, "Assume the position." There are several ways he may expose his naked butt to you - sitting, standing, bending over, etc. Whatever pose he assumes, use your nearest hand to gently slap one cheek of the buttocks. Gently slap the other cheek. Do not strike him anywhere near the spine! Then slap the first cheek a little harder than the first time. Same with the second cheek. Repeat back and forth on each cheek, slapping a little harder each time, until his cheeks are rosy pink. (BTW, This will hurt you more than it hurts him.) Every 5 or 6 slaps, you might want to allow your hand to "slip" onto his erotic hotspots: anus, perineum, testicles, and shaft. Gently stroke there for up to a minute, then return to slapping him gently on the cheeks. When you are done with the spanking, tell him to stand up straight. Ask him if he has learned his lesson. Tell him to thank you for disciplining him. Tell him to pull up his pants and get out of your sight immediately. When he is fully dressed, resume your everyday relationship.

BTDT's scenarios are a bit further along on the scale of femdom than those on the website recommended. You may want to try them after experiencing the milder scenarios on the website.

Robitussin is an excellent safe word! I'm still laughing in fact.

One thing I should point out it isn't just submissive men who enjoy this kind of play. In many ways, a man has to have "cojones" to do this. For example: at a vanilla social gathering, I and one of the whip-swinging sisters (gorgeous woman) were sharing a table and mild chit-chat. One of my men wandered over in time to hear her say she was going to leave. He asked her why and she said there was no one here for her. He asked what she wanted. Now this is a crowded bar/restaurant filled mostly with younger people. She said she wanted a man who'd get down on his knees and say "I love you, Mistress. Pleas take me home." Whereupon my fellow went down on his knees said the magic words while looking up at her and batting his eyelashes. She laughed and said "You're a smartass." And he said "Yes ma'am!" I had to agree - the man is a smartass. He is also a dominant male to all other women.