Now I know stress and everything is a huge killer to libido of the female body. My girlfriend and me used to have GREAT sex, we still do, but it's a lot rare to be as good as it used to be. And it's not that it's boring, it's she can't get horny anymore, i'd say a month ago was the last time maybe little more, but she got to the point where she REALLY wanted sex. Now, it's where it sounds good so she has to watch a porno to get her "kind of" in the mood. So my question is simple, is there anyway to help her out? She wants to be back like she used to, where sex was amazing cause she says I havn't changed at all. Any vitamins or diet plans or anything that someone could suggest to help her out would be great!
Thanks!
Eating a good healthy diet, exercising regularly helps. If she cannot attribute the change to anything in particular she should see her doctor. Changes in libido also tends to fluctuate due to issues within the relationship. If you are not getting along particularly well, arguing, or distant; these all will effect libido. Medications also can do the same.
Yeah see it's none of those. She has given me her word (which I trust) that she is happy with me in most ways. And yeah, she is just too stubborn to go to the doctor, she doesn't exercise at all, eats healthy though.
I do swear by exercise. Whenever I feel changes in libido or energy in general, I make an effort to work out extra hard (cardiovascular and weight lifting) or just go out for a long walk in the sun (30 minutes). If nothing else can be the culprit; she should talk to her doc about it.
So I should suggest or start taking daily walks with her for like 20-30 min around the block?
I would! Nothing to loose and everything to gain! I find the better condition I keep my body in (physically) I am less tired, more ambitious, and the sex drive sky rockets. Part of it is being fit (physical) and the other half is feeling fit (mental)! Just start with walks, plus it's a good time to just talk, alone!
Vitamins also help and drinking enough fluids is essential - so after your walk, be sure to have her sit down, and relax while you bring her something to drink - as in water - cool but not iced or a sports drink like Full Throttle also cool but not iced. Drink slowly and think Aaaaah!
After you have cooled off, a nice massage!
Then you're on your own, buddy!
:) I appreciate it, i'm definitly going to have to try this! I really hope it does work because I don't want to become one of those sexless relationships :-P
walking is a good time for talking so you'll get some exercise and be able to discuss anything she might have going on to upset her system or anything she's worried about
Yeah good call there, even though I don't believe she has anything. She has been bummed as hell recently, she just lost her father and her best friend but this has been happening for awhile which is why I don't completely believe it's stress.
you mean it started before she lost her dad and friend or after ?
Before, i'd say a few months before all that happened.
after I work out I am always in the mood for sex. I guess its the endorphins. Ortherwise I don't know. I get horny easily.
Has she went on any new medications recently including birth control pills? If so, she may want to check the side effects of those drugs and if lower sex drive is one of the side effects, have her talk to her doctor about possibly changing her medication but make sure that she does not stop taking or change her medication without consulting her doctor first.
Nah she got off BC quite awhile ago, and is on no other medication.
where there other family problems going on ? I mean how did she loose them ?
Father to natural causes and her friend to a drunk driver.