I wasn't sure which forum this should go in, but here goes. I'm a girl who masturbates by holding a hand held massager in between my legs. The massager doesn't actually work anymore (it doesn't vibrate at all) but I still like the way it feels on me and most of the time I have no problems pleasuring myself this way. I don't actually penetrate or anything, just press it to myself. The thing is, I'm a virgin and really inexperienced and I don't know if I'm actually having a "real" orgasm or not. Getting off feels like climbing a hill and at the top of the hill I can either let myself release the energy or hold it back for a little while and then when I come or "go over the edge" it feels more intense. However, sometimes, although rarely, if I hold it back a little too long, I'll lose it. After doing this I feel really at peace and usually fall asleep. But sometimes when I'm coming I feel the hint of something even MORE amazing that I have never quite been able to get to. It's like maybe I would need penetration to get to that. But is there a difference between "coming" the way I do and having an orgasm? Is what I experience an orgasm or am I missing it?
Tue, 12/01/2009 - 01:14
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Female masturbation question
From your description you are having an orgasm. There are different types pf orgasm brought on by playing with/manipulating different parts of the female anatomy. The clitoral orgasm is one of the most powerful, and requires no penetration to achieve (in fact, penetration has rarely anything to do with it.) I'm sure by the level of pleasure and sensation you are describing that you already know you're having one ;) They're quite hard to miss.
sounds like you're on the right track, and no, penetration will not necessarily help you to hit a further peak.
Please review the post The Four Hotspots. If he's any good, and if you are willing and aroused while relaxed - yes, you can orgasm during penetration.
Although orgasms come in different "sizes" and "textures" - they are all orgasms no matter how induced.
Yes, you are orgasming!
Long may you do so!!
I'm a 22 year old virgin, by the way. I guess I should mention that. I didn't know it was that easy to orgasm. They're wonderful, but I always thought that there was something bigger and even better that I was missing. I mean, I've never needed to cry out or anything. One night I managed to build up to climax three times, but that's the best I've ever done. Typically it's only one. The last time I tried, it was pretty much a dud, although there still seemed to be a very small, dissapointing climax. Probably because I was rushed at the time. Typically I have no problems. If the vibrator actually WORKED, I'd be having one after another. I just never bought a new one. I always found it strange that I don't feel any pleasure from touching or rubbing the clitoris myself. Actually, I usually end up with pain if I touch it. I also wondered: how come sometimes when I'm feeling really turned on and getting wet before masturbating, I feel almost a sort of pain down there? It doesn't happen all that often, and it's a nice pain rather than a bad pain, but it seems odd and I didn't know if other people ever get that.
I can give myself a clitoral one w/ a vibe in like under a minute.. its not that hard.
Orgasm through sex for me takes a lot longer to build up but the end result is more intense.
I guess the combo of foreplay, penetration and clitoral stimulation makes it feel a bit different but both are good in their own way :)
What you are describing is having an orgasm. We women sometimes have intense, earth-shaking orgasms and sometimes no more than a deep sigh. They can be equally satisfying. Do not jump too quickly on how easy it is. Most of us have less difficulty alone than with a partner. The major thing is that you have made that first leap.
As for the vibrator simply being there but not working, we all have little rituals that help us along, whether alone or with a partner. My first orgasm came during my period whilst wearing a pad. When the period ended, I would use a stuffed toy to simply hold between my thighs. To this day, I often sleet with a small pillow between my legs. Usually it is simply there; sometimes it gets a workout.
You will find great ideas all around this site and may want to check clitical.com.
Depina, instead of being shy and hanging out here in this thread - read the Index and get into some of the articles. Also look into anatomy and the effects of sex upon the human body and brain.
Everything you are experiencing is perfectly normal.
The pain in the clitoris is sensitivity due to your brain not being used to the increased level of stimulation. We have covered this topic and told how this is overcome many times before. Cramping or tension in your muscles -also covered.
Bigger and better that you're missing? Yes, but for that you need a partner,a skilled and intimate partner.