She may just be one of those women who needs the added stimulation. No big deal. I'm that way myself.

Try giving her an orgasm or five ( ;) ) by hand or mouth before she climbs on and you penetrate.

That's how T and I do it. Once he's in and we've been going, he will usually start with a finger on my clit as he's about to climax, just to give me a little more. Then I rest laying on top of him for a minute or two with him still inside me, and I usually end up getting greedy and rubbing my clit against him a little more before I climb off.

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Please read the articles in the Index on this problem. The Cowgirl/Woman Superior position is one of very few that place a woman's "pieces-parts" in close constant contact with a man's pubic mound sufficient to generate the required friction. So, what most fellas do for all the other positions is to reach around and finger the clitoris and labia while stroking away.

> She is only 21 so we find it very odd that she has a hard time having an orgasm.

It's not rocket science or a problem of physiology; it is mechanics. So, the key is to learn to be a better "mechanic" so to speak and you do this in part by understanding the information, above.

Please keep in mind that relationships are built on having good communication and feedback. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, it is what we do with and for each other. We give in order to receive, not take to get. Feedback is very important because none of us are mind readers. So let each other know how you are responding to kisses and caresses and for what you need now/next.

There is much more on all this in the articles as well as information on how to touch the clitoris and for what to do when it becomes too sensitive to touch directly.

Question: How long do the two of you spend fooling around and making out before ever getting to the foreplay stage? If it is less than half an hour, then you are hurrying much to fast. The why of this is also discussed in an article. It is extremely important to arouse each other to the brink of an orgasm, first, before moving on to intercourse.

The "mechanics" mentioned above has to do with technique and understanding how to touch each other. Please do some reading and all will be revealed to you.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

You find it odd that someone with limited experience finds it difficult to orgasm? We don't. Please think again. Most of the questions we get regarding "orgasm issues" come from younger women.

Once you fully arouse a woman there is no part of her body that isn't erogenous. So it is a question of getting her fully aroused to the point where she'll orgasm if you just mention sex let alone engage in sex.

Next point, she has 4 hotspots, the clitoris, the G-Spot, the naterior fornix and the posterior fornix. Only the clitoris is extrenal. Once the physical hardware has been connected to the software (her brain) these hotspots become active. Remember she doesn't have to orgasm to have children so women have not evolved with these connections hardwired in as they have been in men.

There are several articles you should read:

The Four Hotspots
BodyWorship How to
The Program

Learn all you can and become a 'better mechanic' then just practice, practice, practice.