Birth contorl... I am on it, but I am sure that my boyfriend and I use a condom as well.. Its supposed to be 99% effective but I know many people that have gotten preg on just the pill, for example, two of my aunts. I was raised to always use to forms, and I STRONGLY advise all of you to too... It may not feel as good with a condom... but after you see the kid coming out of there as a result of no condom, you wont want anything to do with that area again!

[QUOTE=Quote (Brandye @ Oct. 12 2005,07:04)]I appreciate your comment Oberon and wish more men thought that way. I dealt with my share of jerks who wanted to "just stick it in bare." All life is a risk including female sexuality. We handle it differently at different stages and I am always happy to see on these boards a young man using a condom even though his g/f is on the pill.[/QUOTE]
Thanks, Brandye. I've always admired your straight forward attitude. Too bad MY views on female sexuality will never be put to practical use. LMAO.

I've always thought women got the lion's share of the responsibility when it comes to sex. I can relate to men wanting to be unresponsible. Sometimes it can be difficult to explain to gay men that the condom is as much for THEIR protection as it is mine. I think if I were female I'd be in a constant state of panic. LOL. I'd probably insist on every one of those "layers" that you mentioned.

[QUOTE=Quote (LittleFury @ Oct. 12 2005,10:47)]On the other hand, if I was a guy, I maybe wouldn't trust the girl to really take it, or to take it properly. TOo many cases when girls get pregnant on purpose. I would always use a condom until you are absolutely sure a girl wouldn't pull something like that. Not saying all of us are like that, but some are and it's better to be more careful.[/QUOTE]
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With much pain and sorrow I have to totally CONCUR with Little Flurry ..  14yrs into our marriage my ex decided to go onto the "pill", well about a year and half later she says she is pregnant(we already had 3), after much talking I find out from her that she didn't "always" take it or she would inadvertently "throw-them-up" due to a WHOLE different set of problems I didn't know about!!...I just spent the past 9 yrs of my life doing everything I could to avoid EVER having sex with her...I lost complete trust in ANYTHING she said, I totally understand what these people talk about here with regards to "not being able to perform"...it could be underlying emotional nagging that causes this..all I can say is that EACH PERSON in the relationship must be responsible for BC if you are NOT planning to PRO-CREATE. Nothing is 100% but it doesn't hurt to have BOTH sharing the BC responsibilities...it takes the PRESSURE off the back of your mind...and you can ENJOY sex...not worrying about all the other societal expectations   Spare yourself the PAIN and GUILT...take RESPONSIBILITY and do the right thing...which is PROTECT yourself...you OWE it to yourself...PeaceOut

PS: we were going thru the abortion route but she miscarried and I believe it was from the stress..anyways,,,it totally stressed our relationship/marriage,it didn't get better ...missed the 25yr mark by 2 yrs.....life rolls on...

On the other hand, if I was a guy, I maybe wouldn't trust the girl to really take it, or to take it properly. TOo many cases when girls get pregnant on purpose. I would always use a condom until you are absolutely sure a girl wouldn't pull something like that. Not saying all of us are like that, but some are and it's better to be more careful.

Oberon, especially, and the rest. You touch upon a reality of being female: if we wish to have a heterosexual life, risk is inherent. With any homonal system used correctly for one year by 100 women, three will become pregnant. If STD is an issue, then condoms MUST be used.

Every sexually active woman in the world has some anxiety over her period every month - scared she won't get it most of the time and disappointed when she wants to have a baby. With about 400 periods during our fecund years, we learn to live with it. That is the maturity that is required to be comfortable with sex. A sixteen year old loses much of her innocence sweating out her period. By 26, she is accustomed to it and probably knows what she will do.

At sixteen, on the pill, a condom is a way to lower the chances to roughly nil. I would support that. At 26 in a stable relationship, how safe do we want to be? Pill + IUD + diaphragm + female condom + condom and then ask our partner to withdraw?

I appreciate your comment Oberon and wish more men thought that way. I dealt with my share of jerks who wanted to "just stick it in bare." All life is a risk including female sexuality. We handle it differently at different stages and I am always happy to see on these boards a young man using a condom even though his g/f is on the pill.

Effective, yes... but if I were female, I wouldn't trust it completely. I believe the effectiveness rating is like 98%... and birth control pills/shots/patches don't do anything to prevent STDs.

I suppose it depends on how badly you don't want to be a parent, but I'd take all the precautions that were available.

Well. Led, you need to look around, too. Hormonal contraception (what is being called female birth control here, is about five times more effective than condoms alone. Condoms used with vaginal spermicide almost catch up in effectiveness. Considering that the pill is the most popular form of birth control in the world for women between about 18 and 30, it has to be effective.

i dont kno if I would trust it either. I have wondered about this too.

Everything you need to know is on the site. Look in Chick Chat for specifics on effectiveness. The seidebar section on birth control has ideas as well.

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