Ok, me and my girlfriend have been together over 7 months now, we have been having sex for 4 of those in which we lost our virginity to each other.. next month, we are going to a prom together which is held at a hotel and we have booked a room for the evening..
now i have told my girlfriend to expect a surprise on this evening as i am trying to plan somethin quite special. we have both agreed to surprise each other with a little something on the evening, i happen to know she has bought some sexy underwear for the night and she has hinted to me the idea of going comando which i dont mind doing...
now i want this night to be the best night of her life and arranging so that when we go to the room when the evening is over, the bed will be covered in rose petals, there will be a bottle of champagne on ice for the two of us and before the night is over i plan to also surprise her with performing oral sex for the first time on her...
i am thinking of taking contol of all the sex (not dominate but just take control) so she doesnt have to do anythin, so i was thinking of perhaps getting a blindfold and some handcuffs just to add to the effect.. im not sure how she would take this or if she would like it... i dont want to ask her directly because it would ruin the surprise... can anyone offer any help??
Handcuffs and a blind fold make some women very uncomfortable, some have no issue with it. You have to bring up the issue before hand to discuss her feeling on being tied...trust me handcuffs are not all that comfortable, they hurt, and don't loose the key...silk ties or a scarf works better.
I love the handcuffs, but thats just me, the rose petals idea is romantic, and she is lucky to have a guy like you, if she has ever suggested anything in the past that she would like, now would be the time to try it out if you havent already, for a first time in light bondage, fluffy handcuffs (they dont hurt AS much but still do hurt slightly) or as Sera suggested Silk Ties
I love the idea of the rose petals and light bondage is great - but you are kind of mixing two different moods - romantic and adventurous, know what I mean?
And if you're not sure whether or not she's dig the handcuffs, it's not a great idea to just throw it at her... you may want to start with something less harsh, like a couple of pretty scarves... make sure you have scissors close by and make sure you pick a great safety word just in case she gets freaked out and wants you to stop... My safety word is "Dick Chenney" because nothing kills the mood more that the thought of HIM! If you want some tips in bringing up the idea of bonding over bondage...you can read more about it in my book...
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Your plan is OK up to the point of bondage. I would never recommend that you do this so early in your relationship. It can take a great deal of time in order for a person to become comfortable with the relationship and to establish trust. Besides, the prom is a romantic affair, bondage is not that romantic--just animalistic. Wait a few months and then talk to her about it.
Yeah, that seems kind of daring.
In MY opinion with all the girls i've been with that i've tried to do something romantic with, if you start romantic, keep it that way.
The rose pedal, and maybe even taking a bath together, this i've found opens a girls head to a very light, but sensual mood. If you are going to do all the romantic things, like everyone else has said, just try to have a romantic love making, and believe me, JUST because you are making love doesn't mean you have to be gentle.
I LOVE being rough while making love, I just constantly give her long passionite kisses, running my finger down here side, and it never fails.
Just some suggestions. GOOD LUCK!
Bondage? You've been having sex for 4 months and ALREADY you're moving onto kink? What's your hurry?
You do not know enough about her yet to go there. How do I know? Because you're in here asking us to validate your plan. If you knew her, then you'd know whether she'd enjoy this or that and you'd have no need to ask.
Try this instead. No trappings, no rose petals, no toys - forget the baggage. Just you and her - begin cuddling, move onto body worship using your hands, your lips, your mouth, the length of your body and caress all of her body slowly until she's so aroused she cannot stand it, then move onto manual stimulation and cunnilingus, give her a clitoral orgasm, then a G- Spot orgasm and then, finally, enter her while wearing a lubed up condom, and find the third spot down and back in the vagina and give her an orgasm by caressing there with your penis. Then you can have an orgasm. Cuddle afterwards.
Then do it all over again only this time from behind.
Got all of that?
I am going to write all that down!
What can I say but that it works superbly well and for either partner to do to the other?
I know, you thought I only got men because I'm cute - huh?
What is the "find the third spot down and back in the vagina and give her an orgasm by caressing there with your penis"? Me and my girlfriend as far as I know have fantastic sex, unless she rushes things, and I can't get it up, it takes me a bit to get in the mood... ANYWAYS, I love pleasuring her in ways she can only imagine, so what is this you're tlaking of?
Are you two old enough to drink? If you're not used to alcohol then you might want to pass on the champagne because it would probably make you sick and ruin the experience.
And here you thought you knew everything *chuckling*.
This is the kind of detail you miss if you rush past subtle straight sex and plunge right into kink. Learning these details means you have to focus upon her.
What happens if I do this? Is kissing the corner of her eye a turn on? How about kissing the inside of her wrist or the instep of her foot? During penetration or as part of foreplay/body worship?
Clitoris, G-Spot, 3rd spot. Find them and try differing ways of stimulating them that work for her.
Paying attention to details such as these will make your skills mindblowing and will keep her eager for more.