After I masturbate and I've came, I feel "dirty" not like I need to go wash but I really need to get the cum away, wash my penis and make sure I get as much of the cum away as possible so theres no excess, I quickly close any porn I might've been looking at as well, is this natural?
Thu, 09/13/2007 - 20:29
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Feeling Dirty after masturbating?
I have had a similar "view" when i was younger. When i would masterbate, afterwards id feel like disgusted with myself....i realized it was that i would be thinking about people who i wanted to hook up with, but afterwards i wanted to be as far away from them as possible. It took about 6 months before this feeling went away.
> is this natural?
It is not normal; although, it is not clear to me exactly how you perceive dirtiness.
> After I masturbate and I've came, I feel "dirty" not like I need to go wash but I really need to get the cum away, wash my penis and make sure I get as much of the cum away as possible so theres no excess
Please correct me if I have misinterpreted what you mean. From what I gather, you do not believe yourself to have become physically dirty by the fact that some semen has fallen on your skin, rather, that you seem to be fastidious. If true, then you recognize that your skin is not dirty, although your personality is excessively scrupulous or sensitive and concerned about appearance, and attention to details. If this is true, then I'd say you should have a professional evaluate you. It may not be OCD, however, the obsessiveness of your thoughts seems out of balance with the norm.
On the other hand, if you just mean you want to clean up because you have a puddle of sticky stuff on your skin and residual on your penis, then what is wrong with wanting to wipe up and wash off? Nothing. Absolutely normal.
> I quickly close any porn I might've been looking at as well, is this natural?
This behavior doesn't quite sound normal to me. My question to you is what conflicts do you have with masturbation? Are you torn between the compulsion of having to do it and/or wanting to do it for fun and pleasure; and, what morality may have been ingrained into your upbringing by parents or religious teachings?
Please feel free to provide some additional information or insight.
For example, I'll masturbate, then after I've came I close down any porn pages, clear my history on my computer and go into the toilet and make sure I get as much of the semen away as I can, by doing something like masturbating, but slowly and with a more firm grip so the last bits of semen come out from my penis and I wipe that away with toilet roll.
I also hate the smell of semen and need to make sure I dont smell it at all.
I didn't experiance any religious up-bringing, never bothered with any religion at all if it helps.
[quote=bboy01;193410]For example, I'll masturbate, then after I've came I close down any porn pages, clear my history on my computer and go into the toilet and make sure I get as much of the semen away as I can, by doing something like masturbating, but slowly and with a more firm grip so the last bits of semen come out from my penis and I wipe that away with toilet roll.
I also hate the smell of semen and need to make sure I dont smell it at all.
I didn't experiance any religious up-bringing, never bothered with any religion at all if it helps.[/quote]
Have you ever discussed this with a therapist? Do you exhibit these traits (cleansing/purging your area or something you own) on any other subject matter?
No, just what Ive discussed here.
[quote=bboy01;193456]No, just what Ive discussed here.[/quote]
The entire experience of feeling dirty is what concerns me especially when you mention the smell is disgusting to you; meanwhile, you attempt to rid yourself of all traces (even physically)...do you have someone to talk to? I ask b/c some of the rituals you are describing are seen in individuals who have been chastised that sex is dirty or have been abused in the past (some do not recall it).
What do you do when you have sex? the same thing?
Immediately wash off any reminants of her and you???
this may depend on what you have been taught from a young age..if someone in your family/ friend/school has taught you masturbation is dirty and wrong it might manifest itself this way. you have to teach yourself that it's totally normal and natural and healthy.
i disagree with mostly everybody here.
he loses all drive and motivation. im pretty sure that is what is supposed to happen. ive read these kinda posts all over the place, with young people complaining about this. Once they are done, they kinda think "why did i do that" and then go clean up and stuff.
Flames...
There is some psychological significance in the ritualistic behavior; purging processes, and the despise of scent.
[QUOTE=demonbuttercup;193458]What do you do when you have sex? the same thing?
Immediately wash off any reminants of her and you???[/QUOTE]
Virgin here :p
[QUOTE=sera300;193457]The entire experience of feeling dirty is what concerns me especially when you mention the smell is disgusting to you; meanwhile, you attempt to rid yourself of all traces (even physically)...do you have someone to talk to? I ask b/c some of the rituals you are describing are seen in individuals who have been chastised that sex is dirty or have been abused in the past (some do not recall it).[/QUOTE]
Ive never been abused, nor have I been taught that masturbation is wrong, etc..
[QUOTE=flames068;193485]i disagree with mostly everybody here.
he loses all drive and motivation. im pretty sure that is what is supposed to happen. ive read these kinda posts all over the place, with young people complaining about this. Once they are done, they kinda think "why did i do that" and then go clean up and stuff.[/QUOTE]
I think this is the most logical answer to my situtation, just needed to know I wasnt the only one..
Perhaps you just are not 100% comfortable with your sexuality yet...
Sera i think you may have hit the nail on the head...i remember when i would masturbate and i actually ejaculated (first time) and i found it really...well...gross. i did the exact same stuff as bboy. except this feeling went away and i started masturbating more lol. but i had to get comfy with it.