sex with new partner

[Lani Jones]

I have a new boyfriend and I have had sex with two other boyfriends. How do I know when to have sex with him (he's a virgin, but is open to whenever I'm comfortable)? I'm tempted to wait until he says "I love you." but physically I'm ready now. Thoughts, feelings, opinions?

[dancingdoc2]

> I have a new boyfriend and I have had sex with two other boyfriends. How do I know when to have sex with him (he's a virgin, but is open to whenever I'm comfortable)?

Knowledge is empowering. I recommend waiting until the two of you, and especially your boyfriend, reads every article listed in the Index. The two of you should then discuss what each of you has read, then add the information to what each of you already knows. I suggest beginning with this article:

I'm Ready for SEX! (or am I?) I really want to do it.

> I'm tempted to wait until he says "I love you." but physically I'm ready now. Thoughts, feelings, opinions?

Second, please read the accompanying articles and those listed under this heading: SEX e.g. INTERCOURSE

The correct time is not so much when you are ready, it is when the two of you are ready, especially him. By reading the articles he will have much information from which to draw upon for that first time.

Relationships are partnerships, and this includes the romantic and sexual aspects, also. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other, together. Explore and learn together. Use the Woman Superior/Cowgirl position. Doing so will place you in control and relieve him of some worry and angst, especially since you know where P and V are and can deftly bring the two together saving him some possible fumbling, embarrassment, and worry.

Make certain that both of you are using a contraceptive, and, that you have a third back up. This means the pill or some other form of highly reliable contraception for you; a condom for him, and, a spermicide for both of you. If you do not know why, then you are not ready. Read more.

If you wish to be "lucky in love", then it is best to understand the definition of "luck". It is "when opportunity meets preparedness."

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

-doc